Is the bride price higher in the poorer the place where marriage is? Can you tell us how outrageous

I saw on the Internet that it seems that the poorer the higher the demand, but the bride price in my hometown is generally less than 60,000, which is not very exaggerated, but there is a girl who asked for 160,000 when she got married, but the man doesn't care if he is rich.

As far as my personal feeling is concerned, many places with very poor development want the bride price is often amazingly high, such as the bride price in some areas of Guizhou in the south can soar to more than 200,000 yuan, for an ordinary family, buy a house and buy a car and then take so much bride price is really powerless.

No, my hometown is a very poor kind of place, but the bride price is generally about 20,000 yuan, which is not very exaggerated. After all, there are still more people who understand the reason and know moderation.

Our family is in a small county, and I feel that the bride price in a big city is higher! A few years ago, the bride price on our side was only more than 10,000, but now it has become 66,000 or 88,000, and those who have money will give 100,000 and 100.

My hometown in Xinjiang is probably a nationally recognized poverty-stricken area, although I don't want to admit it. However, the most expensive bride price around me is more than 30,000 yuan and less than 40,000 yuan, and most of the others are about 10,000 to 20,000 yuan.

I think that if you can afford the bride price, you can pay it directly, and if you can't afford it, you can pay it in installments, and it is not that the poorer the place, the higher the bride price, which has a lot to do with local education. But it is not denied: the poorer the place, the more important it is to save face. So with those hundreds of thousands of bride prices.

My hometown of Guizhou is really poor. The bride price for a girl to marry someone else (ordinary person) is 220,000 yuan, and I am here in Guangzhou is more than 60,000 yuan, so I am probably really poor and crazy, and I think I can improve my life by doing more, I can understand it, but I think it is too much.

It means that this is the case, the bride price for girls in our village is very high when they get married, no matter how economical the man is, it must be 120,000 yuan, if a boy from an ordinary family marries a wife, he will generally become called Huazi, and he really can't afford to marry.

Take a very poor place as an example, I understand that it is not easy for parents to raise their daughters, if they don't want money, they marry the man and don't cherish it, the bride price is high, even if they don't cherish people, they don't dare to be casual for the sake of money. However, it still depends on the man's economy, and some of the woman's parents are too much.

This still has to be divided into places, or it should be specific to the woman's parents. Reasonable parents will set the bride price according to the man's situation, and some are purely selling their daughters, the higher the better, but the most terrible thing is that their wives also agree to this practice, which is really cold.

What we have there is not a few thousand.

The poorer the place, the higher the bride price, in fact, it is just a symptom, why do you say this, in fact, it seems that the bride price is high, but on the other hand, is it not economical to get married now?

And the bigger the city, the more economically developed the area, the higher the cost of marriage, maybe ten years ago, the total cost of marriage may only be hundreds of thousands, now all counted, house, car decoration, furniture, electrical appliances, hand decoration, banquet honeymoon, may be in the first and second tier cities if it is solved in full, at least one million.

In fact, the bride price is actually a small part of the expenditure in these cities and regions, and the real estate and car that most of the marriage needs to be purchased are generally not counted, so it makes people feel that the marriage expenditure in developed areas is not too high, in fact, if you think about it carefully, the expenditure from marriage in these areas is much higher than that in poor areas.

And why the poorer the place will pay attention to the bride price, one is because of the traditional habits, I think that the more the bride price is more important to the woman who marries, and the other point is that the poorer the place, the more tight the conditions in all aspects.

For example, in the current poor areas and rural areas, the higher the demand for the bride price, the more because the man's family conditions are average, and those who often buy houses in the city or settle in the city tend to have relatively low requirements for the bride price.

Therefore, a bride price, on the surface, seems to be because of the problem of gift money, but in fact it reflects the current consideration of the woman's economic conditions for choosing a mate, and the more the woman asks for the bride price, in fact, she wants to have a guarantee for her future life through the bride price, so under the premise that the man can contact him, he will have higher requirements for the bride price.

In fact, if the bride price is considered as a comprehensive expenditure in marriage, the expenditure in poor areas should not be high, if compared to those developed areas, it is not a big number, it can only be said that the poorer the area, the less income will be, so a bride price, it seems that it is that abrupt!

Because if some places are poor, then the education must be relatively low, and many parents have this idea, that is, they have the feeling of selling their daughters.

Because the income in these places is relatively low, the bride price will be raised, which can be a good way for families to increase their income.

Because, the poor place is going to be higher, and you can't help it, because you can't go to the big city, and you have to get married.

Either you go to a big city and the house is more expensive, which forces you to pay the bride price.

There are more men than women, and there is a market economy.

It may be because of these poor places that they don't want their children to continue to be poor, so the bride price is higher.

First, the bride price is under heavy pressure.

Nowadays, many people say that because prices have risen, the bride price has also increased, and this is part of the reason. The reality is that most women in marriage inevitably pay for having children, and many families in rural areas prefer to have boys. Even today, abortions occur in some rural areas, just to avoid having a girl.

This results in a very large number of men and a small number of women in rural areas. Scarcity is expensive, so the bride price will only get higher and higher. Because the bride price is getting higher and higher, many families who can't get married, or who are married, still want to have a boy.

Second, the feudal mentality in the rural areas is serious.

The cognitive level of many rural people is still stuck in the matter of getting married, having children, and passing on the family lineage. But many girls are aware of this backward thinking after being educated, so when choosing a future partner, they hope that the other party will not have too many feudal thoughts. However, there has been limited improvement in the cognitive level of rural people, including some educated boys in rural areas.

As a result, many girls refuse to marry people from the same village, or marry into the countryside.

