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People can't always be in a good mood, since there are setbacks and troubles in life, there will be negative emotions. A psychologically mature person is not a person who does not have negative emotions, but someone who is good at regulating and controlling his emotions. There are many ways to deal with emotions, but keeping an eye on them is the most important and crucial.
Most people are confused and miserable because they are unaware, they can't see themselves clearly, they can't understand others, so they are confused and uneasy. But looking at yourself is also the most difficult thing to do, because the ego is bigger than the sky, and it is difficult for you to let go and become humble. The source of negative emotions can be negative experiences, and it can also be said to be negative inertia, and the events that evoke your negative experiences are just borrowed catalysts.
If the emotions are beyond the scope of one's control, the best way is not to release or suppress them, but to do nothing, learn to focus first, because when the negative energy is too large, you may not even be able to bear it if you release it indiscriminately, and it is easy to affect others. Repression is absolutely impossible, because the source of the problem is repression. If you are disturbed, you must first fix your mind, take care of your emotions, disagree, don't judge, let it appear, put your feelings in your heart, and keep your eyes and tears in your eyes, and your breathing is still chaotic.
The heart is the largest emotional control center, and in order to stabilize emotions, we must start from the heart and learn the method of centering. As for the method, everyone has to find it on their own. There are many, many Dharmas, and the key is not in the Dharma, but in your intentions and willingness.
I believe that I have the ability to open up the sea and the sky. We have to be the masters of our emotions and refuse to be controlled. Emotions are not the same as events.
It is the emotions that move and break, not the events themselves. We just don't understand, we agree that I am the whole emotional state, asking for hardships, pleasing emotions and impulses, but losing ourselves. We can calm our emotions and stay awake and autonomous through self-control, which is mature mind management.
Self-control is not the same as repression, because the former is an action after awakening, and the latter is a reaction of disorientation. The so-called self-control is to learn a set of emotional processing methods suitable for yourself, once you see that you are attacked by emotions, you have to protect yourself immediately, remind yourself that it is just to use weakness to defeat the pure thinking inertia of reason, and find appropriate ways to disperse the concentration of negative emotions, such as exercise, meditation, yoga, watching movies, volunteering, creating, talking to confidants, doing a spa, dressing up, etc., to bring out all the positive energy. Helping oneself requires determination and perseverance, and it must be a path that is walked and completed alone, as well as a responsibility for growth.
Self-treatment is always the most practical and practical method of self-protection, and no one can rely on it.
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I can't control my temper, although I feel that I have done something wrong, but I will still get angry, causing the people around me to be dissatisfied with me, and I am also very annoyed with myself, how to regulate this kind of angry and irritable emotion? The following is a detailed explanation of how to help you sort out your irritability, and I hope you like the article. Strengthen outdoor sports On the one hand, my temper is irritable and irritable because I rarely participate in outdoor activities on weekdays, so when I have nothing to do, I am willing to think wildly, and I always put unnecessary pressure on myself, so I should be appropriate'Strengthen outdoor activities, make yourself healthy, and ensure a healthy body, so that the temper will be relatively relaxed.
Breathe more fresh air Sometimes, you like to smoke, make your room smoky, make your mood gone, your health is gone, take a breath of fresh air, so your mood will be much soothed, so you won't be so easily irritable. Don't stay at home The air at home is not well ventilated, and there are not so many people outside, it seems very dull, in such an environment, we always like to breathe and think, and we will always think about the bad side, so we make ourselves have a bad temper, when someone communicates with us, we vent this temper to each other, so don't stay at home all the time. More self-comfort and counseling People should learn to communicate with themselves, so that they can continue to self-comfort, even if they have suffered setbacks, self-comfort will also let their mood be relieved and channeled, so it is a good prescription to communicate with yourself, so that your temper will decline little by little after being at a peak, and will reduce your irritable emotions and prevent yourself from exploding.
Cultivate a hobby Hobby can be a good cultivation of sentiment, if you have talent, you can play basketball, play **, if the talent is not so high, you can raise fish, raise flowers, look at these little lives, you will find the greatness and natural mystery of life, will make your temper lower, will not be so easy to irritable. Listen more to soothing**** ** is the most able to cultivate your own sentiments, not only people who are easily angry, but also pregnant women, it is also very good to listen to light **, and it can also reassure the fetus, so it is easy to make people fall asleep and soothe their emotions, so that they will relax and not be so easy to be irritable. Communicate and chat with friends more When you are alone, a lot of dissatisfaction will accumulate more and more, so it is best not to let yourself be alone in a dark place, and find your friends and siblings to come out to parties and chat more, so that their words and deeds will also affect ourselves, and our emotions will be resolved, and we will naturally not be so irritable and irritable.
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