How to resolve conflict between children How to resolve conflict between parents and children

All conflicts come from communication, whether it is between parents and children, between people, in fact, contradictions produce different values between people, and this contradiction can be achieved through communication to achieve mutual understanding.

At home, if there is a conflict between parents and children, they can communicate face-to-face after both parties have calmed down and say what everyone thinks, especially parents should learn to respect their children's ideas and opinions, and do not try to change their children's thinking. When children feel respected and their ideas are recognized, their sense of self-confidence will be greatly enhanced, and they will also have a sense of dependence and trust in their parents. Therefore, the best way to resolve conflicts is to communicate reasonably and effectively.

In fact, there can be no adult intervention in conflicts between children, because as soon as parents are involved, the matter immediately becomes complicated, after all, it is very common for children to fight and fight.

The communication between the children is so distressed that there will definitely be stumbles, and the children lack rational judgment, so the fight between them is likely to be a temporary conflict of righteousness.

When they calm down, they may become as good as before, but if adults join in, this matter will make the child feel that he has a backbone, and the already small problems can become difficult to solve.

Just like my aunt's grandson and other people's children fought some time ago, it was very common for children to have conflicts because of toys, but because my aunt and her grandmother were more protective of their grandchildren, the conflict escalated directly, and finally the two adults fought and called the police directly.

Therefore, it can be seen that when there is a conflict between children, it is best for adults to let the children solve it by themselves, because while the child solves this problem, he will also have a certain gain, otherwise he will always find his parents when he encounters problems, which is not beneficial to his growth.

It is normal for children to have conflicts and contradictions, as parents, we must not be too involved in this matter, but should slowly observe from the side and guide our children correctly.

Because children's cognition is limited, when they are unhappy, they will really lose their temper and never take into account the feelings of others, so it is normal to have conflicts, but there is no overnight feud between children, and the most important thing is that parents must not ask too much in the middle.

Conflicts between children, if it is two children in your own family, then don't get involved too much, because no matter which parent is involved, the other party will be unhappy, and maybe because of your participation, their conflicts will escalate.

The most correct thing to do is to wait for the day when they reconcile, you have to tell them how important the relationship between the two of them is, and let them cherish each other.

If there is a conflict between your own children and other people's children, first slowly observe whether the conflict between them is really inextricable, if the conflict between the two of them has not been resolved, it is very important for parents to come forward to communicate.

First of all, we need to know that as children grow older, there will be conflicts over some things, which is inevitable.

Secondly, when the conflict occurs, the parents and children are very excited, and even a little angry. In this case, if we continue to argue about our respective ideas, I don't think either side will back down, so it will only make the conflict deeper. Therefore, I suggest that when the two parties are arguing, parents and children should separate and calm down in their own rooms, so that when both parties do not see each other, the atmosphere of the quarrel will be much calmer, and the conflict will not be exacerbated, which is good for both parties.

Finally, when the parents and the children have calmed down for a period of time, at this time we are inviting the two sides together, at this time my parents should first think that the children are embarrassed to take the initiative to admit their mistakes, so parents can first show their attitude, explain that they think about it from the perspective of the child, it may be that they are a little impulsive at that time, the attitude is not good, I hope the children understand, but to emphasize that the parents' starting point is good, explain the reason, I believe that the children will understand you under your patient guidance, Like you apologize, their attitude is not right, and they will listen to your opinions, so that the conflict is resolved and there is a happy ending.

In fact, the conflict before the child is many times temporary, maybe the first second is still inseparable, the next second is a good friend, as a parent should try to establish the concept that children should get along with each other, can not look at the conflict between children from the perspective of adults, afraid that their children will suffer. But you can't be too troublesome, always apologize, which will cast a shadow in the child's heart, which may lead to unsound mental development and inferiority complex in the future.

When there is a conflict between children, the first thing you have to ask is whose fault it is. If it is your child's problem, then you have to apologize and educate your child at the same time. But if it is not the fault of our own children, and at the same time we meet the parents of the calves, then we should fight on the basis of reason and make the other party apologize.

I think that conflicts between children are a time to establish a correct view, and the attitude of parents affects the way children deal with similar incidents in the future. If parents are domineering, their children will definitely be domineering in the future; If parents are timid and afraid, their children may have low self-esteem in the future, and they may be timid and afraid of things.

There are even many parents who are particularly partial to their own children when their children have conflicts, and they will hit each other's children, regardless of right or wrong. This is a very wrong behavior, because if you cover your child, he will not know what is right and what is wrong, and this will cause him to have a wrong outlook on life.

If it is your child's fault, you should ask him to apologize to the other person. If it is the fault of the other child, then I should also educate my own child, let him forgive the other party, and cultivate a tolerant and generous heart. Don't let your child worry about it all the time.

Learn to let him deal with these things on his own, and tell your child that crying will not solve any problems, because many children cry when they encounter problems.

It is inevitable that there will be contradictions and conflicts between children, even if the relationship is good, it is impossible that there will be no conflicts, all kinds of life or learning, etc., a certain topic, a certain thing will cause differences of opinion between children, such as not borrowing toys from each other when playing, comparing each other with each other, etc. In which I think the best way for parents is not to interfere with the affairs between their children, let them solve them by themselves, and seize this opportunity to educate their children and cultivate their children's ability to solve things on their own.

For parents, it is very important for the development of children to deal with conflicts between children, because they can learn a lot in it, and even have a great impact on the future. If it is not handled well, it may have an impact on the child's personality, so when encountering conflicts with children, education should be the priority, whether it is their own children or someone else's, education is crucial, and they should be educated in the incident.

Children play together, and it is inevitable that there will be conflicts, and even tears.

