What should the children do if the father spends all his time drinking and not doing his job?

I understand that you think that a complete family is very important to you, but I feel that you should respect your parents' decision because everyone has the right to pursue their own happiness. In fact, you should talk to your mother and your father, if this marriage is a harm to your parents, if your father has a knot that can be opened, and he will not harm himself and drink too much in the future.

, your mother also chose to forgive him, then not divorce.

Since your father is like this, then you have to be angry and don't think about what he can give you! Don't compare, anyway, he or your father should know how to be grateful. Life is not settled, there is no sense of security, hatred and helplessness, my mother is even more pitiful and sad, I can only study hard and work hard, but I must take care of my mother and come on.

That can only rely on their own hard work to break out of their own world, but some people lost their father when they were young, which is even more helpless.

You have to be the most important person in the family, and you must feel uncomfortable, but you have to do better, don't let others look down on you, and hold up a blue sky for your home.

Let's talk about my situation, my parents divorced when I was a child. The reason for the divorce of my parents is that my father is not doing his job, always trying to make a lot of money, often not going home for months, running around the country, and borrowing hundreds of thousands of accounts. At that time, I remember that my parents would quarrel as long as they were at home, and those who wanted accounts would go to the door of the house to ask for money.

Later, my mother divorced him, and I began to follow my father, because he didn't go to work, and at that time, he would even go to the dozens of yuan of New Year's money given by his grandmother's family, saying that he would lend it to him first. Later, of course, there was no news. I was still in elementary school at the time.

Later, my mother saw that I was pitiful, so she took me to live with her.

I hadn't been in touch for a long time, but I got in touch by chance, and I had already graduated from high school by then. From beginning to end, he never gave my mother a penny in child support, and even owed my mother tens of thousands after the divorce (in the 90s, tens of thousands were still quite valuable). In the years when I lost contact, sometimes I passed by the tunnel bridge and saw the beggars on the side of the road, and I would wonder if this could be my father and how he is now.

After going to college, I knew that he was in a city in the south, but I still didn't know what he was doing, but I knew that he still hadn't changed, borrowing money everywhere, running some so-called "big things", waiting to make a lot of money. I thought that if he was old and sick, I would definitely not leave him alone, after all, he was my father.

During these years, I later went to college, graduated from college, and met my husband, Beipiao. I am a single parent, my mother is a factory worker, I remember that when I was in college, my mother borrowed money from relatives to pay my tuition, and then saved up my salary for several months to pay back to my relatives. My husband's parents are from the countryside, my mother is a housewife, and my father works in a factory.

When I got married, I bought a suite in a second-tier city, and both families borrowed some money. At this moment, my father called again, saying that the "big thing" was about to be over, and he still needed 4,000 yuan for the journey.

He owed a lot of money before, and it was all repaid by his children, and it is said that he still owes money, but he refuses to say. Then let him pay it back slowly. We can't take care of it. It's true that there are such parents, and I don't know how to owe them in my previous life. This is how I collect debts in this life.

My father-in-law is this kind of person, before I got married, he was running all over the country, and he always told his son to ask for money, saying that he borrowed money but actually had to go and never get back, but his son couldn't ignore it. Later, we got married, and we converged a lot, and we didn't run away anymore, maybe our dream of getting rich was shattered.

My mom raised me for so long, even borrowing money to buy a house, and never said anything. But as a father who has not fulfilled his parenting responsibilities, we are in such a difficult time. And ask me to borrow money.

And at that time, my salary was 4k a month, and my job was also very precarious. That time, I didn't borrow because we didn't even have the money to buy furniture and appliances.

Occasionally, I talk to my father**, and I usually call ** to ask about the current situation, and then ask me to pay him ** or something. It's been almost a year since I've been married, and my life has gradually stabilized, and my father, who hasn't been in touch for months, called me again, to be honest, every time I pick up **, I'm a little apprehensive. Those are still the words.