Why do parents value scores? Why do today s parents only care about their children s scores and rank

In fact, this is a very philosophical question, from the literal point of view, the most superficial problem is that parents value scores, which leads to 2 big branches, the first branch, because scores are too important, so, parents only value scores! The second branch, because the score is important, but the score alone is very scary, so the score is important, but not just the score! To be fair, almost all parents have noticed the problem within the second branch, so it is a bit cruel to lead to the next level of problem:

Doing homework, watching TV, eating, sleeping, housework, working overtime, socializing... What does it actually look like? Parents' own cultural and personalized education tasks are generally abandoned and focus on competing for business with classroom teachers!

One of the most prominent performances is the first score, which is like the ** ear that hurts the hearts of teenagers!

A score is also a manifestation of ability. Parents want you to have good grades, develop your abilities, and then have goals in your later life.

With scores, you can go to a good school and have a good future.

I have always felt that academic performance is not the only criterion to measure the excellence of children, because I feel that children's development is multifaceted, so parents should also pay attention to cultivating children's interests in various aspects in this process. But now many parents pay more attention to their children's scores, why do parents only pay attention to their children's scores and rankings?

Of course, parents want their children to be happier, but we all know that the competitive pressure in society is very high, so parents want their children to become better, so parents have begun to cultivate their children's various interests when their children are very young. Because parents are also very afraid that their children will fall behind others, parents will also let their children continue to learn and let their children achieve better grades.

However, some parents actually don't care much about their children's academic performance, because these parents feel that the comprehensive quality of their children is the most important, and parents want their children to grow up happily, so parents actually have no higher requirements for their children, as long as the children can be happy in this process, it is enough for the children to have a healthy body. However, some parents are too strict with their children, these parents only care about their children's scores and rankings, and do not care about their children's physical and mental development at all, so they feel that this is also the reason for parents, and parents must have a correct concept of education.

I think that if parents want their children to become better, then parents should also have a correct concept in the process of educating their children. Parents should never force their children, because there are many criteria to measure whether a child is good or not, your child may not do well in school, but your child may be more prominent in other aspects. Therefore, I think parents should also have a correct concept, so that children can develop in an all-round way.

It is because now parents will have a strong comparison psychology in their hearts, and feel that only with high scores can they prove that their children are really working hard.

Because this is a disadvantage of Chinese education, the way of admission in China is based on grades and academic performance, so parents will only value their children's learning.

It is because parents feel that because of this way, they can judge whether the child is serious and hard-working, but this way is very incorrect and will affect the child.

There are several main reasons why parents are generally concerned about their children's test scores:

Parents want their child to be a good child with excellent character and academics, and to have good grades every time. Usually only the children themselves know about their learning, the mother doesn't know much, and outsiders know even less. Only the score can be understood by the mother, and outsiders can also feel the child's ability from the score.

It is true that mothers care about their children's learning, but mothers often take the results more seriously, believing that a higher score is the standard that reflects the child's learning. When you tell someone that your child has scored highly, they often compliment. The mother was also happy and satisfied, a kind of vanity.

In the growth and learning of children all the way, it is inseparable from "scores". For the first time in the promotion, the admission is based on the score; The entrance examination for university is inseparable from the scores. Almost the score has become the only criterion for a child to "move forward". The child is nervous about the exam, the mother is even more nervous about the score, and the mother values the score, and there seems to be a reasonable explanation.

A diploma is a stepping stone to work, a score is the only criterion for a diploma, without a good score, you can't get into a good school, if you can't get into a good school, you can't get a good diploma, if you can't get a good diploma, you can't find a good job, without a good job, there is no hope for a lifetime. Except, of course, for children who have property in their families. As for other aspects, parents do not pay attention to it, which is a wrongful treatment for parents.

Today's parents are very little laissez-faire to their children, and even if there is a laissez-faire situation, it may be forced by life!

Parents do not want to cultivate children with high scores and low ability, but they also do not want to cultivate children with low scores and high ability, but children with high scores and high ability and strong comprehensive ability. How important is the score?

When she went to her cousin's house on the weekend, she talked about attending the child's parent-teacher meeting yesterday, and the mother of a top student spoke as a parent representative.

As soon as she came to the stage, the mother of the top student said Xiangrang, in fact, I don't pay attention to my child's academic performance, and I have always thought that my child's score is not important......As soon as the words fell, the parents below"Shhhh"There was a sound, and someone rolled their eyes at her......This schooly mother was embarrassed.

Yes, only the mother of the top student said that the score is not important.

The cousin said that she did not accuse the school's mother of lying, maybe her child was born with a love of reading and regarded reading as the greatest pleasure. For this kind"Scholarly type"Child, you don't have to stress the score with him, because he is self-conscious enough and the score is beautiful.

It's just that how many children can be like those top school kids, good at learning and love learning?

There are also some parents of children with poor academic performance who also say that the score is not important, and they are really looking for a step for themselves and their children.

From 7 years old to 12 years old to 18 years old, every stage involves the importance of scores in the growth of children.

You might say, do you have to go to college? Jobs dropped out after only one semester in college, but he was"Apples"Founder of the computer. Let's not delve into the fact that he has been auditing and studying for 18 months since he dropped out of Reed College, in terms of probability alone, are you sure that this kind of small probability event will happen to your own children?

Therefore, getting high scores and going to college is still a path that most ordinary children have to take.

Imagine, if a child can't even read well when he is supposed to study, but expects him to be able to suddenly shine and work well after he enters society, I think this probability is about more difficult than winning the welfare lottery.

Speaking of which, it is inevitable to mention another topic, that is, psychologists have repeatedly told us: children should not ask about homework when they go home, and do not ask about grades after exams, so as not to let children have too much pressure.

Parents can indeed not ask, but the society is in demand, the school is wanting, and parents still have to pretend not to, can children believe it? Can parents really do it?

I think it's impossible for every family that needs their child's scores to get a good school for himself without asking about the grades.

As parents, when our children don't know that they need to work hard, that is, when we say they haven't woken up yet, we still have to be responsible for what school our children will go to in the future and what kind of people they can become when they enter society.

Whether we have money or not, power or not, we all want our children to be self-reliant and have a less difficult life in the future.

Scores are the only yardstick that children can prove themselves and get better opportunities for themselves when they are students.

It is true that the fraction of the young age is not so important in a person's life; But when it comes to their student years, grades are extremely important.