Did you know that there are many things you can do to overcome fear?

If you want to overcome your fear, you need to know what you are afraid of8 first! Then find its weak point and do everything you can to break through.

It's like playing h1z1 for fear of melee combat, other people's trolls are always ruthlessly sprayed in your face, making you die. To be honest, I was scared at first. When I learned that if I switched to first person in melee, my hit efficiency would be much higher.

So I started the road of shooting with other people. It also turns out that when I switch first-person and kill multiple enemy people, that sense of accomplishment makes my fear disappear in an instant.

To put it bluntly, the so-called fear. It's the worry of the unknown. When we do something for the first time, we have fear in our hearts, and in the unknown territory, we are afraid of encountering all kinds of difficulties and being in a dilemma.

At this time, all we can do is tell ourselves that it is not a big deal, and then try to understand the problem we are encountering and do our best to solve it.

I have been doing foreign trade for many years, but there has always been a stuck point that has not broken through, that is, I take the initiative to call the customer.

In fact, I think that my spoken English is okay, and the communication with customers is smooth, but even so, I am still afraid to call customers. So in the matter of playing **, I am procrastinating.

But just now, I actually called a foreigner without any psychological barriers, in order to confirm the ** request.

From dialing ** to communicating specific things, the whole process was very silky, and it took 2 minutes to get it done. The important thing is that I am extremely calm. [surprised].

Putting down, I can't help but wonder, what the hell is going on here? Why did you suddenly change so much?

Come to think of it, I think there are only 2 points:

1.I value my time more.

In the past, there was no reply from the customer, and I would wait for all kinds of things, one day, two days, a week, anyway, I was not in a hurry. (Sister has time, wait.) )

But since joining the regular investment life class, I have gradually realized the preciousness of time.

What is the difference between the same thing, others can do it in a few minutes, and you have to do it for several days? It seems that what is lost is only time, but in fact, it is the possibility of creating value by yourself.

If you want to make your time valuable, you must pay attention to the input-output ratio of time.

2.Do what you fear, and the fear will disappear.

When we are afraid to do something, we will make up for the losses caused by it in various ways. Before it even started, it was already defeated by itself.

But the truth is, when you take it as just a life experience and face your fear, the fear disappears. Because your attention has shifted to what you're doing, you simply don't have time to think about your feelings.

So, the next time you encounter difficulties, it's better to act first, no matter what the outcome is, than to sit there and think about it. Because as long as you do things, you will have experience, and you will think about how to do better.

Encourage everyone

Fear is a very common emotion, and everyone faces their own different fears. For me, my biggest fear is the loss of my family and friends.

The loss of loved ones and friends is an unavoidable pain. When someone close to us leaves this world, they take a part of our hearts with them. It is an irreparable loss that leaves us feeling lonely, lost, and sad.

I have experienced the death of a loved one, and the pain and grief are so overwhelming that I can barely control myself. Every time I think of them, I feel psychological pain and unease.

In addition to losing loved ones and friends, I was also afraid of being alone. People are social creatures, and we need to interact and connect with other people. If I am isolated or forgotten, I feel lonely, helpless, and depressed.

I love being with friends and family and sharing my life and happiness. If I am isolated or isolated, I lose my self-confidence and courage and feel unable to cope with life's challenges.

Also, I was very afraid of failure. Failure allows us to grow and learn, but it also brings frustration and loss. I'm afraid to try new things or fail in the face of challenges.

If I fail, I feel like I'm not doing my best, not living up to my expectations and requirements. This failure made me feel incompetent and disappointed.

In addition to these general fears, there are specific things that I am afraid of. For example, I'm afraid to fly. While I can logically and rationally explain that flying is a relatively safe mode of transportation, I always feel fear when I stand at the door of an airplane.

I'm also afraid of reptiles like snakes and Kei-seem spiders. When I confront these animals, I feel my heart racing, my body trembling, and I can barely control my emotions.

In conclusion, fear is a very complex and personal emotion. Everyone has their own fears, whether it's the loss of loved ones and friends, loneliness, failure, or something specific. It takes courage and confidence to face your fears, and we need to learn to face our fears and try to overcome them.

By facing our fears, we can boost our self-confidence and courage and make ourselves stronger and more resilient.

The biggest proposal failure in my career was an ordinary project planning project for Shanghai Vanke, because one person unexpectedly appeared in the venue that day: the CEO of the Shanghai branch.

Seeing the big boss of the customer walk into the venue, I believe most people have the same feeling as me: huge psychological pressure and a little excitement equal to 100% nervousness.

At that time, I had already mastered a lot of the skills of client proposals, such as using storytelling to attract people's attention, but it was this skill that caused me to suffer Waterloo.

The story prepared in advance was only told at the beginning, and was ruthlessly interrupted by the "domineering president's draft pants", and he said expressionlessly: "Let's just say that the conclusion is flat."

I was stunned for a moment, and there was a cold scene for more than ten seconds, and when I came back to my senses and officially started the lecture, the big boss had already begun to talk to the people next to me, and the whole proposal process continued.

The result can be imagined: "The plan is not mature, go back and think again." ”

When most employees face to face with a big boss who is more than two levels above them, they can't resist the invisible sense of oppression, resulting in abnormal performance, just like how we feel when we face the unsmiling principal when we go to school. I call it "big boss phobia". The question is, how did it come to be?

Facing fear is the best way to deal with "phobias", and below, I will lead you into a hypothetical case and delve into the inner world of the big bosses, the source of fear.

