What should I do if I encounter a hated relative who always likes to compare myself to others?

I think if you meet this kind of person, don't talk to them too much, for this situation, the best solution is to avoid him, you can't see him out of sight and out of mind, if you want to give him a force, he will say that you are not sensible, and your parents will also criticize you, so the best way is to let him go, or you to avoid it.

I think in this case, first of all, you can have a face-to-face communication with them, tell them that each person has their own different strengths, and everyone also has disadvantages, and there is no need to compare, and secondly, if they are more resolute, you can go to the side and compare the differences between their children and other children.

I think the most important thing is for him to feel the same way. If he directly compares himself with others, you can also name some of the things that he is not comparable to others, and also compare it with other people from the side, which can not only solve the discomfort in his heart, but also scold back from the side.

I don't think there is any need to get angry with him or care about his comparison when I meet this kind of person, because this kind of person is generally very lacking in self-confidence and has no ability, and will only compare his strengths with the weaknesses of the other party. This is how to find comfort for the soul. So I don't think there's anything to be angry with this kind of person, they're just extremely boring idlers.

I think the best way is for those relatives to experience the feeling of themselves or the people in their own family being compared by others, and when he says that he compares himself to others, he can also say some comparisons between himself and other relatives, which is not only tactful, but also very effective.

Hello, happy to answer this question for you, dear.

My relatives hate me, what should I do? Why do relatives hate you? Is it because you don't have anything that makes them worthy of joy, or which party Yuxun is not good for relatives?

In fact, you are not bad, but you need to improve yourself, everything depends on yourself, don't rely on relatives, no one in this world is perfect, you can't do everyone like you, but you must improve yourself at the age of one, there is such a saying is very right, poor in the downtown no one asks, rich in the mountains have distant relatives, if you have the ability, relatives will hate you? So, don't expect relatives to like you, how about it? In fact, I personally think that it is completely up to you, as for whether your relatives like you or not, it is their business, and it has nothing to do with you, he likes you, you can go twice, don't go if you don't like it, stay away from them, stay away from people who hate yourself, and strive to improve yourself is the only way, I hope I can help you, dear.

It's not just a nuisance.

Just be mindful of what you say and do, sometimes be polite, don't be too weird, or too exaggerated.

Don't be someone else's red rose, just your own sunflower.

But in fact, it is not the young people who hate relatives in their hearts, but the following kinds of relatives, which each of us hates.

1.Wanton invasion of other people's space.

Older generations may not understand the importance of private space because they live in difficult conditions and are generally not highly educated. Psychological needs are more focused on survival, and less on spiritual needs.

So, sometimes, they care more about your salary, your partner, your grades than your parents. But for many young people, this has violated their private boundaries, and when a person's private boundaries are violated, they must be in a state of psychological instability.

So, when you wantonly interfere in other people's lives in the name of relatives, don't blame others for gradually alienating you.

2.Compare and envy each other.

Some relatives usually don't come and go much, but the psychology of comparison is very heavy, once they meet, they must be compared. "Hate people, laugh at people", "Afraid of people's blessings, hope that people are poor", you are doing well, they are jealous, you are not good, they laugh.

In fact, there are quite a few relatives of this type. Over time, it will naturally make young people choose to stay away.

3.Good teacher.

There are always some elders who think that although they have not succeeded in the game of life, they have experienced the levels of the game and have experience, so they have a say in the juniors, but they don't know that the rules of the game have long been changed.

While the world has undergone earth-shaking changes in the past 20 years, many older generations have not kept up with the pace of the world. But there is a kind of arrogance in their hearts: I don't know how to live a few more decades?

Because you are a relative, you can't refute it, so you will naturally feel pain in your heart and gradually become bored.

This should be understandable, since now some relatives are annoying themselves. When you are better off than him, she will be jealous of you, but at the same time he will also cater to you, but when you are worse than him, he will not only not help you, but also hurt you verbally, so we can also make a screening of relatives, really kind relatives, that is worth cherishing, but if the relatives with bad conduct, then we can stay away from him, so there is no need to force it.

This is normal, the purpose of many strange relatives "going to relatives" is to show off that they are better than you, and at the same time they are very critical of you, or all kinds of moral kidnapping in the name of loving you, and give you a lot of brainless advice.

Strange relatives don't need to move around much, if they come to your house, your parents will naturally deal with it, you just hide in your room and play on the computer, it's a big deal to make them think that you are more autistic, your reputation is not important, the important thing is that you don't have more contact with your strange relatives.

To tell the truth, wait for the older generation to slowly ......In the future, we young people will not run to relatives all day and night.

Just make an excuse not to go to a relative's house, or find an excuse to go to the supermarket to buy a drink when a relative comes to the house, or go to a friend's house if there is something to do. As long as you are not afraid of your relatives saying bad things about you behind your back, anything can be solved. If any relative really buries you behind your back, you will go back.

This society is "distributed according to trouble", don't be afraid!!

Above, hope it will be useful to you.

If you say what you like and what you hate, then there are only two reasons, congenital and acquired. There is a good saying, seeing old at the age of three refers to the innate character, some people are introverted and unsociable, and some people are extroverted and cheerful and lively. I think you should be a combination of both, introverted and not talkative, and acquired for various reasons that cause you not only to not love, but even to the point of disgust.

In view of this, I hope that you can open your heart, put yourself in the shoes of others, or put yourself in the shoes of others, find the cause and solve the problem, and slowly heal.

They all hate it, who doesn't hate it, relatives are snobbish, love vanity, when you soar, they flatter, when you are poor, they fall into the well!

What is the reason for that, it's impossible to hate someone for no reason. If it's a relative, it's still understandable. If you just hate it for no reason, that's probably your problem.

