How to be a good mother in law, how to be a good mother in law?

I am a daughter-in-law, because it is far away from my mother-in-law's house, so there is no contradiction In fact, my mother-in-law is also very good at taking care of and expressing her love for us, she often talks about how good my daughter-in-law is, although I may do very small things. But she once told me that being good to me is actually being good to his son. Hehe.

Our mother-in-law was not involved in the family affairs, and most of what she told me was her son's fault, and she wanted me to know and understand him. She said that no one is perfect (to know each other), and to live together intellectually (to communicate more with each other). Mother-in-law's tolerance and dedication (I don't know how to cook, every time I go back to my mother-in-law's house, my mother-in-law tries to do it herself, her health is not good, although there is a sister-in-law to help, but my mother-in-law does it, I look at it), I understand my mother-in-law's painstaking efforts, I think that mother-in-law, we should communicate more with my daughter-in-law, especially to face up to my son's advantages and disadvantages, and my daughter-in-law in a certain aspect of his "front", so that the daughter-in-law will feel that she is with her mother-in-law, so that she will do more for her mother-in-law.

Hehe, I hope it can help you, I wish you happiness

As someone else's daughter-in-law, I think my mother-in-law is very good. First of all, you must be very open-minded, your ideas are not old-fashioned, don't treat your daughter-in-law as an outsider, talk to your son intentionally or unintentionally, don't always ask what people don't want to say, and be an enlightened mother-in-law is the most important.

Trouble, thanks!

1. Treat daughters-in-law equally and open-mindedly, and do not be domineering as elders. A smart mother-in-law will never put on a stand as an elder in front of her daughter-in-law, and she will never yell at her daughter-in-law.

Sixth, domineering. They get along with their daughters-in-law like friends, equal and harmonious, so that their daughters-in-law feel full of warmth as soon as they come home.

2. Do not show partiality for your son and save enough "face" for your daughter-in-law. Married life will inevitably have stumbles, if it happens to be bumped into by her mother-in-law at this time, who will she prefer? In fact, 99% of mothers-in-law will definitely favor their sons in their hearts, which is human nature and understandable.

But the smart mother-in-law knew in her heart that she must not show partiality for her son, but should support her daughter-in-law and give her daughter-in-law enough face, so as to avoid the escalation of family conflicts.

3. Do not urge sons and daughters-in-law to have children, and do not interfere with the birth of boys and girls. Urging marriage and giving birth to children is the norm for many parents today. It's not a big deal if this trick is used on a son, but it is easy to create contradictions when used on a daughter-in-law.

So a smart mother-in-law never urges her son and daughter-in-law to have children, and even if she has such thoughts, she will express them euphemistically. As for giving birth to a boy and a girl, she will not interfere, which is also a manifestation of a mother-in-law's sensibility and respect. 

4. Respect the parenting philosophy of sons and daughters-in-law. After having grandchildren and granddaughters, the mother-in-law quietly rented and became the main force with the children. Getting along with the children day and night every day, the mother-in-law's parenting concept has room to play, but problems also arise.

At this time, the smart mother-in-law will definitely respect the parenting concept of her son and daughter-in-law, and if there is any disagreement, she will take the initiative to discuss with her son and daughter-in-law to find a parenting plan that everyone is satisfied with.

I myself was lucky enough to meet a warm-hearted and kind mother-in-law. I have been married for more than 20 years and have lived with my mother-in-law for more than 20 years. Our mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have a very harmonious relationship. In my mother-in-law, I have summarized several characteristics of a good mother-in-law.

1. Don't worry about daily trivial matters, be more tolerant, don't be confused about things at home, and discuss more.

The mother-in-law is middle-aged and widowed, raising three children alone. The hardships can be imagined. My mother-in-law is a vegetarian all year round and usually doesn't cook meat dishes. But we don't need to cook meat in another pot like she did, or buy it to eat at home.

As for daily chores such as what to eat, when to eat, and whether what to buy is good or bad, everyone does whatever they want and never restricts each other. When it comes to educating children, my mother-in-law knows that the old way of education is not fully adapted to the current times, and she often respects our opinions.

My mother-in-law rarely does housework, she is very relaxed, and we are also very free. For big things, such as buying a house, my mother-in-law is more experienced than us, and will give opinions and suggestions to help as much as she can.

In March 2016, my father fell ill in the middle of the night, and I was so grief-stricken that I couldn't do anything but worry and helplessness. My mother-in-law didn't say a word to help me contact the car to go home, pack my things, and tell my husband the precautions. During my pregnancy, childbirth, confinement, and when I encountered major difficulties at home and needed help the most, my mother-in-law always did not hesitate to lend a helping hand.

I will always remember my mother-in-law's love for her. When it comes to big events, my mother-in-law is the pillar of our family.

2. Don't fight to compare, don't talk about the shortcomings of your family in front of outsiders, and don't participate in discussing the shortcomings of other people's parents.

Mother-in-law often says: Happiness does not lie in having everything, let alone in comparison. Contentment and joy are happiness.

Mother-in-law said that people don't need too much material in this life, and a healthy body and a simple life are more important. So she rarely compares herself to others. There are also neighbors who brag in front of their mother-in-law about how filial their son and daughter-in-law are, and how smart their grandson is Tongming, and the mother-in-law always laughs at it.

If the neighbor complains to the mother-in-law that the daughter-in-law is not sensible, the mother-in-law will persuade: the times are different, it is not easy for young people to go to work now, it depends on the face of the boss, the elderly should be more considerate, etc., and they are often complained by the neighbors and come back safely. My mother-in-law is very friendly, not to mention our family, very warm and caring.

It's a blessing in my life.