How to resolve such contradictions? Can it be resolved?

A person may make mistakes of one kind or another in his life, these are not terrible, terrible is terrible, there is a problem that will not be solved, and after the problem is not solved, he will not ask why.

First of all, I would like to pay tribute to your confession.

The problem has arisen, you still don't rush to explain, put the problem aside, your boss will also consider such a thing, if it is really like what you said how he used to value you, he will analyze the whole incident, instead of just listening to other people's words, but if he has some mustard in his heart for you, even if you say anything he will not believe, I hope you can understand a little bit in your heart "it is a friend who does not need to explain, and it is useless not to explain if it is not a friend".

During this time of consideration for your boss, I hope you can re-examine yourself and ask questions about your personality and how you behave in the world: Why don't people like you? Is it really someone else's prejudice, or is it your own problem?

If it's just someone else's problem, then let's not do anything here, if it's your own problem, it is recommended that you write down your own understanding of yourself, or find a very good friend, so that he can be responsible and honestly tell you your shortcomings one by one, after all, it is most difficult for a person to know himself correctly. I hope you can read Dale Carnegie's book, although it is a little older, but it is very classic, and almost all the books on the market about developing emotional intelligence are copied from him.

Besides, I really hope that you can realize what you are wrong about, work hard to correct it, change the place of work, and start a new life in a new place!

Obviously someone is jealous of you and is making trouble behind your back. The boss doesn't listen to your verbal explanation, you write a letter to make things clear, I believe he knows that it's all time, and you don't need to lie to him, you just don't want to lose him as a friend, if he cherishes your friendship, he will forgive you. I hope you can get along well with your colleagues and bosses in your new work environment, and be careful in what you say and do!

Hehe, good luck!

Since you are gone, don't think so much about it, and then it's an empty thing At most, it can only bring a shadow to your heart If you really value your boss, you won't do it so decisively, although there are people behind this who make trouble, since you can enter such a big company and get the boss's respect, the world is so big, is there no place for you? Cheer up, and be careful not to joke on that occasion in the future, good luck!

If you don't have a good relationship with your colleagues, you should be on guard everywhere! Don't always be careless! The relationship in society is very complicated, and there are a lot of villains! Explain clearly to the boss alone, and hope that you will do a good job in interpersonal relations in the future work and work smoothly!

People can't listen to anything when they're angry! I want to wait a while, you go to dinner with the boss as a friend, tell him that you are doing well, thank him for his attention to you at that time, I think the boss will mention your resignation, and then you will explain all this logically!

I've made the same mistakes as you. It's okay to misunderstand. At that time, it was to deal with an eventful person, and then let him use it as a handle to make a small report.

This will make you awkward for years, so take it with a normal mind. May God punish that troubled man. Let him be wronged three times as much.

Remember what I said.

Explain everything to your boss, it's the only way, you can't be opportunistic.

I think you should tell your boss the truth, and if your boss really believes in you, then he's going to forgive you, and if not, there's no need to get along with a boss like that

If you can't say it verbally, then write a letter, or email, say what you want to say, and you have to make it clear. Don't mess up the more you talk.

Forget it, friend, maybe when you are trying to save something, some people have long stopped caring about the process and the result. Don't be a sentimental person in the past, looking forward to the future but forgetting the present, you are the most important thing. It's not the 800 、、、 that can save you

Since you don't have a good relationship with your colleagues, you shouldn't talk nonsense.

Just pay attention to your words in the future.

I've heard a guy say something like, "People care about you, and whatever you do, people probably won't appreciate it, don't care about it."

It's gone, it's gone.

The big man picked it up and put it down.

His anger should be gone, you write a letter to him to explain the matter, won't the contradiction be resolved.

It seems that your popularity is really bad, and I don't know what to do, I'm sorry. However, I think it will be good to have a good relationship with most of the comrades in the future.

Treat the original owner to a meal. Tell him the truth of the truth.

I don't want your score.

Just to comfort you.

Time will prove anything.

Talk to him and tell him what's going on in your heart.

There's nothing to say, your company is so weird? Can't make a joke?

The boss was angry

Invite him to dinner to show his appreciation

By the way

Keep your emotions in check.

When you have a conflict with a friend, it is likely to lead to a stupid argument, so you must restrain your emotions and not say something hurtful in a moment of anger, which may lead to irreparable or hurtful words about the friendship, and the friendship will end forever.

