What do you think is the worst home environment?

I was adopted, but I knew my life experience since I was a child, and I didn't happen to hear it, but I was told to it by my adoptive father and adoptive mother, and I was always raised by my grandmother's side, but my grandmother and my adoptive mother had a bad relationship, and they blamed me.

Dad is not responsible, Mom is never spoiled, they are always arguing together.

Parents are negative in their children's education, do not establish a correct outlook on life for their children, some fathers do not like to talk, typical "strict wife", the mother covers the sky with one hand, and has nothing to do all day long, so that playing mahjong will be fun.

My parents were so conflicted that they quarreled all day long, and even I began to persuade them to divorce.

The husband and wife have no feelings, and they live under the same roof every day without communication.

Although everyone is there, they are all detached and have no family affection, and such a family is the worst.

The parents are divorced, but they are unwilling to raise their children, they can only live with their grandparents, and they have lacked love since they were children.

The parents are addicted to drugs, and the family has no money, and even going to school has become a luxury.

The two of them can never talk together, their attitudes towards things are completely opposite, and they always have different views on things.

What should I do in the face of a terrible family of origin? 1. "Lie flat", accept that your original family is not too complete, don't doubt yourself, don't attack yourself.

The family is already like this, we have realized that there is something wrong with it, this is the beginning of getting better, you have to always tell yourself, it's not your fault, maybe it's not your parents' fault, don't deny yourself, self-doubt, self-pity, believe that we realize that there is a problem, it is a turnaround;

2. Try to make some changes, and when you are not capable, stay away and protect yourself first.

Do a good job on campus, become independent as soon as possible, have your own independent financial foundation, and don't tell your family about these situations, such as income and so on. First lay your own confidence, from the physical space distance, psychological distance, stay away first, establish your own boundaries, reduce the negative impact of the family on yourself, go out more, make more new friends, establish a circle that can support you, get support from friends, support and recognition from the society, and will not rely too much on the family. In short, it is to strengthen yourself first, and you must be strong both physically and mentally.

3. If you have the ability, you can make some changes and bring them to change together.

But I think this is too difficult, so let's focus on 2 first, and take care of yourself. You can get some help through self-study and seeking help from professionals.

I started reading the book "It's Not Your Fault" on the recommendation of a counselor, and it was very slow, which triggered a lot of thinking, and there were some exercises in it, which caused me a lot of mood swings, and even heartache, but it also made me find and realize the source of some problems, maybe it was a healing process, anyway, it was to let myself go.

4. Going a little deeper, you can ponder the impermanence of the world, and there is nothing that Shiliang should be.

Including the relationship between people, fate, it is amazing, the first second to love each other, the next second to hurt each other, these are normal, because there is no rule that this is abnormal, these are our own processing and Amway, in fact, it is our attitude towards things.

When you want to understand that the fate of people and people is just like this, in fact, it is all virtual, and it is all processed by our own minds, and then look at any problems, you will be much calmer, For example, mothers do not necessarily want to love their children, but they do not necessarily have to pay for their children, such as gambling is a priority over family ......

Everyone has their own problems to face, to experience, each has its own suffering, each suffers its own sin, what we can do is to recognize these, broaden our cognition and acceptance ability, protect ourselves, heal ourselves if there is a wound, and have the first impulse to help others and benefit others.

It's a very painful experience, because it's not conducive to the development of feelings, it's not good for the harmony of feelings, and it also makes the family feel very bad, so I think it's a very painful and devastated experience.

It's a very bad experience, and my heart will be very sad, very uncomfortable, and there will be a lot of problems in my heart.

The best family environment is full of love, only when growing up in a loving family atmosphere, children are likely to get better and better, and if there is no love, children will have low self-esteem.

That is, the relationship between parents will be more harmonious, the relationship between parents and children will be better, parents and children will have good communication and interaction, and it is usually a loving environment.

It is very warm and harmonious, because such a family environment is very good for the baby.

I have talked about my mother and my father divorced seven years ago, and then my brother and I were sentenced to my mother and father respectively according to the legal process, and then my brother and I started a single parent life, my father went to work alone, and my mother supported me and my brother at home, and my parents knew that the things of the two of them could not affect the healthy growth of the children, and there were many things that made me feel bad about such a non-existent family in the future, and this feeling made my concept of home more and more blurred. The affection for the family is also getting weaker and weaker.

My mother divorced my father and moved to live in the town, and then I went with my brother, because the town is very close to where my brother went to school, and then my mother looked for a job around, and my mother is also a very powerful woman who can do all kinds of manual work, but the only bad thing about my mother is that she has no cultural knowledge, which can be described as unqualified.

In recent years, my mother has changed a lot, maybe I know that it is not easy for people to have fun in this life, but my mother does not let me and my brother worry, when I go home last semester, my mother will go out to eat and drink with her good sisters at night, and then several of their sisters go to sing together, my mother has changed a lot over the years, which makes me feel more and more scared and uncomfortable.