3. The level of education has been raised.

Among the post-70s or post-80s, there are still some people who have not received a full nine-year compulsory education, but most of the post-90s have received a complete nine-year compulsory education, and many even go to university. When the level of education increases, people's minds will change. Some people think that marriage is a burden, because the responsibilities to be borne after marriage are too heavy, but it is not as good as the state of two people together when they are in love.

Some people think that once they get married, they will face the urging of their parents, and the pressure of life after giving birth to children is endless oppression, and they dare not do anything they like. Therefore, the improvement of education level has affected everyone's attitude towards marriage and love, and naturally they don't want to get married. <>

The bride price is only part of it, and many girls in rural areas have gone to other places and never returned to their local areas, and men in rural areas earn relatively little money, which makes it difficult to get married.

Yes, it is because the current bride price is indeed very high, and it will also make many people unable to find a partner in their lives, so that many rural people cannot afford it.

It's really like this, and now the bride price is getting higher and higher, which also makes it more and more difficult for everyone to get married.

After all, there are too few girls in the countryside now.

Twenty years ago, living conditions in the countryside were basically the same. There is not much choice, it doesn't matter how much the bride price is, as long as you can live a simple life.

Now, with the improvement of living conditions, some peasants make jeans and go out of their homes to work, and some diligent people have started at home to breed and breed economically. As a result, there is a huge disparity between the rich and the poor in rural areas. It doesn't matter how much the bride price does if a rich person marries a daughter-in-law, just look good at the girl.

It was very difficult for people who had no money to find a daughter-in-law, so they took a little bride price and borrowed it. Even when you get married, it's very sad.

Today's girls are not like 9 years old, when husbands and wives can share ups and downs, work hard and work together for the happiness of the family.

And now the girl goes out to work very early, and she has tasted the bitterness of having no money and the happiness of having money. I want to find a rich family and suffer less for the rest of my life. Therefore, it has caused the current high dowry, asking for a car, and having a house in the city.

The reason why there is a sky-high bride price is mainly caused by the imbalance in the proportion of men and women. Moreover, the wind of sky-high bride price cannot be contained, and now the rural comparison wind is too strong. Marrying a daughter-in-law should also be in the spirit of going out and marrying in.

Don't just look at the acres and cents around you.

Young people should ask for a bride price when they get married, which is to effectively test the attitude of the other party, whether they really put the woman in their hearts, but they should not ask for a sky-high bride price. The bride price is a kind of gratitude to the woman's parents, and it is also a manifestation of her sincerity.

The origin of the bride price.

The bride price was born in an agrarian society. At that time, after the man sent the woman to the door, this meant that there was an increase in the number of people who worked, and in the poor years of the time, one more person meant that he could effectively share more burdens, effectively promote and survive. But the relative woman's family will inevitably lack a labor force, and the children she has worked hard to raise need to go to someone else's home, as a parent, there will naturally be some unwillingness, which will not only have emotional investment, but also cost investment.

For the woman's family, marrying a daughter is a loss, so it is reasonable that they will choose to ask for a bride price.

The initial role of the bride price.

In the feudal society at that time, the daughter would become a person in the man's family after marrying out, and she was generally not allowed to return to her mother's home, and basically there was no connection with her mother's family, so a patriarchal custom would be formed in the society at that time. The initial effect of the bride price is nothing more than some material compensation given by the man's family in order to thank the woman's family for their nurturing grace.

**Bride price. But today's society has gradually evolved, and the bride price in modern society seems to have become an exchange of interests, which makes countless men feel more stressed. In 2020, the national average bride price is about 10,000 yuan, and the relatively high is in Zhejiang, and the relatively low is in Chongqing.

Behind the gradual increase of the bride price** is also a trend for interests, after all, you can make yourself more than 100,000 yuan for no reason, no matter who you are, you will feel some heartbeat. Although nominally this may be his son-in-law, countless people will still point to their own children, such as the more bride price Qing Wuguo wants to come, it means that his children have better protection of rights and interests.

Although in recent years, the bride price in some areas**, many people's comparison psychology has increased, which has become a major obstacle for young people to get married. Society is progressing, people's living standards are improving, the younger and younger generation is more open, early cohabitation is only a short-term lifestyle for young men and women, will not say not to get married, long-term cohabitation, in this way, in case of having children, how to settle down, the law is not allowed. Since ancient times, women have wanted a name that seems to have little to do with in marriage, and if they don't get married, how can they get a name, is it difficult to rely on a promise?

Long-term cohabitation, even if the man is happy, the woman's parents will not agree, and the ratio of men and women is seriously imbalanced, there will be many people who just grit their teeth and want their sons to get married.

In college or those men and women who have an emotional foundation, they may be realistic, but if you meet in society or on a blind date, then you are absolutely whimsical. Nowadays people are very realistic, not only girls, but boys are actually very realistic, you have no money, who would want to play friends with you? You don't have a house or a car, why should people live with you, are you handsome?

There is no bride price, but there is less pressure on the woman's family, but you have to take into account the woman's own resources, you have nothing, you want people to marry you, there are too few such girls in society, it is rare! What's more, people don't want to talk to you.

The bride price, I feel that it is mainly different from person to person, some parents may not pay much attention to this, some are more traditional, it may be very heavy, mainly depends on the relationship between the two of you, to see if you are self-motivated and ambitious! If the high-quality stocks, it doesn't matter how much the bride price, as long as the interests are equal, there will be someone willing to go down with you in today's society, ever-changing, competition is white, especially young people outside the system, not only difficult to find employment, but also work intensively, often overtime, physically and mentally very tired. If you get married and start a family, you have to have children, take care of family affairs, and your expenses will also double, and if you don't handle it well, it will not only lead to career and family conflicts, but even affect the relationship between husband and wife.