Husbands and wives will inevitably quarrel, what words are you most afraid of hearing in a quarrel?

Seeing this topic made me ponder for a moment, and I went around in my memory, cleaning the corners of those trivial memories, and there were some scenes of quarrels in which it was really sad.

I'm not a person who is good at quarreling, but it doesn't mean that there won't be quarrels in my life, you have the heart to let the other party score three points, but the other party has to be unforgiving, it will only get worse, I expressed my inner emotions, when this emotion is expressed, my heart is happy, but the situation has developed worse, the other party's casual words made me feel a great shock, I never thought that these two words could be said from my other half's mouth, you from that day, I re-examined the relationship between two people, maybe everything was imagined by me, I think our relationship is stronger than gold, this is just wishful thinking.

It was a rainy weather, very strange, some bad events of people are often associated with some bad weather, that day was no exception, I quarreled with the other party over a trivial matter, the usual silence and forbearance in exchange for not to calm the people, but the other party's intensification, inch by inch, and then I really couldn't bear it, and finally broke out in silence in my small universe, I had a fierce quarrel with the other party, to be honest, that feeling is particularly venting, It seems that a lot of things pressed in my heart have been unloaded at once, but the other party can't stand it, she suddenly shouted to me frantically, you actually talk back to me and divorce!! I never expected the other party to play such a card, which could be his last killer move, and I was really scared.

I am a middle-aged man, I rely on my family more than anyone else, I am an extremely insecure person, like a hermit crab living in a shell, I don't have the courage to come out again, whenever the other party says the word divorce, I don't have a temper at all, no matter how the other party shouts, I am just silent.

I was most afraid that when I quarreled, the other party said that he was divorced, saying that he should not have married me in the first place. Because it means that she is tired of this marriage and regrets her decision to marry me in the first place, this marriage has been wrong from beginning to end.

I'm most afraid of hearing the other person's words that they want to leave.

"Forget it" and "That's it".

Or "Look at people, there is no femininity at all", "Did you marry to eat dry rice".

There is also the confinement period, he said, "I don't let you take the baby, why don't you sleep".

I am most afraid of hearing the words "let's get a divorce", "I can't live this life anymore", "I regret marrying you". When I hear these words, my heart panics.

I am most afraid of hearing my lover quarrel with him, why are you so ignorant, why are you like this, because I am too wronged, I haven't discussed who is right and who is wrong, and why to blame each other, this kind of thing is to shirk my own responsibility, and I don't feel that I am not ignorant, and I have a feeling of being wronged and not cherished.

After a fight, the last thing I like is to bring up the old things again, and compare me to the past. Whatever you want, then I can't help it, I'm also the most afraid of hearing these words, after the quarrel, I don't like the cold war even more, to the point where there is nothing to say is more serious than saying something hurtful. After a quarrel, both parties can calm down, and then communicate more, give each other a step down, and there is no overnight feud between husband and wife.

There must be contradictions in the life of husband and wife, two people live together, there are always bumps and bumps, but it is just whether the quarrel is strong, and it can be reconciled after the quarrel, when the husband and wife quarrel, in fact, there are some things that must not be said, mainly in the following three sentences.

1. Curse each other when you quarrel.

People will always say nothing when they are emotional, but some people will scold each other to death when they quarrel, or say something very cursing. Although it was just a quick tongue at the time, once something really happened to the other party and lost his life, he would regret it at that time, so sometimes he cursed the other party and didn't say it, he could quarrel, but he couldn't say anything.

Second, you can't talk about divorce when you quarrel.

Husband and wife quarrel are talking about the bedside quarrel and the end of the bed, but if divorce is often talked about, it is easy to make this relationship become more and more cold, because divorce is not only a matter of two people, but also involves two people's families, the elderly and children on both sides, after all, divorce is the most harmful to children. In fact, when they quarrel, divorce is just a momentary impulse, but they should not want to divorce in their hearts, sometimes this sentence is a threat to the other party, want the other party to apologize, or let the other party compromise, but this sentence is said too much, the other party will believe it, and when it really comes to this point, it will be too late to regret it.

3. Don't involve the other party's parents and relatives when arguing.

It is inevitable that husband and wife quarrel, there are always bumps and bumps in life, sometimes it is just complaining and complaining when you are unhappy, and there are certain arguments because of the trivial matters of life, but once it involves the other party's parents, it is easy to intensify this contradiction. When two people quarrel, you scold each other, maybe this matter does not have much impact, but once you scold each other's parents, it is easy to expand this contradiction. If after the latter two people reconcile, the other party's parents know the content of your previous quarrel, then there will definitely be a gap between the two families at this time, and it will be more difficult to get along in the later stage, so you must keep this in mind when quarreling and do not involve the other party's parents and relatives.

To sum up, when quarreling, you can't let emotions control your brain, two people should know how to tolerate each other when they get along, don't choose what to say, and open your mouth, otherwise it is easy for two people to end up as husband and wife.

The most unspoken words that husband and wife can not say when they quarrel are some swear words, as well as some words that insult each other, and say that two people are going to separate and divorce, these words are not allowed to be spoken, and after they are spoken, they will definitely affect the relationship between two people.

When husband and wife quarrel, don't talk about each other's shortcomings, don't say that each other's parents are not good, don't compare others with each other, don't say that the other party is a bag, and don't say that the other party can't make money, because this money is very hurtful to each other's self-esteem, if you say these things when you quarrel, it will affect the relationship between two people.

Be sure not to talk about divorce easily, don't attack the other party's parents, attack the other party's family, and don't say something that makes the other person very sad.

I think that I regret saying that the other party is not worthy of me, I regret marrying the other party, what use do I want from you, if it weren't for the children, for the house, I wouldn't marry you at all, and I can't say it when I quarrel.

