Falling in love is a hard thing, why do people try to be painful and sad

That's all that the brother said earlier.

I'll just say it here, people are very impulsive when they are young, they are not sensible, and they are easy to make mistakes, so.

There is sweetness and pain when you are in love, and as time goes by, people slowly mature, they are no longer so impulsive, and there will be a complete and happy word, marriage is not necessarily a grave, so many people will experience this, and it is not an attempt.

Love is a game that you can't afford to lose, when you give it all, what you leave behind may only be a scar engraved in the bottom of your heart, although it is so, it is worth it, persistent. People are often like this, once they lose something, they will know how to cherish it and cherish it. There's a saying that goes like this:

The farthest distance in the world is not life and death, but I am standing in front of you, but you don't know that I love you. There is nothing more painful in the world than this. Love is a very simple thing, but it is also a very complicated thing, as long as you face it with your heart.

Let yourself leave a little regret and a little regret!

People must go through ups and downs, sadness, pain, and happiness, and they have to go through these, and that is called life.

Because only when people are sad and painful will they cherish joy and happiness.

Because you don't experience wind and rain, you can't see a rainbow.

Oh. People are tired of facing the pressure of work every day, and they are troubled. Tired, so feel tired. Sad. Suffering.

Only by experiencing pain can we grow up and cherish happy days better.

When you are faced with this or that decision, when you don't know which way to go, when you are confused, when you are at a loss and about to lose yourself, you will think in your heart, how can there be so many things difficult for us when you grow up! But the people who should face it have to face it the same, and the things that should be done must be done in the same way! When I grow up and mature, I have a responsibility to myself and my family!

People always have to grow up, even though we don't want to!

You're not the other party, how do you know that people aren't sad, it's really tangled with one person.

Satisfied. Without love, people are only shells, like the walking dead.

Why pain? I believe you must be a pessimist when you ask this question. But we must be clear, living in the middle of the loss is our greatest happiness, at least you still have the right to ask questions in soso, and I can give you more or less answers or comfort, we may face God to all kinds of failures and setbacks, but negative in exchange for more negative results, if we can be excited, live to have the joy of suffering, our life will never lack sunshine.

I used to fall out of love, which made me very miserable, but once when I was eating Malatang, I saw a roadside asking for food, and I realized that what I experienced was only a small setback, and after I was excited, I gained a new love two months later. As long as people are sunny to life, life will always be sunny to you! Pull yourself together!

Enjoy this life! No matter what has happened, the happiness of the next second is up to you!

Because I was born.

"Do you want to see the subject's phone?" ”

This question can be asked by different fans almost every day in the background.

Many people always like to look at the object's mobile phone in love, and they will never give up until they swipe something.

When we open Zhihu or a certain love drama casually, we can often see the story of the protagonist looking through the subject's mobile phone and finding evidence of the other party's betrayal.

Look, it's because they're afraid of losing each other from the bottom of their hearts.

But they forget, if they really see the problem, won't they also lose each other?

And if they don't see a problem, will the subject be able to tolerate their repeated distrust and sensitivity?

Kai Ge knows that what these people are looking for is a sense of security.

But I also have a lot of friends around me, who looked at the subject's mobile phone, but found nothing, but attracted the object's disgust, and after falling into the infamy of "hypochondria" and "neuroticism", I had no choice but to break up.

Because there are too many friends who ask this question in the background, I will talk about my opinion here today:

I don't recommend looking through your partner's phone, because only a relationship that doesn't require you to be scheming and cautious will make both parties feel comfortable and relaxed, and will naturally show their true selves.

I think love itself should be very sweet, and you will feel very sweet and happy when you are with him.

The most painful thing in love is that you can't love each other, two people obviously love each other very much, but in the end they can't enter into marriage.

Some fell in love with each other and entered into marriage, and eventually divorced.

These are the most painful things and the most irreparable things.

There should be many reasons for this result, some misunderstand that the other party does not love themselves enough, and they do not compromise with each other to save the relationship.

finally ended this relationship, in fact, both of them should love each other, but neither of them let go of their self-esteem to get close to each other, which makes it regrettable and distressing.

Some two people love each other very much, their parents oppose it, they have to give up this relationship, and finally find someone they don't love, and the marriage is unhappy, and they have always felt regret and distress.

There are two people who pursue one person at the same time, and in the end one person wins, he loses, he can't love, he has low self-esteem and distress.

The most painful blow should be that they are obviously in love with each other and are happy in all aspects, but they are married.