My younger brother will also tell me that he is afraid of his mother, especially when his mother comes home crying after getting drunk, and feels that his life is not easy, all kinds of crying and memories, I have told my mother many times, don't drink when you are so old, think about my younger brother, when I was a child, I experienced the divorce of my parents, and my mother has now become a nine ghosts.

My family is not a complete family, but it is a family that never stops bad things, all kinds of things happen every day, my wayward mother does everything according to her own nature, she doesn't listen to what people say, it's best for me to pay for the rest with my brother.

Our children who study outside always have the idea that when they are at school, they want to go home, but when they come home, they always feel upset because of some small things, and they especially want to leave that troublesome family. That's how I am, every time I haven't been home from school for a long time, I miss everyone in my family so much. But once I got home less than two days ago, I felt very troubled because of such and such things.

When I was at home, there were countless mornings when my parents were arguing and waking me up. Growing up, I experienced countless times seeing my parents quarrel. The reasons for the quarrel can be big or small, in short, they will always find such and such things to find fault with each other, and then they will make a loud noise.

My dad likes to drink, and his personality is also a bit of a bull's horn, and he will not change what he decides, no matter what we say. And he is a man who wants to save face, we all see this. He started to decide to do something, and even after all of our explanations, he felt that it was not right, and he would not change it, because he felt that he had already started to do it, and if he stopped like this, it would make him very embarrassed.

And my mom belongs to that kind of person, if you do something this time that makes him feel dissatisfied, he will even turn over the old things and settle accounts with you. Dad is a little unenterprising a lot of the time, and my mom can't stand my dad like this, and every time I quarrel, my mom will become bitter and mean. And my brother grew up in such an environment, and my brother was more short-tempered.

Actually, I was a bit short-tempered, but as I grew older, I just learned to control my temper.

I really want to talk about my bad home, these days are really very, very bad, the family is not peaceful at all, especially bad, I feel that these bad things are not a matter of one or two days, and I feel that I can't see the hope that my mother's heart is very likely to be operated, less than 200,000 like that. I took a small amount, my sister promised to take a small amount, everything was planned, and the transfer certificate was opened. I finally took out all the money in my dad's passbook, and my dad paid for this fee.

He's suffering from a stroke now, and he's not very good at that, but he understands that. When he saw that I had taken out all the money, he was furious and scolded, saying, "Why do you spend my money, what about your money (referring to my mother), you always save your own money and spend it with my money?" Why don't you die?

And then there are countless CNMs, die on the operating table, and the money will not be given to you. He also said that you will take my money now, and you will not even tell me. The money is all for you!

I was really upset by the scolding.

1: Both parents will not be considerate

Only when the family is harmonious can everything prosper", this sentence is absolutely true. In a family, when the husband and wife are harmonious, they will have the heart to do their own work, housework, hobbies, etc. Everything goes on in harmony, naturally there are not too many negative emotions, and things are easy to work out.

2: Take money too seriously and love to cry poor

Not all families are very wealthy, and most of them are just ordinary families. But whether you are rich or not, as a family, you really can't take money too seriously. My friend's mother always loves to cry poor in front of her husband and children, and her husband and children would have been considerate of her mother, but later found out that she just took money too seriously and always picked it up, which made her family feel that Bao's mother was simply selfish and didn't want to spend money on them.

The most important thing in a family is "love", "money" is always placed in the most inconspicuous corner, and money is just something that makes a family's living standard different. But "love" can make a family love each other forever and not let life go "downhill".

3: Overly doting or aggressive parents

Some parents will have some "nature" of their own, such as loving their children too much, and becoming "doting"; I want the child to "follow the rules" and the parents to become strong again. Whether it is overly spoiled or aggressive, many parents will use the mentality of educating their children in life to treat their other half.

Whether it is for children or adults, excessive doting and dominance will only make children and their parents, the other half and themselves, feel disgusted. With a family that has a disagreement, it's easy to start to go downhill gradually.

Family members do not get along, do not communicate often, and do not know anything about each other's lives, friends, etc.

This kind of family is generally not in harmony. There is no enterprising spirit. People are very lazy and not industrious.

Bad characteristics of the family, there are many manifestations!! For example, people in the family don't care much about each other, and they like to think only about themselves......I don't like to do big and small things at home, and some will scold at home, lose my temper, and throw things!! In serious cases, beatings and all kinds of violent acts ......Some of them are more serious because they are wrong, and no one is allowed to say that they are not ......

The family is not harmonious, and the family members are lazy to do it! Doesn't socialize with neighbors!

The family has no financial income, and the husband and wife always fight, and the parents do not want to see each other, such a life is really bad.

Lack of effective communication, lack of mutual understanding, unreasonable economic arrangements, poor living habits.

Family conflicts, disharmony in life, and economic instability.

Contradictions within the family, disharmony.