Is it true that feelings are only maintained by feelings?

This is the classic "distance produces beauty". I've encountered this kind of distress before, I like a person, but when I'm with the person I like, especially after getting to know her better through contact, I found that she is not as beautiful as she thinks, and there are many things that I can't tolerate, of course, her image in her mind has changed, and after a long time, she has also produced disgust, ** I don't want to take it, always find an excuse to hide, I personally think: you better give up, slowly alienate her, time can change everything, Don't worry about her getting hurt, after all, feelings matter!

Can you be sure that you still love her in the depths of your heart??? Ever thought that maybe there was a girl in the distance who was more suitable for herself???

Boys may be like this sometimes, I have had a similar experience, a girl I used to like very much, when she took the initiative to get close to me, I felt very depressed, and I also had a sense of fear of her, hehe, compared with the enthusiasm at the beginning, it was a 120-degree change in attitude. In the end, for various reasons, it was me who left her. But I felt guilty about that for three whole years

So there are some things to think about clearly, and it will be embarrassing if you don't handle them well.

It is recommended that you rediscover how you felt when you had a crush on her, think about her goodness, think about why you liked her in the first place, and be sure not to focus on her shortcomings.

But if things have reached the point of no return, you have to leave her, because maybe you don't love her. At this time, you have to leave slowly, and suggestively tell her that you are not suitable, you are only 20 years old, and some emotional things are not yet clear.

It's always better to hurt two people for a short time than to hurt two people for a long time, and finally, I wish you both from the bottom of my heart.

Actually, you shouldn't ask this question, you already know how to do it. Your subconscious tells you not to give up. Or why do you say that you may still like her in the depths of your heart, this is the voice in the depths of your heart.

It is true that the twisted melon is not sweet, but it is not necessarily smooth sailing for everything, is there a smooth sailing love in the world? Don't think of love too perfectly, it's a hundred turns.

Finally, from your point of view, I advise you not to give up, otherwise you may really regret it.

And friends who speak, don't always want to separate lovers, can't you be positive and positive? I appreciate my friends on the 5th floor. There is no mountain in the world that cannot be crossed! Believe me! ~

You're so cute. You shouldn't give up. But you don't have to get too close to her.

Actually, you don't like her because you find that she is different from what you imagined, right?

You will find out how guilty you are when you leave her for someone who loves you, and it is you who chase her!

You can't shirk your responsibility!

What you can't get is always the best, I hope you don't joke about other people's youth, and if it doesn't work, take the initiative to break up. Don't wait until the end of the day to make each other unhappy

Alas, how good it is to be with the person you like, what do you hate! Try to go to the street with her as much as possible, chat with her, it's rare for the two of you to be together, cherish it!

The feeling of a crush is gone!

It has to do with people's perceptions.

It's always been a two-way effort.

Two people can progress together, move towards a goal together, and become better together, which is the quality that a good relationship should have.

In fact, everyone will want to meet someone who can make progress together, and this is probably the best relationship.

Therefore, a really good relationship is not how perfect the two parties are, but how they progress together and become better each other.

But in the process of getting along, each other discovers each other's strengths and characteristics, so as to recognize themselves and improve them. Seeing in real life, there will always be many couples who will quarrel together, and will worry about all kinds of small things, these are nothing, they may have different cognitions of each other, but through the process of discovering each other, they can realize whether the other party is what they want.

A good relationship is one that can identify with each other and be willing to change oneself at the same time. Be aware of your own shortcomings, and at the same time be able to see each other's strengths, and two people can accept and change together.

A relationship that is always quarrelling, and the relationship that does not know how to think about it will not go to the end, and only two people who know how to reflect can accommodate each other.

Many two people in an intimate relationship actually fail on the hurdle of running in with each other, and neither of them knows how to back down, nor is they willing to change themselves, resulting in each other drifting apart.

A good relationship is never innate, but the result of continuous run-in and complementarity with each other.

Everyone has their own bad side, but at the same time there is a good side. And a good relationship is to be able to explore the good of the other party, and at the same time have the ability to tolerate the bad and cherish each other.

If you only know how to complain or suppress each other and make each other hurt, then you can't go on with each other.

Any good relationship is able to understand each other well, and can also accompany each other through a difficult period of time.

The main reason why a relationship can't go on, everyone's situation, may be very different, and they won't learn to be satisfied, which is the fundamental reason why a relationship can't go to the end. Feelings are most afraid of coldness and distrust, if one party does not trust the other party, then the behavior will change. Then there will be problems in the relationship, causing the two to break up and not be able to go on.

It is not difficult for two people with different backgrounds and growth environments, different personalities and hobbies, and very different emotional needs to come together. Then, two people who were originally full of edges and corners run into each other together, each trying to kill some of their individuality for the sake of the other while preserving as much of themselves as possible. This process is full of hardship, happiness, and pain.

How many edges and corners do you have to polish off each other, and to what extent can you tolerate each other, two people, this relationship, can go to the end? Some people find that two people live freely and happily make the relationship last forever. Some people find that even if they are polished for the sake of the other party, and even their dignity is gone, the relationship is still precarious and will end at any time.

Try to learn to be satisfied.

All the feelings in the world that can't come to an end are because of this relationship, which can no longer give a certain person or two people satisfaction. After a busy day, I dragged my tired body home, only to find that the other party had not cooked yet, or strictly according to the agreement between the two parties, you cook, he washed the dishes, and waited for you to cook.