Be patient with your friends.

Don't think that after doing one or two active gestures, you think that you have made an effort, if the other party does not understand, or there is no good response, you think that the friendship has come to an end, and sometimes you may hurt your self-esteem, so that you can become angry, and then intensify the hurtful words, which will only make the conflict more intense.

Proactive and sincere.

No matter what kind of reason causes the conflict, or whose responsibility it is, when the friendship is cracked, it must be remedied in time, do not wait for the other party to apologize to yourself, you must also take the initiative to show goodwill, it is best to have practical actions, so that others can see their sincerity, taking the initiative to show goodwill is not weakness, but to express that you have sincerity and are willing to repair your feelings. In short, it is very necessary to make people feel sincere.

You have to calm down first.

If you have an unpleasant relationship with a very good friend, both parties must calm down first, know how to consider from the other party's point of view, think about what you did wrong, if you are really wrong, you must apologize as soon as possible, and believe that friends understand each other, so that the conflict can be resolved quickly.

Proactive communication. If you are more introverted, not good at words, or more shy, but you care about your friends very much, when you have a conflict with your friends, you also regret it very much, but you can't let go of it to apologize, if you can't go directly to face to face, then the best way is to apologize to your friends through some communication tools, try to ease your tone, and say some sincere words, so that you can quickly resolve the conflict.

The 5 ways to resolve conflicts are: don't complain, learn to improvise, don't be calculating, master communication skills, and respond in a timely manner.

1. Don't complain. Do everything clearly, if your interests are damaged because of certain things, find the reason from the subjective point of view, don't always complain, complaining about others is very unfavorable to resolve the conflict.

2. Learn to adapt to changes. For the emergence of each problem, the formula that may be solved is not the only one, on the contrary, there may be many ways, more practical, do a good job of research, learn to master the way to resolve contradictions, and adapt to changes.

3. Don't be careful. After a contradiction arises, some people do not do things with the attitude of solving problems, on the contrary, they insist on letting the contradiction continue to worsen, blindly investigating what happened, getting to the bottom of the matter, and not hesitating to make others feel bored.

4. Master communication skills. Pay attention to the communication skills when communicating with others, if you want others to quickly understand you and agree to your solution, then the first way is to master communication skills and make your behavior more acceptable to the other party.

5. Make a timely response. Bikener responds to the emergence of contradictions in a timely manner, and does not allow the contradictions to continue to develop, instead of solving the problems and resolving them in a timely manner, if the best time is delayed, it may make the problems and contradictions more difficult to solve.

Contradictory attributes:

1. Identity. Identity is an essential property of contradiction. The identity of contradiction means that the two sides of the contradiction are interdependent and dependent.

The Taiji diagram in China's traditional culture is the same embodiment of the two sides of the contradiction, and the yin and yang in the Taiji are interdependent and can exist forever by transforming each other. In life and study, we often use the proverb "Misfortune depends on blessings, blessings and misfortunes depend on" is exactly the identity of the contradiction that Sun Na embodies.

2. Fighting. The fighting nature of a contradiction refers to the antagonistic state of the two sides of the contradiction, and the two sides of the contradiction exclude each other. For example, day and night rotate into each other, and the two transform and repel each other.

In Darwin's theory of the origin of species and evolution, it is the struggle of contradictions. In the animal world, we can feel the survival of the fittest between species. In order for a species to survive, it must feed on another species, and this process is the embodiment of struggle.

There are 5 ways to resolve conflicts: 1. Write an apology letter in your own handwriting, only say your own mistakes, and don't write any of the other party's mistakes. 2. Find the other party to talk calmly and calmly, and show that you are willing to solve the conflict.

3. Ask others to talk about hypocrisy. 4. Shift the focus of the incident and give the other party a step. 5. Accommodate each other.

Compromise. Compromise refers to a resolution in which both parties to a conflict are willing to give up some of their views and interests and share the benefits or outcomes of conflict resolution.

Accommodate. Accommodating refers to soothing the other side of the conflict, being willing to put the interests of the other party above their own, making self-sacrifices, and following the views of others, so as to maintain a friendly relationship with each other.

Cooperate. Cooperation is about taking the initiative to discuss problems openly with the other party and finding mutually beneficial solutions that maximize the interests of both parties as much as possible, without any need for anyone to make concessions.