When husband and wife quarrel, they should not pick up each other's shortcomings, and some words can not be said, otherwise it will make the other party very sad, and it will consume the feelings between husband and wife, which is not conducive to continuing to get along in the future, such as always accusing each other when quarreling, not worthy of marrying each other, feeling very regretful, this is a particularly heart-wrenching word, so that the other party can not accept it, and the quarrel between the two sides will still stand, and the relationship between husband and wife will also be consumed in the constant quarrels, and many couples will break up because of this.

What use do I want you to have, and it is also the last thing a couple can say when they quarrel. In particular, some men think that women do laundry in the family, cook and take care of children are things that should be done, and they always can't understand women's contributions, and sometimes they feel that they still haven't cooked or women don't take care of their children, so they feel that they shouldn't say that women I want you what's the use, in fact, women pay in this world and many men should see women's contributions, even if they are dissatisfied, they can't use this language to hurt each other, otherwise they will make women feel particularly disappointed and sad.

There are also some couples who always say that if it weren't for the children, I would have divorced you a long time ago, and some people say that if it weren't for the house, I wouldn't marry you at all, in fact, these words are also things that couples can't say when they quarrel and lose. Two people walk together because of feelings, not because of external conditions. If two people are really in a hurry to get married because of their children or a house, they should not always take out these things and say them repeatedly when they quarrel, otherwise it will make people feel very uncomfortable, and their future married life will not be too happy.

The union of husband and wife should be based on love, the materialization of the partner is to a large extent dissatisfaction with the marriage, if the value of the other party is defined in the house or children, it will make the other party feel particularly cold, even if the two people can reconcile after the quarrel, but can never restore the previous trust. The words in marriage are to enhance the feelings between each other, even when quarrelling, you must pay attention to proportion, you can't say whatever you want, you have to leave yourself a certain amount of spare strength, and don't stab each other.

When husband and wife quarrel, I think that it is impossible to say things like divorce, preaching their sovereignty, telling each other to get out, saying that they have paid a lot for this family, how can they marry someone like you, etc.

Don't talk about divorce when you quarrel, and don't talk about the shortcomings of the other party, it will hurt feelings, and if you continue like this for a long time, there will be conflicts between the two people.

You can't say you're annoyed, and you can't uncover the other person's scars. For example, the other person's past. This will make the other person feel very uncomfortable and even stop liking you.

You can't say divorce. If you say it, the other person will definitely be angry, and the relationship between the two of you may break down.

1. Get along honestly Love is a kind of force that makes people work hard, and the husband and wife are first of all a kind of harmony between the thoughts and feelings of both parties, and a kind of mutual compensation in psychological activities, so that both parties can produce a warm and coordinated healthy psychology. Therefore, it is more pleasing for husbands and wives to be honest with each other, to respect and love each other, and to take care of each other than to give gifts.

2. Communicate frequently Husbands and wives should often sit down to exchange opinions, communicate ideas, and pour out the joys and hardships in their hearts. Especially in times of adversity, what you need most is the comfort of your loved ones. A word of sympathy and an encouraging look will reduce the psychological pressure of the other party, enhance the confidence and strength to overcome difficulties, and truly see the truth in the midst of adversity.

3. Respect each other's personality traits A couple, even if they are childhood sweethearts, still have their own personality traits. Some husbands are active and have been wandering outside for many years, and they can't stay at home. And the wife is quiet and has a narrow social surface, and hopes that her husband will be at home with her all day long.

Every time the husband returns, the wife is unhappy, and sometimes she is a little petty, and if the husband can't stand it, there may be a quarrel. An empathetic wife or husband should respect the personality of the other person, do not impose her will on the other person, and reserve a certain amount of freedom for the other person to allow the other person to have their own social circle. In this way, marriage is not a kind of confinement, but not only to give full play to their individual characteristics, but also to be a warm home for mutual attachment.

4. Learn to be patient Husbands and wives must learn to be patient, Chekov said: "The most important thing in married life is patience." "When the other person loses his temper or sends a provocative signal, it is best to adopt the method of patience and avoidance, or put yourself in the position of understanding the cause to help relief, rather than being influenced by the other person's emotions and putting yourself in a bad emotional state.

5. Take the initiative to undertake housework After getting married, there are major matters that need to be negotiated together, but more often are the daily chores of firewood, rice, oil and salt. The equal interaction between husband and wife is manifested in the joint sharing of housework, and taking the initiative to undertake a part of the housework is the first concrete manifestation of the husband's love for his wife and the wife's consideration for her husband. If you need the other person's help, it's best to replace the commanding "you do it" with a friendly "help".

6. Influence the other party Use your own warmth to make the other party get probation. For example, on a rainy day, the husband takes the initiative to take an umbrella to meet his wife at the station; The husband reads or writes at night under the lamp, and the wife quietly sends a cup of hot tea and hot milk to the feast. This kind of practice of enhancing feelings often makes the other party resentful.

The first point is not to scold your mother-in-law for being bad, this will hurt your feelings, the second point is not to say that your mother-in-law is not good, which will affect the relationship between the two, and the third point is not to say divorce, such things will cause emotional entanglements.

First, you can't talk about things that affect your feelings, and the biggest taboo is divorce. Second, parents must not be harmed. Third, we must take matters into account and not turn over old accounts.

When husband and wife quarrel, don't compare the other half with others, don't say something that hurts the other half, don't always feel that the other half is incompetent, don't hurt the dignity of the other half, and don't always talk about the shortcomings of the other half.

1. Turn over old accounts. 2. Scold the other party's family. 3. Belittle each other and compare with others.

Many couples quarrel over trivial matters, but they always have to take out the things that have been solved before, and there is also disrespect for relatives at home, which is unacceptable, and always compare with other people's husbands.