Why is there a patriarchal garbage backward low level feudal ideology?

It's just the old traditional ideas left over from the past.

You don't have to take it too seriously, most of the rules of life are wrong or problematic. On the one hand, it is caused by the defects of human understanding and wisdom, and on the other hand, it is the demand of society.

For this kind of thing, it is enough to see the truth clearly. To be indifferent, it is okay for you to be wise, and there is no need to ask the society to be wise and just, which is unrealistic.

Don't go too far.

Naturally, there will be great similarities and differences between people's ideas.

Be calm.

Fuck the patriarch.

Feudal garbage to death!

That is, what is the equality of men and women.

Bullshit isn't. But who made us have more than 5,000 years of history.

The older generation is like this.

Of course, there is, and many people in the older generation will think this way. Patriarchy is a backward cultural concept and customary force.

With the progress of society, the improvement of cultural level, and the improvement of welfare construction, it will gradually weaken.

However, it is by no means an overnight achievement to completely eliminate the trap and utopian dreams.

In contemporary times, especially in most rural areas, patriarchal thinking is still very stubborn.

As an ordinary woman, how should you deal with yourself in the face of her parents' old thinking that "the house belongs to the son, and the daughter belongs to the in-law's house"?

First of all, it must be admitted that it is very difficult to eliminate or change their thinking.

These are the three views given to them by their living environment from childhood to adulthood.

It's not that you're blind, not good, not worth their investment.

But in their concept, the son is the heir, and the daughter marries into someone else's family.

Investing in a son = investing in your own family = investing in the future.

Investing in a daughter = investing in someone else's home.

In fact, in feudal society, patriarchy was not an emotional strategy, but an economic strategy.

Use the investment for the son in exchange for the old to rely on, the so-called raising children to prevent old age.

But in the modern world, this strategy is no longer up to date. How to deal with it?

1. "Spiritual weaning" as soon as possible and stripping from the original family.

Don't try to pray for that bit of fatherly love, you are grown up, you are an adult, and you can survive on your own.

Try to get as many educational opportunities as possible for yourself, work hard, and improve yourself.

Don't give up on yourself just because your parents gave resources to your younger brother.

Life is still yours, be self-reliant as soon as possible, and have autonomy over your own life.

2. Don't conform to your parents' idea of "marrying early".

Unless you meet the right person.

Since parents choose to leave their daughters to society, they have no right to interfere in your life anymore.

Now your life is free and belongs to no one.

Whether you marry or not, who you marry, and when you marry are all up to you.

If they have to impose their thoughts on you, then stay away from them. Distance produces beauty, and a little farther away can at least maintain superficial harmony.

3. Be reserved and bounded.

Emotionally speaking, although your parents did not leave you property, they raised you from childhood to adulthood, and also invested energy and material things.

You still have a maintenance obligation to them.

How much love you get, how much filial piety you get.

They feed you and pay 1 out of 10 for your income and energy.

Raising your brother cost 1 2 of your income and energy, plus more than half of your savings.

Then your support for them is also your income and energy 1 10. For example, give 800 to Qian'er every month, and go home to see it during the New Year's holidays.

Your brother should take care of the rest.

That's fair enough.

There is no need for any moral guilt or psychological burden on this.

Good thing I don't have one at home.

In the previous era, this kind of thinking was indeed very common, and this phenomenon was everywhere, but with the development of society now, it should slowly decrease, but this phenomenon will still exist more or less, and I think there are two reasons:

1. Traditional concepts are deeply rooted.

First of all, it is the cause of traditional ideas. Tradition tells us that a daughter is the water poured out by a married daughter, and only by raising a son can the family be passed on, although we have emancipated our minds and made progress in society, this concept still exists, especially in some backward areas where the phenomenon of preference for sons over daughters is more serious.

2. Many people mainly rely on their sons to support their old age.

In addition, there is a very real reason that many elderly people do not have a pension. In his later years, he basically relied on his son to support his old age. Once a daughter marries far away, she can't count on her daughter. It is for this reason that many families favor boys over girls.

As a parent, you should properly handle the relationship between your children.

As a parent, you should properly handle the relationship between your children:

1. Don't judge two children by genderDon't judge two children by gender, give birth to a boy or girl, the son can support the elderly, and the daughter can also support the elderly. They are all children of their own, and the palms and backs of their hands are meat.

2. Don't distinguish right from wrong by age, and don't distinguish between right and wrong by age. Many parents always take "you are the elder sister, let the younger brother" and "you are the elder brother, let the younger sister" as the first sentence, which is not only easy to hurt the child's heart, but also is not conducive to the formation of the child's correct values.