How can parents of primary school students communicate better with their children?

1.Learn to respect your parents.

Why do many children have no respect for their parents when they grow up, and their parents can't control them at all? One of the most important points is that parents often tear each other down in front of their children.

Parents should praise each other in front of their children, and do not belittle and tear each other down. If parents don't understand this truth and tear each other down, the final result is: the child has no reverence for both parents, and there is no respect and filial piety.

In the eyes of children: Mom always says that Dad's is wrong, and Dad always says that Mom's is bad, that proves that both of you have nothing for me to learn and admire, so why should I respect you?

2.Develop conversation skills.

Develop your child's conversation skills, including articulating your needs clearly, adjusting your response to the other person's verbal and non-verbal cues, introducing yourself, expressing empathy, etc. Talking to family members is the best way for children to learn social skills. Parents can play "guest and host" games with their children

One plays the role of the host and the other as the guest. The host's job is to use speaking skills to understand the interests, hobbies, emotions, thoughts and opinions of the guests, and strive to make the guests feel like they are in their own home. The general education teacher of Beijing New Oriental Primary School suggested that families with conditions can record this scene, and then everyone will see how the child is doing.

Parents can also tell their children what they did well and what they didn't.

First of all, you have to put down your posture, don't rush to achieve results, organize your own words, use words that children understand, and don't beat and scold them.

That's how you should get along with your child.

We say that today's children are the heads of the family, although they are young, but the able, the elderly in the family, and the parents are helpless for them most of the time. Recently I heard a babysitter complain that her child was over four years old and had too much temper and cried so much that she couldn't get what she wanted. Parents should not be taken lightly, the whole family has a headache.

In fact, all parents have a headache about their children's education. As the saying goes, when a child is older, it is easy to carry.

In fact, no matter how old the children are, they can cause educational problems for their parents. Children need to grow, adults need to grow, and everyone needs to grow for a lifetime. If you want to educate your child well, you must learn to get along with it, teach it four methods, and teach it to get along with your child.

Psychology: Four tips that taught me how to get along with children. This technique is not a mythical beast.

It's just that it's easier to create a fair and harmonious atmosphere and a loving bond between parents and children. Respect for children, respect for personality, for children, parents are very authoritative, some children are afraid of their fathers, some children are afraid of their mothers, this is not the essence of developing children into both sexes. Most parents believe that their children are a life of their own creation, a part of themselves, and should obediently listen to their own words.

Unconsciously imposing one's own thinking and ideas on children, psychologist Rogers believes that individuals have two processes of value evaluation. One is the evaluation of the organism itself, and the other is the evaluation of the outside. Individuals have a need for this kind of external positive evaluation early in life.

This positive assessment is respect and care. People feel extra happy when someone compliments or compliments themselves. In the education of parents to their children, if children want to be affirmed by their parents, they unconsciously put their parents' behaviors and judgments on themselves, and slowly weaken the evaluation of their own organism, which is a process of "value conditionalization".

Children need to be educated, provided that the child cannot be turned into a copy of the parent on the basis of respect for the personality of the other person. Find out how the children feel.

When a child makes a mistake, the first reaction of many parents is to get angry. Many parents begin to educate their children in the form of scolding. Parents who solve problems in this way are not people who can accept postponement gratification in the first place.

Scolding is the most wrong way to educate, and the results are only bad. When faced with problems, parents should first deal with their feelings calmly, and only in a calm state can they think correctly. Understand your child's feelings first, and then deal with what happened.

If you want to get along, you need to call the child's name a lot, baby, come and watch TV with your mother and have breakfast with your mother, are you happy. Such some interactions enhance feelings.

Then in getting along with children, we should treat children as our own friends, rather than treating children as children, so that it will be easy to get along.

When parents get along with their children, they should consider the problem from the child's point of view, enhance communication with the child, and interact with the child more, which can enhance the parent-child relationship well.

Parents must become friends with their children, and parents should not be too aggressive, must respect their children's ideas, and must give their children the right guidance.

First of all, you should get along with your child on an equal footing, respect your child, definitely not hit or scold, and take into account your child's feelings.

When getting along with children, you should get along with friends in a friendly way, so that you can get along very harmoniously, and children are willing to tell their parents what they want to do.

In fact, when getting along with children, try to be calm, not from the perspective of parents to communicate with children, try to get along like friends.

I think in the process of getting along, we should learn to empathize, because in this way we can understand each other better and get along better.

Parents must think about things from the child's point of view, not force the child in the past, and should get along with the child on an equal footing.

Parents should listen to their children's voices so that they can get to know them better.

The parent-child relationship is the earliest interpersonal relationship established by a child, and it is also the most intimate relationship between parents and children. In a family, parents' education methods and attitudes towards their children always affect the physical and mental development of children, as well as their future development. Relationships also have a big impact, so how do you build a good parent-child relationship with your child?

This is a lesson that every parent must learn.

How to get along with children.

1.For a child to change, parents must first change. Loving children is something you need to learn, not something you were born with.

Gorky famously said: "Loving children is what an old hen can do, but being good at educating children is a major matter of the country, which requires talents and all life knowledge." If parents want to educate their children, they must first educate themselves.

Parents who accompany their children as they grow up must reflect on their own growth. Parents should constantly reflect and sum up experience. The problem itself is not the problem, but how to look at the problem is.

2.Be good at encouraging children and not suppressing them. Everyone loves to be praised, especially children.

It doesn't matter if your child's homework is too difficult. Encourage your child to work with you on homework issues or even go online with your child to find answers. During this process, don't feel like your child is always asking you questions.

