I m about to get married, why don t I feel at home?

You're afraid that married life isn't what you want. I can tell you that now that you have discovered that it is not what you want, and you can't change it after you get married. Even if it changes, it can only get worse, not better.

Now that you put it forward and want to go alone, you may still have a little bit of this power, once you get married and get a license, you will completely marry a chicken and a dog.

I don't know why you've been compromising and don't dare to speak? Your boyfriend's house is local, are you an out-of-tlander? Why do you want to live in their house as soon as you have a relationship?

This matter is actually very easy to solve, first of all, if you really love him, and their family really can't afford to buy a house for you, and you are reluctant to leave him because of this, then you can only accept your fate and live with him in a down-to-earth manner.

But looking at what you said at the beginning, you have been looking forward to a happy life for a family of three, and if you want to have a small world of your own, I advise you not to get married. Otherwise, you won't be happy in the future, you won't have any privacy when you live with them, for example, if you bring a friend or colleague home to play, they will be watched, and if you come home late, they will be dissatisfied. Your parents-in-law are definitely different from your parents, and you will feel uncomfortable in the end when you encounter any stumbles when you live with them.

And mothers-in-law are generally very doting on their sons, and if you don't take care of them in the future, she may still nag. Before and after marriage, the mother-in-law's attitude will change 180 degrees. Don't be stupid enough to think that she's good to you now, and you can keep it like this even if you're married.

You have to think about all of this.

So to put it simply, there are two ways: either don't get married until you can go out and live alone, or make do with it and get married like this. Figure it out for yourself. Don't kid yourself. Marriage is the most important step in a girl's life, and I hope you don't do things that you regret.

Starting a new family, getting along with a new family is an art... What you have now should be a kind of premarital blues. In fact, don't think so much, be calm.

According to your description, you and his family are still getting along quite well, but the life you yearn for is a separate life in the world of two people, and the reality conflicts with your yearning! The so-called love is romantic, marriage is realistic, this is the truth! So you must be in a good frame of mind and switch roles as soon as possible!

Wishing you happiness!

If you can't afford to buy a house on your own, you can consider renting a house first. Living together for a long time is not the way to go.

Yes. Two people together in this way to make him grow up.

Let him know his responsibilities to the small family.

If he can't live without his parents, then wait until he grows up to get married.

If you have the ability, you can go out and live.

You can choose to live at both ends, the man's family lives for a month, and the woman's family lives for a month, which is said before marriage. This kind of life is more suitable for you at the moment.

Most people like the new and hate the old, just like when we buy a new dress, when we wear it for a few days, we don't like it so much, when we come across a more beautiful clothes, we will completely forget the clothes we liked before.

At the beginning, the two people are not particularly familiar with each other, and their understanding of each other is not particularly comprehensive, because of a small thing and a detail, they will feel that the other party is a very perfect person.

After getting along for a long time, you find that the other party is not as perfect as you think, and the other party's shortcomings are showing more and more, and your "perfect filter" for the other party will be completely broken.

We are always attracted to new things, we prefer new clothes, new phones to old clothes, old phones, and the same is true for people.

We like to meet new people, meet new people, and we are more tolerant of new people for the same thing.

When we meet someone new, we feel that the other person is more attractive to us, and in contrast, we may become alienated and disgusted with the people around us.

Therefore, we should think more about the warmth, happiness and love that the other person brings to us, and not always compare him (her) with others.

Contradictions and frictions alienate people from each other.

If two people get along for a long time, it is easy to have disagreements and frictions because of some small things, and if these contradictions and frictions are not dealt with in time, then these small contradictions will become big contradictions, and these small problems will evolve into big problems.

So we need to be more tolerant, less quarrelsome, more communicative, and less accusatory. Time may dilute one's love for each other, but it cannot change one's dependence on each other. All feelings need to be carefully managed, patiently cultivated, and properly surprised, and hopefully we can all find the skills to manage feelings.

It is normal for two people to be married for a long time, and they have been together for a long time without the feeling they had at the beginning, because in married life, two people can see each other every day, and they are together except for work or other times.

That's because there's already a kind of exhaustion, but your situation does change a lot from when you started, because everyone will return to their old self in life.

After being married for a long time, the love period has passed, and the oil, salt, rice vinegar, and trivial things in life have begun to be troubled, and I gradually feel irritable, without the feeling I had at the beginning, and I am a little tired with the burden of life.

The two of them have become accustomed to each other's presence and have accepted such a way of life, so he does not have the feeling he had at the beginning.

It is mainly disturbed by firewood, rice, oil and salt after marriage, and all kinds of trivial things in life, which is different from when you are in love, when you are in love, it is a matter of two people, and marriage is a matter of two families. things, and there are more things to do in family life.

