How to deal with one s worldly causes

Therefore, if you want to study, you should first be a living person with a heart and feelings, so that you can cherish all things around you, and only then will you experience the happiness and freedom of the world, and love the world with enthusiasm like all Buddhas and Bodhisattvas, and then love all the sources to save them, and give your life for them without regrets. However, the most important thing is to be like them, pure and untainted love, great compassion, not ordinary love that is emotionally involved, selfish, and delusional, and has limited and narrow boundaries, which is impure and tainted love, and should gradually be cut off from the compassionate and selfless love that returns to the original heart.

What is impure and unadulterated love? For example, parents to their children, they have no regrets to pay, and at the same time always hope that their children grow up safely, work hard, get ahead, they hope that he is excellent, at least satisfied, at least most of the places are in line with their expectations, they do not need to ask their children to return filial piety to them, but they really hope that their sons will become dragons, and their daughters will become phoenixes. Many of us have had the experience that when our academic performance or our performance is not good, they are deeply distressed, they may reprimand us, they may sigh secretly, they may change their expectations of us; When we travel away from them, "children travel thousands of miles to worry about their mothers", their hearts are also gone with us, they will always worry about us, think about whether we are good outside, the weather in the **** area, tell us how to eat and rest on time to pay attention to the body, not once or twice, but again and again reminders, has been worried about our stability and even sleepless all night, they have forgotten themselves for us, completely selfless love for their children.

But they are so tied that we seem to be living in their eyes all the time, this life is like this, maybe they want to take care of us like this in the next life, around us, so that life after life is entangled, the karma is intertwined, and the family affection of parents has become the fate of reincarnation!

For example, lovers. The most ideal thing is to have the person who has become a person to enter the Tao together, but real life is not imagination, when we are studying, because of the different causes and conditions, it is difficult to completely cut off the family karma within a certain period of time, but we can't either/or, either immediately cut off the world's love and escape into the empty door, or continue to wait for the fate to disappear and then come to the Tao. Studying is a middle way, and I have never said that being a monk is the true way of studying, and that I can't really understand at home.

It lies in the fact that there is no boundary between one's renunciation bodhichitta and the sharpening of one's mind and the opening of wisdom. So how do we deal with our former lover, how do we study in accordance with the Dharma at the same time, and how can we subtly influence him to plant the seeds of good karma and liberation for him?