Plan A, a large project led by your department and completed by several departments, will be officially reported to the big boss today after countless all-night discussions and debriefing exercises. If passed, in the next two years, your department will become the star of the company's performance growth, and the opportunities for project members to be promoted and raised will be multiplied.

And you are an insignificant and indispensable member of this team.

And, in today's debriefing, you will have one opportunity to speak, which will last for five minutes. Don't underestimate these 5 minutes, this should be the first time in your life that you have the opportunity to let the CEO, two vice presidents, three directors, and a dozen or so middle managers listen to you pitch an idea at the same time.

So one thing to keep in mind is that a day's salary for these people is your year's salary, and if you don't understand their way of thinking, then you're going to be losing more to the company than you've ever done before.

Fear is an innate human emotion, and of course it can be overcome. Give the subject a few suggestions for overcoming fears: First, it is okay to see moreBe intentional about the things you are afraid of, if you see more, you will no longer be afraid; The second isDon't put movies into your lifeNo matter how realistic the movie is, it's fake, don't be senseless fear.

1. People have things to fear, and horror movies are one of them, but you will find out if you watch a few moreThe routine template of most horror movies is consistent, Some use a lot of tomato juice to simulate human blood, and some use the sudden appearance of ghost masks to scare people, and after watching too much, you can even figure out what will happen next as the plot and **progress**, prepare in advance, and naturally you won't be afraid.

Of course, there are some more high-end horror films, they no longer pay attention to simple visual effects and auditory effects, but focus on digging out people's inner fears, and create a fear atmosphere through some bodies and wordsI advise the landlord not to try these horror movies, and there is no need to try them, because these ** your girlfriend will probably not watch them.

When watching horror movies, you must not have too strong a sense of substitutionBecause today's horror movies no longer set the scene in cemeteries, mountains, hospitals and other places that are already full of death, more plots are carried out in ordinary people's homes and other living places, which makes it easy for people to empathize with each other, and maintain this fear until the end of the movie for several days. SoFor horror movies, we recommend burning them immediately after reading them, so that the sense of fear drops a lot.

In addition, Lou mainly didn't have the courage to watch horror moviesYou might as well just tell your girlfriend directlyWho doesn't have something they don't want to touch, I believe your girlfriend will understand you. And the things that two people like must not know about watching horror movies, just find other interesting things to do together.

I think if you're scared, why can't you run away? I'm afraid that something must be wrong, why is it necessarily wrong? Everyone has something to fear, we should face up to our own fears, and there is no need for others to ask the other person to change this fear.

It's not a wrong thing to run away, don't look at it if you're afraid, and if she loves you, she will definitely respect your decision. Love should be mutually considerate. Just like I was afraid of caterpillars, my friends didn't force me to like caterpillars.

Ghost movies are really good if you keep watching.,I used to be super scared.,It's mainly the picture that overflows in my mind.,I'm scared of myself.,Later, I watched Japanese and Thai ghost movies every day for a few months.,Slowly I don't feel anything.。 It seems that I am afraid of heights, but I am not familiar with the new height, and if I am in the same position every day, I am not so afraid of the future.

Face it bravely, don't run away, watch it with her, horror movies are not too afraid, and there are no ghosts in the world.

I'm afraid of heights, super afraid of heights, I feel very high on the swing, but I've been on a big pendulum, a flying chair, a roller coaster, a jumper, etc., although I was scared and cried when I came down, but I tried it, I don't regret it at all, I'm very happy.

Start convincing yourself from within yourself. These horror films are made for entertainment only and have no practical meaning. What's more, there are no ghosts in this world at all, horror movies are not scary at all, besides, even if there are really ghosts in this world, there are so many people in the world, but I saw it, what a fortunate thing, I am the son of the devil.

There is generally no good way to overcome horror movies, just watch more, after all, movies are made by people, they all have routines, and if you watch more, you will have experience. Of course, if you can, you can watch the horror movie your girlfriend is going to watch in advance and be mentally prepared. If you really can't do it, you can pull her to cultivate a new hobby together, and when the time comes, you will also do what you like together, and you should accommodate each other in your relationship.

When we encounter something we are afraid of, we need to work hard to overcome it. The more we are afraid of something, the less we want to do it. But it didn't disappear, it was hidden from us.

So we should try to accept it. Slowly reach out and find a place where you can break through. Finding the cause of our fear is the only way to overcome it effectively, and not to try to run away from it.

The more you are afraid of something, the more you must face it bravely, so that you can overcome your fear and have a strong heart.

For horror movies, first of all, you must understand that all this is an illusion, and remind yourself in your heart that what you see is artificial, so you won't be so afraid, and you must believe in science and don't blindly listen to rumors. With this mentality, watch horror movies a few more times, and you won't feel scared.

Since you are afraid of this kind of horror movie, you really can't resist the fear in your heart after trying it many times, then you can talk to your girlfriend about your difficulties, after all, this kind of mental obstacle is difficult to overcome at once, everyone will have their own weaknesses and hobbies, I believe your girlfriend too, if she really loves you, she will not force you to watch it together, it is not necessarily that you have to accompany everything to love, sometimes understanding is also an expression of love.

If you feel that you can overcome your fears a little and learn to have fun with them, you can try to try a more basic horror movie, and if you really annoy it, you don't need to accompany her.

It's good that you want to accommodate her, but I think since she knows that you hate horror movies, she probably won't force you to do things she doesn't like, just let it be.