After being married for a long time, I don't feel the same feeling as I did at the beginning, the reason is that after a long time, if both people can't take the initiative to maintain this relationship, if they can't keep the relationship fresh, then there will be no such feeling.

It's been a long time since I got married! It's not like I didn't feel that way at first! Because of the sense of anticipation for each other when I started to fall in love, I was unfamiliar!

Curiosity! will make us excited and look forward to it! It's been a long time together!

The pros and cons of the other side are already understood! You can also slowly run in and get along and go on together! After a long time, it becomes a habit at will!

The beginning is heart-warming! After a long time, it is a peace of mind and long-term love!

Because the relationship between husband and wife has lost the freshness it had at the beginning, they are tired of seeing each other, and they will even have some dissatisfaction, resulting in tired and unhappy complaints.

After being married for a long time, it will change from love to family affection, and gradually lose the feeling at that time.

Marriage and then involves firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea, so after a long time, it will naturally become dull.

It is said that girls have no home after getting married, and they didn't believe it at first, but then they understood.

Before getting married, my parents' home was my home, and when I went back, it was still a family. After getting married, my parents' home became my mother's home, and I was a guest when I went back; My husband's parents' home is my mother-in-law's house, and I live in a feeling of being under the fence, and I will always be a foreigner. It turns out that girls really have no home after getting married.

It is said that it is better for girls not to marry far away, and there is no place to cry when they are wronged in their in-laws' house. But what about being close to my mother's home? Do you dare to go back to your parents' house to cry after being wronged?

Are you willing to let your parents still worry about themselves at this time? Once you come out, you will find that when you go back to your parents' home, you will report good news and not bad news, and you will no longer worry your parents. In the in-law's house, the house belongs to someone else, the child has a surname, and the income is not as much as that of the husband, there will always be a feeling of being under the fence, and I dare not offend this for fear of hurting that, no matter how much grievances I have, I will grit my teeth and bear it.

Girl, if you have the ability, choosing not to get married is also a chic way to live. Men can never be relied on; A home is only available if you have it.

After a woman gets married and has children, she has a home of her own. In this family, the woman has become the hostess, taking on the responsibilities of the hostess, to spend all her energy and hard work on the struggle for the family, to worry about the firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea in her own home, to worry about the child's growth, education and learning and other troublesome matters, to plan the development of the family as much as possible, but also to work hard for money, but also to deal with the relationship between husband and wife, if this woman is not a brother demon, generally will feel more and more strange with her mother's family. After getting married, a major event in his life, he formed his own small family.

This is especially true for girls who have grown up with many unfortunate experiences in their original families. They will feel that they finally have a new home of their own, leaving the sight of their parents, without nagging, no discipline, no reprimand, and can start a new chapter in their lives with their husbands, and the vast world is for me to soar. For example, the proportion of school-age girls who hate marriage is significantly higher than that of boys of the same age, which is also due to the extroversion of girls.

Therefore, there will be a saying that women are not left. Girls want to build their small family better, for the careful raising of children, the support of their husbands at work, the careful care of small families, etc. They will feel that only those who manage these things properly and smoothly will not only appear to be capable, but also a credit to themselves.

Girls will feel that they have kept a proper distance like a guest when they return to their parents' home, not far away, not close, and can be cared for by their parents, and given a little help to their siblings to take care of Shenwu Sakura, but these must be based on not harming or hindering the normal life order of their small family. Over time, it's no surprise that strangeness naturally develops. It is said that motherhood is rigid, and after a woman becomes a mother, she naturally spends more time and energy on her children, even if the children are noisy and naughty, and they do not hesitate to break their hearts.

And the parents, brothers and sisters of the mother's family are all adults, and they can take care of themselves, so naturally they don't need any extra care. If there are parents who favor other siblings, or if the parents do not approve of the marriage when they first get married, this kind of situation will become more and more strange to their parents' family after marriage. There is no love without a reason in this world, and there is no hate without a reason.

All love, hatred, and hatred have a reason at their root. Therefore, after girls get married and have children, they become more and more strange with their parents, which has to be analyzed and treated on a case-by-case basis, and cannot be generalized. , After a woman gets married, she should also contact her mother's family a lot, even if she is not doing well, or she is unhappy with her family earlier, as long as she is coquettish with her parents more, it will always ease up.

You must know that your mother's family, your real relatives, will always be your strongest backing. Of course, it cannot be ruled out that some women are heartbroken because of their mother's family. But I also hope that these women can live their current lives, others dislike you and abandon you, while you also have to learn to protect yourself bravely and make yourself stronger and stronger.

Finally, I would like to wish all women a happy marriage and strive to live a good life after marriage. Happy every day.