To tell the truth, children are the hearts and minds of parents, who gives birth to who hurts, do not be impulsive in the face of children's conflicts, treat them calmly and correctly, first understand the reasons for children's conflicts, reason with children calmly, point out mistakes, and correctly guide children how to get along.

Especially for their own children, it is necessary to strengthen education, which is beneficial to future growth.

But the reality is that parents know or see the conflict between their children, and their attitude is sometimes very wrong, and parents who protect their calves indiscriminately must blame other people's children and overprotect their own children.

Some parents teach their children first, and then count other people's children.

Some parents simply take care of their children and do not let their children associate with children who are in conflict.

Some parents not only do not stop their children's conflicting behavior, but also add fuel to the fire of their own children, helping their children to fight against other children.

Some of the above parents' attitudes and practices towards children's conflicts should not be.

It is in the child's nature to be lively and cute, active and playful, and they are only playing for a while, so that the child can learn the ability to resolve disputes correctly, rather than letting the child attack each other and hate each other when there is a conflict between friends.

Recently, the two-child policy has been opened, and many families may begin to consider having two, of course, there are also those who have already given birth to two.

It's a lot of things, you can let them solve it by themselves, but you can't use your hands to solve it, you should teach your children, just be polite, don't do it, every time you move your fists on anything, and then especially if you're a child, she may be an example in front of him, what kind of parents are, it's what it is, so you must be very polite in front of your children, don't swear or anything like that, and then children will follow you to learn, And children's ability to imitate is relatively strong.

Encourage playing together, having fun together, helping each other, negating conflict, and using conflict to correct mistakes.

For children who have a certain ability to express themselves, there is a general way to communicate with the child, "I saw that you chased and hit him just now, as if something happened to you just now, would you like to tell me?" Try to let the child express the emotions and aggressive behaviors of the right brain at that time in the form of left brain language, so that he also has an internal integration effect. When the child is willing to say it in words, his hitting behavior is likely to be understood and adjusted. ‍‍

I don't think there are absolute friends or enemies between children. Therefore, when there is a conflict between children, it is best for adults not to intervene. Once involved, it complicates matters. ‍‍

If the child often hits someone, and the beating has no distinction between the occasion and the crowd, then you can try the "standard behavior training method", that is, when you see the child hitting someone, grab the child's hand and tell the child, "If you hit someone again, I will control your hand for 6 seconds." After counting to 6 seconds, tell the child, "If you don't hit someone, I'll let go of your hand." ”‍

I think young children, especially 2-3 year old babies, often do not know how to properly express emotions and make "hitting" actions, in fact, they have no malice in their hearts, and they will not "hold grudges", and both parties will soon have fun together again. In this case, parents do not need to be overly angry or nervous, and can tell their children that the child who was beaten will be unhappy and that the expression of emotions needs to be done in an appropriate way through patient teaching, personal demonstration, storytelling, and games. ‍‍

The conflict between children is more about learning to integrate into society. Faced with conflicts between children, the mother's approach is to learn to wait. Because mom upholds a philosophy of respecting the individual and letting them learn to coordinate on their own.

When babies have conflicts, mothers generally do not intervene early unless there is a particular danger. Don't worry about protecting the calf, but watch carefully. ‍‍

When a child hits, bites, kicks or throws something, he or she must intervene immediately to stop it, and cannot stand idly by or ignore it. Otherwise, your child will think that you acquiesce and accept his behavior and continue to use it to achieve his goals. ‍‍

Adults should maintain a calm attitude when dealing with disputes between children; Deal with it sensibly. It should be dealt with from the perspective of cultivating a healthy personality of the child, no matter who is right or wrong, the child should be blamed less and encouraged more; If your child can't do it, you can't protect it partially, let alone beat and scold roughly; Rather, it is to criticize education and make children realize their mistakes; Apologize to the hurt child in person. Teach children to be united, loving, polite and responsible; A good boy who knows how to change his mistakes.

If your child is wronged, you should also carefully analyze the matter, weigh the pros and cons and find a solution. ‍‍

When there is a conflict between the needs of the parent and the needs of the child, parents prefer to use coercive and punitive methods to discipline the child. Punishment can control bad behavior, but it does not teach children the right way to behave, or even reduce their desire to do bad things. It can only make children more careful when they make mistakes, more skillfully cover up mistakes, and how to avoid being detected.

When a child is punished, he will secretly resolve to be careful in the future, rather than being honest and responsible. Is there any other non-punitive way to motivate our youth to become more responsible?

When there is a conflict between parents and children, we should not use our energy to deal with each other, fighting for who is the ultimate winner and who is the final loser. As parents, we need to be calm, integrate each other's strengths, and work together to find ways to resolve conflicts, so that the needs of children and adults are met and respected as they deserve. More importantly, we teach our children that when a conflict, conflict or difficulty arises, it is important to actively participate in solving it, both now and in the future.

1.Guide children to express their inner feelings and needs;

2.Parents express their inner feelings and needs;

3.Discuss patiently with your child to find a solution that satisfies both parties;

1.It's not that the child doesn't want to make up classes, but he doesn't want to make up classes all day, he just wants to make up classes in the morning and rest in the afternoon;

2.Parents are worried that their children will not be admitted to university in the future if they do not make up classes, have no better way out, and feel uncomfortable; No neighbor's children study well and have no face;

3.Parents want to make up for math and English all day; The child wants to make up in the morning, two hours of English, two hours of math, etc.;

5.In the end, a consensus is reached, the child is willing to do it, and the parents supervise it in a timely manner.

These five steps are not difficult, but the difficult thing is the change of parents' concept of discipline and the change of communication mode between parents and children. We can't ignore our children's needs and ideas as wrong, we are just messengers of correcting mistakes. Don't think that we adults must be right and the most suitable for children.