My boyfriend doesn t take the initiative and is used to me going and I m good to him

Updated on psychology 2024-04-19
17 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    Well, I also think boys and girls are different! Guys are very active in the early stages of their relationship! Very good!

    But the opposite is true in the later period! Girls may be getting better! More and more like Rely on the put!

    I advise you not to cling to him too much ! In this way, the boy should not know to cherish it! I don't understand your good!

    You can communicate with him well! Tell him what you think about it! If he loves you very much!

    Will change, but maybe you're too sensitive? Boys are in the late stages,。。 Maybe not quite put love you!

    I want you to put these words on your lips! Maybe you feel left out! Actually, no, girls still have to be independent!

    Write about your relationship as equals! You can get angry once in a while! Let him coax you!

    By the way, test if he still cares about you! Oh, as long as he has you in his heart! It's the only one!

    That's it! Be considerate of the boys, they are not good at expressing themselves! Bless you to put!

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    Tell him ... This kind of thing is said to be solved ...

    Maybe he's too focused on his game, or maybe he's interested in something...

    It's best to talk to him.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    My boyfriend too, so I always feel neglected when we are together, and a man should learn to care about his girlfriend. If you are expected to please him and be good to him all your life. Are we too tired, women should be the ones who are protected, I say this, do you understand?

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    The first thing to do is to ask him if he still really loves you.

    If yes, if yes, then you can rule out the first question you mentioned (is the relationship weakened) Secondly, some boys will like their girlfriends to stick to themselves and rely on themselves, and there will be two results in the long run: 1. Boys also take care of their girlfriends. 2. Boys gradually become dominant, relative to you will become an accessory, such an outcome is, your heart will be very tired, if the direction of development is not good, your status in his eyes will gradually decrease, usually this kind of man is more arrogant, self-centered, and does not care about other people's feelings.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    Hello dear <>

    If you really like him, don't be filial piety and continue to be with him. In fact, sometimes, two complementary people will be together for a long time, not necessarily together every day, and at the same time if they really love each other. Will dive later.

    I really like you, the other party's personality is shy, but the attitude towards you is good, in fact, such a boy really doesn't have any complicated thoughts, he just wants to behave in front of the girl he likes. Scumbag! I have a college friend like this, QQ, there are several women in WeChat, and the reply is fast, but he takes the initiative to find a woman to talk to every day.

    You should pay attention to whether it is really necessary to know that a good boyfriend is not! You can ask him to have a face-to-face conversation, only when the problem is clarified can it be better handled, there is nothing to be ashamed of!

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    1. It may be that your boyfriend doesn't have much interest in you yourself, but he usually wants to have a girlfriend, so he will take the initiative to be enthusiastic about you.

    I once saw such a man, when the two were in love at the beginning, they were still very enthusiastic, and they would take the initiative to send messages to girls and call **. But then after the two people are together, the boy will only care about the girl when the two get along, in addition, they are too indifferent to the girl, and they will not take the initiative to send messages to the girl, nor will they take the initiative to call the girl**, unless they really need help or have something, they are almost more like transparent people for girls, and then the two of them slowly broke up.

    Second, it may be that your boyfriend wants to have his own independent space in private, so when he is not with you, he wants to be alone and do his own things.

    There are some men who actually love their girlfriends very much, but their love may only be limited to when their girlfriends are together, and at this time they will put all their energy into their girlfriends. But if they have their own independent space, they just want to play games or do their own things, and when doing these things, they don't want others to disturb them, they want to have a space of their own, so if his girlfriend calls him and sends him a message at this time, he will feel very annoyed.

    3. It is possible that the boyfriend is usually busy with work, so he will spend more time on work, and he is not particularly passionate about the behavior of mobile phone chatting, and he does not have enough time.

    There are some workaholics in life who want to improve themselves in their careers, so even in the face of ** or messages from their girlfriends, they don't care too much. More often than not, they will reply to messages at work rather than reply to their girlfriends, and over time, they may forget about the fact that their girlfriends sent them messages, which will happen many times, which means that your boyfriend is a career-oriented boyfriend.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    When I encounter difficulties, my boyfriend never takes the initiative to lend a hand, and I think this is a sign of not loving you. If this man loves you, he won't leave you alone, if he loves you, he will pay attention to your every move anytime and anywhere, and when you are in trouble, he will definitely stand up

    1. If he doesn't take the initiative to help you when you encounter difficulties, it means that he doesn't love you

    If the man who loves you will not be so cold to you, he will not ignore you, on the contrary, he will pay attention to you, and will be particularly concerned about the difficulties you encounter, he will do his best to help you get through the difficulties, and he will tell you loudly "Don't be afraid, I am here".

    If this man refuses to come out to help you when you are in trouble, this is a sign of not loving you.

    Second, the refusal to take the initiative to help you solve the problem means that your position in his mind has changed

    When the two fall in love together, usually the boy will care about the woman very much, and sometimes he will be more careful than himself, so the friend in the copywriting or book, I think your position in your boyfriend's mind has changed, you are no longer the most important person in his mind, his love for you is not as strong as before, so he will not take the initiative to help you solve difficulties.

    If he loves you, he will definitely not be like this, he will take the initiative to accompany you, take care of you, and he will take the initiative to help you solve difficulties.

    3. This kind of boy who doesn't put you in his heart, you can choose to share the hands with him

    When you can't feel his care and care for you in him, you can consider breaking up, there is no need to put your good years on a man who does not have himself in his heart.