Angry? Inevitable. Can you learn to be a little coquettish, call him over to beat him, and enjoy the happiness of two people getting along with each other?

Satisfied with the quiet years of firewood, rice, oil and salt? Of course, this satisfaction cannot be unilateral self-anesthesia. Your satisfaction, if the other party is always unable to respond, then there is no way to do it:

Feelings are a matter of two people, not a one-sided affair of any one person.

It may be because the two people can't solve the contradictions in time, resulting in more and more problems, and the relationship can't be maintained.

In fact, it is very likely that the two people have incompatible personalities and do not tolerate each other's shortcomings.

Personally, I think it's usually due to the different worldviews of both sides, so there will be a lot of differences in life, work, and play.

1. Resolve misunderstandings in a timely manner.

In the well-known TV series "Why Sheng Xiaomo", the male and female protagonists have been separated for many years because of misunderstandings, and they have wasted unnecessary time, but the TV series is a TV series after all, especially such a love drama, even if they waste time, the ending will definitely be satisfying. However, most people in reality are forced by the pressure of reality but can not be like this, two people who love each other are separated due to misunderstanding, and when the misunderstanding is finally solved, they are already someone else's wife or someone else's husband, even if both parties may be unmarried, the polishing of time has long made the little love in the hearts of both parties disappear.

Therefore, if there is a misunderstanding, it must be resolved in time at the moment of discovery, and don't let the misunderstanding become an obstacle to loving each other.

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2. Trust. Suspicion stems from caring, and it is precisely because you care too much about a person that you are afraid of losing, and because you are afraid of losing, you are worried that someone will snatch it away. Throughout the ages, how much love has been buried in the hands of doubt. In fact, suspicion is not only distrust of the object, but also distrust of oneself, suspicion that oneself is not charismatic enough to keep the other party.

A couple, once they lack trust in each other, their relationship is not far from being fragmented.

3. Stick to your hobbies and leave space for each other.

In love, it is taboo to put all your time and energy on each other, because in this way, the contribution between the two is unequal, and problems are inevitable. When many couples are together, they forget their previous interests and hobbies, but this is not the right way to fall in love, love needs companionship, but it is not to lose oneself for the sake of companionship. In my opinion, the best love is not that you are by my side 24 hours a day, but when we fall in love, it becomes each other's motivation, and we make progress and grow together.

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4. Communication. Language is the most important way to communicate between two people, and language here is not only verbal communication, but also physical communication. First of all, in terms of words, couples who are willing to share their usual life or interesting stories are far more intimate than not saying anything, love to communicate, and when there is a problem in the relationship, it is easier to ask questions and solutions.

And be good at expressing your thoughts.

A person who is emotionally straightforward is more likely to make his partner feel at ease. Everyone loves to listen to sweet words, and a person who can talk about love is much more likable than a stuffy gourd who doesn't say anything.

Body language is also very important, with hugs and kisses being a way to show love and reluctance. When the two are about to separate, what a heartwarming thing to have a reluctant hug and kiss!

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In the past, time was very slow, cars, horses, and mail were slow, and I could only love one person in my life. Although it is different from the past, the hearts of people who have changed are not the times. May everyone be able to join hands with their lover for a lifetime!

True love is not necessarily a perfect match in the eyes of others, but a mutual fit in the hearts of people who love each other.

It is to make the other party's life better and silently dedicated.

This love not only warms themselves, but also warms those worldly hearts, and true love is to know how to cherish when you can love.

True love is knowing how to let go when you can't love.

Because, letting go is the ...... having everything

When you cherish it, please love it well.

True love is a kind of care and care that comes from the heart, there are no flowery words, no grandiose actions, only in every word and deed you can feel it.

So plain and so firm. On the contrary, swearing, promising illustrates its uncertainty, and never believe sweet words 、..

Thanks for adopting!

Any relationship needs to be managed, and management makes a relationship more smooth, and the relationship between two people is closer. Everyone has the right to like, and under such rights, they must also work hard for their own feelings and manage her well, so as to make their emotional life more comfortable.

It depends on whether you really value this relationship; If you value this relationship, even if you can't be together and can't grow old, it is also the most painful memory of your life, and it is also the best memory of your life; If you don't value this relationship, but you can't let it go now, then only time can delete it from your relationship!

In fact, it is inappropriate to use it on lovers for a long time (personally, I think) it is not that there is no such love! Just won't meet you and me! Everyone is looking forward to a long-lasting love, but it's as hard as winning the lottery!

There is nothing to be depressed about! I remember a famous person saying it! But I can't forget who said, "Happy people are happy in the same way, but unfortunate people feel their own misfortunes!"

I wish you a love that lasts forever! But not everything in the world is as good as it could be! Don't be too obsessed!

Just love each other for a minute! Why think about whether the next second will be separated.

Get along like a good friend Don't treat it casually the more familiar you are

A relationship requires two people to trust each other, support each other, understand each other, and tolerate each other! More importantly, when two people are together, don't suspect each other, let alone deceive each other! Because it is destined that two people who love each other can walk together, so they must cherish each other!

When encountering difficulties, two people find a way to face them together and solve them together! Share the weal and woe, share the joy, and such feelings will last forever!