How to manage a long term relationship and what are the tips?

My husband and I have been dating for nearly nine years, and we are still in love, and I call him Mr. In a hundred years of my life, I only have eight years of love history, which is not short but far from being long, and I am not qualified to oppose "the relationship will be dull after a long time", but I do not agree with this concept, and the relationship can always be beautiful. I think that operating with heart is like keeping boiling water warm all the time, boiling water will slowly cool down if it is not warmed over low heat, and the secret of a long-term good relationship is so simple, it is important to be attentive and persistent.

No matter what you do, the other party does not owe you and is not obligated to repay you. He is not obligated because you do what you do. I was attracted to my husband at first sight, and I copied and saved it by hand from the first text message he sent me, and then chose to transcribe it.

I collect our movie tickets by year, I remember the details of his impression of me in word, so far there are more than 400 small details, every time I get angry, I take it out to see his benefits to calm down, and I will write love letters on anniversaries. So what, I don't need him to be moved, and he has no obligation to do it like me. Don't have "what happened to me for him, why can't he do something for me", what you do for him is what you want.

I suddenly ate a delicious xiaolong, and immediately took a long detour on the subway for an hour and a half to send him a supper and then go home alone, should he be moved and then better for me? There's no need, it's what I'm willing to do, that's all.

If two people want to get along for a long time, they have to accept each other's shortcomings, especially the worst one, as long as they accept this, everything else is easy to say.

I think you should remember the other person's birthday first, and then remember to bring him a souvenir on holidays or when you go out.

Do not reverse the other party's interests, the impact of interest on lovers is not as simple as personal hobbies, and both parties will retain a sense of freshness over time. For example, I like succulents, he likes turtles, and after that, our date place often becomes to explore various flower and bird markets, which is different from the feeling of eating and dating before. He has his hobbies, I have mine, and it's not quite the same.

Even when he goes out to work out, I just sit at home and pretend to cheer him on. He likes to watch anime, I like to watch documentaries, it's okay, don't give in, one person on the computer and one person on the ipad, and glance at it from time to time.

Don't guess "will he not love me anymore", "what if he doesn't want me anymore", "is he someone outside", in fact, love or not is the most unnecessary to guess, you can even "seem to be not in love" can be perceived, such a keen insight, when he "no longer love", you can still not know? Their way of thinking is really different from ours, and what we think of, they often don't understand. Our reasoning is often a curve, but when it comes to the man, it is just a straight line.

If you're still suspicious, it's probably because you've made him the center of your life. You have girlfriends, friends, family, career, and yourself, and if you feel restless, you might as well cultivate a little personal interest, such as practicing yoga, learning tea art, learning another language, and so on. Shift your focus to your own life, and when you are as beautiful as a goddess, you will always worry that he will not like you?

Many women are worried that they will start to decline after the age of 25, and they are worried that the other party will change their minds when they are old. There are also some women who think that 18 and 25 is their own ** period, and since then they have begun to depreciate, and they should take advantage of their youth to find a better one, and it will not be easy to find it again when they are older. At this time, men of the same age are at the lowest point, and even if they don't break up, they will be disgusted and dissatisfied in their hearts, which will lead to quarrels.

Don't worry, it's not aggrieved to love the person you want to love when you're young. You can also be more beautiful, have higher aesthetics, be more empathetic, have more knowledge, and be more familiar with words and colors.

Small work is pleasant, big work hurts the body. When he apologizes, let's not ask "what is wrong with you", okay, stop being coquettish and impatient. Men and women really think differently on many things, and it's impossible to talk about it when they quarrel, "how to fall in love with different genders" Do you think this sentence is just a joke?

1. For those dual-income families, the daily contradiction is nothing more than the disproportionality between the pay and the gain.

In the eyes of many husbands, they have been fighting for this family all day, and when they return home, they should get enough rest.

Second, in the same way, the wife also worked for a day. She was reluctant to go home and face all the trivial matters, which led to an argument.

But in fact, the question is never who does how much, but how the other party perceives the other party's contribution.

When anyone tries to do something, he doesn't want to be late, the other party just enjoys the result and ignores his own efforts.

In other words, the out-of-home out-of-home is a contribution to the family, and the care of the home is also a kind of contribution, both of which should not be ignored.

3. For many strong women, the most important problem they need to face is that they don't know how to balance the relationship between family and career.

They are accustomed to putting some rules in the workplace into their own family management, which is actually impersonal.

Whether it is the male protagonist outside the female protagonist, or the female protagonist outside the male protagonist, in essence, everyone hopes that your home can become better.

On the premise of establishing this relationship, then you need to be able to negotiate and analyze some specific problems.

This is not the kind of quantitative assessment at work, but a manifestation of a pair of people who love each other to face problems in life together.

In other words, it is not easy for people who work hard outside the home, whether it is the coping of interpersonal relationships or physical fatigue.

Then, the other party should naturally help to share more, but this sharing should not be taken for granted.

The business process of marriage depends on whether the two people can work together, whether you care about each other, and more importantly, whether you can negotiate with each other.

Fourth, people's energy is always limited, so people who attach importance to their careers will definitely neglect their families and vice versa.

However, since you have made a choice, please trust and respect the other person, and consider others not only for yourself.

If you say, love is only about the pleasure of two people. That marriage is more important, whether you have met a suitable partner.

There are no perfect options in life, and your partner cannot be an absolutely perfect person.

Everyone will have a temper, and they will have their own unbearable and regretful. Accepting each other and taking care of each other is a shared responsibility of two people.