    You can also have a good chat with him, tell him that you need his help, see how he will choose, if he is still unwilling to take the initiative to lend a hand, then there is really nothing to say, this kind of man who does not love you should break up early, so that it is possible to find the other half who really loves you.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    The personalities of men and women in love have different characteristics, some boys are vivid and sunny, and some are shy and introverted. If you meet a reserved boyfriend who doesn't like to take the initiative, can you feel a little tired? And if you still like him very much, how should you guide him to take the initiative?

    Method 1: Girls learn to take the initiative to chat with their boyfriends.

    In fact, it is possible that the boyfriend belongs to the slow-burning type, and this kind of person's personality, even if it is very majestic in the heart, does not know how to express it. Even if you don't know how to tell your feelings to the other party, then the girl needs to take the initiative to take the initiative to chat with her boyfriend, and you will find a topic, so that you can continue to chat.

    Wrong handling:

    Neither of them takes the initiative, no one pays attention to anyone, and after a long time, the relationship will gradually fade.

    The right way to deal with it:

    Girls often take the initiative to chat with their boyfriends, or often ask each other to play around, and this way will also drive the boyfriend very vividly after a long time, so that it will also change the person.

    Method 2: Learn to understand each other.

    It is possible that the boyfriend is still in the stage of first love, and he has never been with a friend of the opposite sex before, so he does not know how to communicate with a friend of the opposite sex, so this is also very normal. When you find that your boyfriend won't take the initiative, you must learn to understand each other, and don't often quarrel with your boyfriend because of such things. The boyfriend will not take the initiative in the relationship, there must be his own reasons, to learn to understand the boyfriend, but also need to learn to think from the other party's point of view.

    Method 3: Be able to inform the other party of your own interests and preferences.

    When you are in a relationship, it is also possible that your boyfriend does not take the initiative because she does not know how to take the initiative. Because I don't understand my personality preferences and don't know what I like in life, my boyfriend will be afraid that if he offends my bottom line, then the relationship will be threatened. Therefore, at this time, you can take the initiative to inform the other party of your interests and preferences, which can make the other party have a better understanding of me and make the other party more active.

    Method 4: Introduce the other party to read more books about emotional intelligence.

    The writer Yishu once said, don't be depressed by your lover's silence and incomprehensible amorous feelings, because time will notify you - the more ordinary the companionship, the more lasting.

    The boyfriend may not take the initiative because the boyfriend's friendship quotient is relatively low, and he doesn't know how to get along with the girlfriend he likes, so if he wants to make better changes to his boyfriend, he can let the other party read more books that improve emotional intelligence.

    Simple summary: When she really meets her boyfriend who doesn't take the initiative, the girl can take the initiative a little bit, which can make the two people complement each other in the relationship, and also make the relationship between the two people more harmonious. Everyone has their own common character, find the right way to communicate, show yourself positively and guide and encourage each other, so that your relationship will get better and better.

  9. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    You can give your boyfriend some hints to make him take the initiative, or take the initiative himself, because if both parties don't take the initiative, the relationship is likely to break down.

  10. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    At this time, I will change my personality, and I will have a very good relationship with the other person, and I will become very distressed. Eventually, there will also be a relationship breakdown.

  11. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    At this time, you have to figure out the reason why he doesn't take the initiative, be mentally prepared, you can also take the initiative to find him yourself, the relationship is maintained by two people.

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    Being active and loving are two different things, probably because your boyfriend's personality is more passive, so if you love him very much, take the initiative yourself!

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    There are also several kinds of love, there is a passive type, your boyfriend does not take the initiative, he may belong to this category, then you take the initiative to love him.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    Maybe he's a straight man, he can't coax girls, he can't take the initiative to chat, it's not that he doesn't love you, or maybe he's embarrassed, more introverted, and not particularly talkative.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    I feel that yes, when a man loves you, he will be willing to pay for you and take the initiative to find you, and if he doesn't take the initiative, he doesn't have much interest in you.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    Yes, if a man loves you, he will never take the initiative, and the person who loves you will take the initiative to chat with you and ask you out to play

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    If I'm guessing correctly, it's probably a sign of unlove. If a person never reaches out to you, they don't care. Normal lovers will contact every day, either you take the initiative or he takes the initiative. If you don't contact him, he won't have any news, and it's obvious that he doesn't love.

    I think relationships need to be managed by two people. It's like running a restaurant, if you run it seriously, it will get better and better. If you fish for three days and dry the net for two days, there will definitely be problems later.

    It's a bit of an exaggeration to say that you don't see each other for a day, at least he can't do it if he has to take the initiative to contact you, do you think there is still love? Disperse early, forget it. If you keep going, you will be the one who will be hurt in the end. Maybe it would be better to let him go for the next stop.

    People in love, whether male or female, I think if it's love, it's impossible not to take the initiative to contact each other, even if it's a very strong and stubborn person. Love is a poison that will dominate you to do things that you never do, drive yourself to probe for the other person's information, and a strong possessiveness will make you want to know the other person's every move.

    Love is selfish and domineering, possessive everyone has it, but some people show it more strongly, and some people are a little more restrained, but this does not affect love. A person who loves you, and he can't help but not contact you.

    If it is because of something that causes him to suddenly not take the initiative, you should meet and talk calmly to resolve the misunderstanding, if you both cherish this relationship, love each other, and don't contact just for the sake of anger, I believe he will give you the opportunity to meet and talk.

    If there is no problem or you have always taken the initiative, I would say that he does not love you, or has someone he loves more. Falling out of love is not terrible, what is terrible is the use of cold violence to hurt an innocent person. Whatever the outcome, it's better to face it directly than to speculate and be anxious all day long.

    I believe that people in love are not unable to see the truth, but they still have a trace of luck and are unwilling to admit it. Face your own heart, it doesn't matter if others don't love you, it's enough to love yourself.

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