The two did not manage their marriage well, and finally divorced when they had children, and they couldn't give their children a complete home, and they couldn't forget the town and disturb an unforgettable love, so they could only bear the pain of each other.

Some people can't get out of their lives, although they still love their ex in their hearts when they marry someone else, it should be the true love of their lives, and the pain carved into their bones is only known to themselves.

Whether it is love or marriage, you must take it seriously, so that you will not have heartache and regret, life is very short, only once the light time allows you to choose, there is no turning back, and do and cherish.

Falling in love is a pleasant thing, as long as people are in love, they feel that the spirit is sublimated rather than painful Keep the mentality of a bystander Don't lose yourself Maybe she is not suitable for you with you.

How painful is it Why do many people feel happy like never before.

Love is like coffee, it is very pure and bitter, but it leads people to try. But sometimes it changes the taste, it is sweet, it makes people sweet to the heart, and it is bitter and astringent, which makes it difficult to accept. But it's hard to extricate yourself!

Because there will be setbacks along the way, and the feeling of love that no one can describe. Also, are you unrequited or not.

Because the other person doesn't know your love for her, it's painful.

Because the two people who are in love are like two stabbing stupid hedgehogs rushing together, getting close, it hurts; Far away, think. Only by pulling out the general thorns, can we be together. But patience is required.

So it's easy to love, but it's hard to be together. Only by loving all that he has can he pull out the stinger. Instead of hurting each other.

Love is pampering, not harm.

Pain and happiness go hand in hand.

Thinking about love itself is not painful, and thinking about you is painful.

Because unrequited love is a cool cup of coffee. But unrequited love does not have to be painful, and those who can endure this cup of bitter coffee will naturally be able to taste sweetness from it. And those who can't bear this bitterness, naturally can't taste the sweetness, and naturally feel pain, such people should change their taste, maybe fragrant milk tea is their favorite.

If you don't get what you want, you will gain and lose. If you fall out of love, you must be confident

It doesn't have to be extreme. It's good to look at the point of everything. Self-confidence can withstand anything. Doing more things you like is good for your mood.

Do better, and firmly believe that losing you will be the biggest loss for the other party.

Falling in love is the process of getting to know each other, and it is normal to continue if it is suitable, and it is normal to break up if you don't get along. Don't be too entangled, be happy, as long as you work hard to be yourself, when fate really comes, you will naturally find your other half.

If you are out of love, you must be confident, calm, relieved, and not entangled

People have their own aspirations, and different ways do not conspire with each other. Knowing oneself and knowing one's opponent, life is constantly choosing, choosing what you pursue, choosing what you like, and choosing the right one.

1. After a period of love, the boy is not as enthusiastic as before, and the girl is confused.

2. A girl falls in love with a married man, and it is difficult to give up the relationship through a period of contact, but she is afraid that she will not get real love.

3. The pain of long-distance love. Because of graduation and work, many college student couples work in different cities, can the previous relationship still be maintained?

4. After discovering that my lover was in love with several girls at the same time, it was very painful.

5. In the relationship period, the parents of the boy and the girl have conflicts, and the girl is very painful to be caught in the middle.

6. After being in love for a period of time, the girl has been very emotionally involved, but suddenly finds the boy's "fatal" shortcomings, and the girl doesn't know how to treat her relationship?

7. Find a boy who has been in love for a while, but her parents don't agree, and the girl is sad.

8. Because you need to leave your parents because of marriage, you are miserable.

Some mothers respond erratically to their child's attachment needs: sometimes they meet their child's needs, sometimes they don't. Such a child cannot establish a stable sense of security, and on the one hand, he uses all his strength, trying to attract the attention of his mother with crying, so as to satisfy his attachment needs; On the other hand, he was angry that he had been given a cold shoulder.

His mother became the same source of his pleasure and pain, and his physical and emotional experience of pleasure and satisfaction alternated with anger and sadness, thus forming his ambivalent feelings of love and hatred for his mother. This kind of child is called an attachment child.

Their need for attachment is always present after adulthood, and this attachment tendency manifests prominently when they enter into an intimate relationship.

The central grievance of their conflict in intimate relationships is:

When I need you, you're always there. ”

Their demands for intimacy seem to be never-ending, and whenever they feel that they are being ignored by the other person, they feel abandoned, angry, and afraid. They tend to be intensely possessive, demanding the attention of the other person at all times, and cannot tolerate the slightest neglect and cold reception.