I m already married, why don t I feel happy?

First of all, you know yourself very well, it is true that you think too much, in fact, there are no troubles in this world, and all the troubles are found by human beings.

You think that other people's lives are very good, but in fact, you have only seen the superficial phenomenon, and how many people in the world will show their ugly side in front of outsiders. I don't have a girlfriend, but I don't envy other people, because I only see their happy side, and I don't see them when they quarrel and disagree.

In fact, life is very simple, and it is not simple. It's like enlightening Zen, if you comprehend it, you will understand, if you can't comprehend, don't get into a dead end, and if you can't comprehend, you won't comprehend. In fact, when you give up comprehension, you have already understood the true meaning of life, and yes is to go with the flow.

You and I personally understand that life is to live first and then live with the flow, nothing more.

Three years of pain, seven years of itching.

Don't think like that! Don't contact the previous person, in this case, 2 people, maybe 2 families, will be broken!

It is easy to stand outside of pain and admonish those who are suffering. But the enlightenment of others is not of great significance, and it is most important to be strong yourself.

That's natural, standing and talking won't hurt your back.

What did the Buddha say ... Put it down and you'll be relaxed. Between the thought of happiness and pain, you cannot be saved if you refuse to come up in hell.

1.There is no affection in marriage.

Marriage is based on feelings, and marriage without feelings is like chicken ribs, food does not know the taste, giving up regrets, without the moisture of love, without the nourishment of love, marriage becomes boring. Marriage, if you have no feelings for each other, you will feel that you have nothing to say, so if there is a distance between two people, you will feel tired, very disappointed in your marriage, and you will feel insecure.

Without a sense of security, marriage loses its meaning, and there is no happiness in such a marriage.

2.There is no trust and understanding in marriage.

Whether it's love or marriage, we all need each other's trust and understanding. If you are not trusted by your other half, he does not believe in everything you do. Obviously, you are kind, but he suspects that you have ulterior motives.

No matter what you do, he doesn't believe it. He was always skeptical. You will feel that your significant other does not respect you.

This kind of marriage can make you feel tired.

Without trust, where does your marriage come from? Don't wronged yourself in order to please the other person, and don't do things against your heart in order to make the other person trust you. You just need to be yourself and have a clear conscience. A marriage without trust and not being understood is also unhappy.

3.There is no communication in marriage.

In marriage, we should also communicate with each other. If we don't communicate in a timely manner, it's easy to have misunderstandings. It is inevitable that two people will encounter some problems in their daily lives.

If you have different views on your children's schooling and your parents' care for the elderly, you need to communicate more and reach an agreement to avoid causing some family conflicts.

Some people do not communicate with their significant other in time on family issues, but instead say nothing with a straight face. The other party doesn't know what's wrong with him, which makes them unhappy with each other. Just like Xiao Li's husband, they never take the initiative to deal with conflicts, and always choose cold violence, so they are not happy.

In this way, if there are problems, there will be no marriage of contradictions and communication.

For what are the reasons for being unhappy after marriage, our lives are very stressful and stressful right now. We are all looking for a state of relaxation. We suffer and suffer on the outside.

When we come home and there is no warmth and someone to talk to, we feel very uncomfortable and complain.

This is a very normal phenomenon, and after getting married, there will be all kinds of pressure. However, you have to learn to adjust your mindset. You can communicate more with your husband, talk about the unhappiness in your heart, and let him know how you feel.

If that doesn't work, you can also go outside with him. Don't keep everything to yourself, it's not good for both of you. The two of you have to be considerate of each other and understand each other.

In this way, you can be happy.

It won't last long, marriage is not unilateral, because one party has not supported it, even if your relationship is deep, it will not last long, after marriage will involve two families, what you want to do has not been understood, for a long time, this matter may become the reason for your quarrel, and then it will become more and more tired, and the feelings will gradually be exhausted, so it is better to let go as soon as possible.

Of course, if the two of you are firm enough, it will last for a long time, but I feel that this kind of thing is very rare in reality, because there are many trivial things in life, which will gradually lead to disagreements, and there is also the support of one family, which makes it even more difficult to go on steadily. These still vary from person to person, and I hope you will have your own happiness as soon as possible.

Married but unhappy, because there is not much pressure when you are in love, you just care about enjoying a good love, and after getting married, you have to live a real life of firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea, there will be a lot of trivial things to worry about, plus life is not good, so there will be unhappy emotions.

There are many reasons why many people are sad after marriage. Here are some common reasons that can cause this:

1.Changes in intimacy: When people start living together, they may face pressures and challenges that they haven't experienced so far, which can negatively impact their relationships.

Problems such as sexual incompatibility, mutual neglect, and insufficient communication can all bring instability to a marriage.

2.Responsibilities and pressures: People after marriage often have to take on more responsibilities, which can include financial responsibilities, housework, and childcare. This extra stress and responsibility can be anxiety and exhausting.

3.Not having enough personal space to be separated: It is very important to maintain independence and personal space in a marriage to help people maintain long-term intimacy.

If the other half is too dependent or doesn't have enough freedom and independence, it can be stressful and uncomfortable.

4.No support and understanding: A healthy marriage requires support and mutual understanding between two people. If people don't feel supported and understood enough, they may feel lost and frustrated.

Ultimately, marriage requires both partners to cooperate, be open, and respect each other in order to maintain a stable relationship. If these factors are missing, it can lead to a sad face after marriage.

Everyone's marriage is different from what they originally thought. It is reflected in all aspects, big or small, or small things, or big mistakes in principle.

1. Living habits. Before marriage, they basically get along with each other outside, and more than half of them are outside the home, so there is almost no getting along and integration in life. Then after marriage, it will be different, who washes the dishes and who mops the floor, from how to fold clothes, to how to arrange furniture, are all collisions in life.

There was once a friend who divorced because of a disagreement over whether to put rice in a Coke bottle or a bag. Therefore, living habits are still a very serious intersection point after marriage. If the run-in is good, it will be done once and for all, and if the run-in goes wrong, the ship will be sunk and overturned.

2. Eating habits. When you are in love, everything you eat is fragrant. But after marriage, not necessarily.

He loves to eat stew, and she loves duck blood vermicelli soup. He loves buns, and she loves burgers. The beef stew is hard, and the chicken wings are too bad.

The beans are not too ripe, and the potatoes are all noodles. All sorts of eating habits are coming out. In the end, it becomes that whoever cooks is wrong.

Even eating rice or noodles may have to be debated. But none of this can appear before marriage.

3. Family concept. This one is even more terrifying. It won't be involved at all before marriage.

Their original families have given them some deep-rooted things, which will only be shown after marriage, such as whose house to go to during the holidays, the frequency of going to see the elders, what things to buy, the frequency of visiting relatives during the holidays, etc., which are easy to cause wars, and if they are not handled well, they will capsize.

Fourth, emotional output. Many men care less about women after marriage, and many women are less gentle with men after marriage. Changes from one to the other will cause dissatisfaction with the other.

You complain to me, and I complain to you. In the end, they all changed. This is the most terrible thing, in fact, everyone has problems, but they don't admit it.