It's not a problem you hate, it's caused by a generation gap between you and them, and you don't have a common language, you can try to talk to them about a topic to alleviate it.

It seems that you are a person who does not recognize your six relatives. How do people like you relate to others in society? Closeness, distance, and proximity can't all be hated. People live in a big family, and having relatives is inevitable.

I hate my relatives very much, and the reason may be that you and your relatives are not in communication and contact, and the distance produces a sense of alienation.

Relatives are not used to hate, relatives rely on each other to move around, since you are courting relatives, then it is better to move around less.

Hello, I personally think it's the personality that influences you, and the more introverted people are like this.

Because you are better off than your relatives. Assuming that a relative is powerful, your attitude may not be the same.

Because maybe your family doesn't get along well with those relatives, and the relatives may look down on you.

1.My colleague didn't offer to drive me home, I didn't speak.

2.My colleague offered to take me home, and I didn't sit on the way.

3.I often work overtime until late at night, and I am afraid to go home alone. Will solve this common problem on their own.

4.Ask others for help, others have the right to refuse, and you must be mentally prepared for rejection.

What you want to express in your description: special time, I am afraid, and my colleagues suggest it, so I ask for help, and the "reason" is full. As a result, my colleague did not agree happily, and did not achieve the expected result, which was very embarrassing.

Is there any empathy, why are colleagues reluctant:

1.In the middle of the night, the male colleague didn't feel good.

2.Not by the way.

3.There are other activities.

4.I'm afraid that there will be two if there is one.

5.The relationship isn't good enough to send you home.

6.Don't want to take the risk of accidents.

There's nothing wrong with a male colleague thinking this way, right?

I often work overtime until late at night, and the inconvenience of going home is caused by the company, and I also choose to do this job. It's not the male colleague who caused the problem, why should he help the company solve your problem?

In workplace interactions, there is nothing that should or must be done without work content.

How do you solve the problem of coming home late at night:

1.Drive yourself.

2.Ride-hailing reservations.

3.An agreement was reached. If a colleague is willing to take you home, how much you give, one at a time.

4.Understand the reasons for the occurrence of vicious taxi incidents, do a good job of psychological construction, and do a good job of prevention.

5.Rent a house near the company.

Look at what kind of relatives, your hate is because the other party is doing something wrong or your own problem, I don't comment on your dislike of the other party, but if you don't like it, don't communicate, just avoid it, after a long time, it will fade, and relatives are not relatives.

The next time you meet this strange relative, don't bother with him, no matter who he is, as an elder, you can't show the appearance of an elder, how can the junior convince him, if you go to his house to visit relatives, then you can see him three times and go once, less contact will be less troublesome.

For this kind of disrespectful elder, don't take him seriously, and he will retreat after scolding him a few times.

Because, he's nosy, a little pretending. Besides, to be honest, you are full.

Therefore, since we are all human beings, the premise of mutual respect is respect and love!

I think you can choose to stay away from him, because nothing has to be related to him.

It can be very frustrating and irritating to meet strange relatives. Here are some suggestions to help you deal with this situation:

1.Stay calm: Try to control your emotions and not be influenced by your relatives' actions or words. Staying calm will help you deal with problems better.

2.Avoid quarrels and envy: Try to avoid quarrels or conflicts with relatives. Quarrels will only lead to worse emotions on both sides and will not solve the problem.

3.Seek support: Share your feelings with other close family members or friends and ask for their advice and support. They may be able to give some useful advice and solutions to the stupid change.

4.Articulate: If you feel offended or hurt, try to communicate with your relatives in a positive manner and tone and tell them how you feel, hoping that they will understand and respect your position.

5.Keep your distance: If possible, try to avoid frequent contact with strange relatives. If you must attend certain family gatherings or activities, minimize the amount of time you spend with them.

6.Defend your own interests: Don't let the behavior of your strange relatives interfere with your normal life and well-being. Make sure your needs and interests are met and find ways and methods that work for you.

7.Seek professional help: If a relative's behaviour is affecting you in the long term or severe, you may consider seeking help from a professional counsellor who can provide more support and advice.

Remember, dealing with odd relatives takes time and patience. Try to maintain a positive mindset and don't let negativity affect your life.

Those annoying relatives:

1. The negative energy is bursting, and when they meet, they will talk to you about the bad things in their family, what daughter-in-law has a complicated family background, the son-in-law is not filial, and the in-laws are unreasonable. All I can say is that it's not a family that doesn't enter the door.

2.I don't usually contact you, but I will ask you to borrow money as soon as I get in touch. Do you want to order Bilian?

3, the eighth woman can't do it, she listens slowly, and loves to point fingers at others. How is your work lately, when will you have a baby, and when you hear you say that you have been busy with work recently and have no plans to have children, Yin and Yang are weird and say, "Ouch, you are really calm!" "Rub, if you can't speak, say a few words, you can't manage your own family affairs well, and judge other people's family affairs day by day, when will I have a child, it's your business.

4. Snobbery, a family looks at money. There are so many things that I don't even know where to start. Too much, 10,000 words are omitted here.

5. A family is a Pixiu by nature, only in and out. Treat the family group as a red envelope group, Pinduoduo cut a knife group, usually there is never any positive role in the group, except for grabbing the red envelope is to let others cut him a knife, and he never sends a red envelope in the group, but others send red envelopes to her He will always rush to the top three, in order to grab the red envelope, but also pull the people who were not in the family group close to the family group (the person who pulled is also a former bridge model relative at home, but has not been in the family group before). After grabbing the red envelope, it doesn't matter if you don't send it, you don't even have a word, the whole emotionless red envelope grabbing machine, it's really eye-opening, and you can't let others cut her at every turn, I just want to cut her.