It's annoying, not to mention knowing everything in front of your child, deliberately attacking your child, and after finding the answer, encouraging your child to analyze why the answer is.

3.Respect the child's independent personality. The famous educator Rousseau once said:

In the order of life, childhood has its place. Adults should be treated as adults, and children should be treated as children. Children are seen as individuals in their own right, not as appendages to adults.

4.Don't use language that hurts your child's self-esteem. In fact, don't vent your emotions about your child at will, and don't use language that hurts your child's self-esteem.

Every child wants to be respected by others, including their parents, and this respect and trust will give children self-confidence and be an important motivation for them to move forward. Every parent wants their child to become a dragon and a phoenix, but beating and scolding education is definitely not the best way, and it will not work over time.

Finally, a small reminder, don't complain to your child casually, because you will find that your unintentional complaints can create invisible pressure on your child, and you never know what effect this pressure will play on his development.

The most appropriate way for parents and children to get along is to be friends first and then parents, and the dialogue with children should be in the way of friends, not always showing the posture of parents, so that children must obey everything.

In daily life, we should recognize and praise our children more, create a relaxed and happy environment, and set an example when educating our children, and communicate with our children patiently. Parents and children should respect each other and understand each other, and it is best to get along in this way.

Peaceful living is the most appropriate, and treating children like friends is also the most effective.

Parents are the proud teachers of their children, and their words and deeds play a decisive role in the growth of their children, so as parents, they should give their children the power of role models and establish correct values and outlook on life. Everyone has some shortcomings of one kind or another. Or what you think is wrong in your eyes.

Perfect. If the requirements are always particularly high in all aspects. Then you may not be able to meet the right person for you in this life.

Actually, when looking for a partner. First of all, measure yourself. What is excellent in all aspects and what is not.

Don't blindly strive for perfection in the other person. I am not perfect, why don't I want others to be perfect. No matter what reason parents cannot be with their children for a long time, they should pay attention to the cultivation and communication of feelings with their children.

Let children feel the warmth of home and feel the love of parents for their children. Parents can try to spare as much time as possible to accompany their children, to reason with their children, parents have no doubt about their children's feelings, unconditionally love their children, raise children, provide children with the best possible living conditions and educational resources, so that children can grow up freely, and then hope that children can have a good life. Between parents and children, between brothers and sisters, it is because of blood that the relationship will become so delicate, although there will be some contradictions, but because of the existence of blood, a lot of efforts do not ask for returns.

Some children may be born more withdrawn and unwilling to deal with others, this is because their personality is more introverted, so parents can help their children build interpersonal skills, and they can also let their children participate in some school speech classes to help children effectively receive everyone. Due to the lack of family care and education, children will have a sense of loneliness, insecurity, inferiority, etc., and constantly strengthen their sense of independence in helplessness, while self-awareness is also quietly enhanced, and the basic life knowledge and concepts instilled in general family education will also be questioned and even mutated with the enhancement of self-awareness, and then there may be a weakening of communication ability. These may affect future work and life.

Parents and children should get along with each other, and they should master a degree, not too strict, nor completely unruly.

Squat down to eye level with your child

When communicating with children, parents should not be condescending and always scold their children, which is not right. That's not good. Parents can squat or sit on the floor to make the child feel that we are fair, so that the child is more willing to communicate with the adult.

Take care to protect your child's self-esteem

Don't be open-mouthed, don't blame the child's defects and shortcomings in front of others, often blamed by adults in broad daylight, and the child has no solution to defend himself, and the child can only be angry if he wants to save face. On the contrary, parents blame them, creating a vicious circle. For a long time, children will not like to go out and do not like to get along with others, which not only affects the relationship between children and parents, but also affects the child's ability to communicate with others.

Put yourself in your child's shoes

When parents can empathize with their children and think about problems from their children's perspectives, then they can give full play to their empathy and understand their children more easily.

Understand the psychological characteristics of adolescent children

Puberty is a link where children's physiology and psychological state have changed significantly, and parents must have a certain grasp of their children's psychological characteristics in order to correctly guide their children in a reasonable way. Parents can grasp the psychological characteristics of their children during adolescence according to the methods of reading books, consulting experts, consulting teachers, etc., and only with diamonds in their hands can they do a good job of porcelain work, and only then can they do a good job of correct guidance.

Encourage your child

If the child often lives in a situation where he is beaten, for example, he is often said to be "stupid", then he will subconsciously feel that he is indeed "stupid", which is not conducive to the child's healthy development trend. When we communicate with children, we must learn to value children, replace insults with incentives, when children make a mistake, please do not yell at children, or verbal abuse, the best way is to calm down and communicate with children sincerely. Use praise and authenticity to shape your child's confidence.

Let your child learn to choose

You don't have to feel that your child is incapable of doing many things, and you don't have to allow your child to learn with your hands-on ability, but if your child says that he wants to do something, if there is no harm to your child, you can let him do it. In addition, some social practice activities arranged by colleges and universities, including extracurricular tutoring institutions, should allow children to decide whether they need to go, and it is also the trust of parents for children to learn to choose well. If you don't want your child to have his own choice, or if you give up your child's training opportunities because you are worried about your child's problems, then your child will only rely on you for everything and lose his or her own potential.

Keep your emotions in check

There are some parents who always like to lose their temper with their children, and they regret it immediately after speaking, and they are very depressed how they can say such words, and they must change their temperament to empty limbs, but there is no guarantee that they will still lose their temper next time. In fact, in the case of dealing with family disputes, saying sorry will not only not reduce the parents' WeChat and authority, but will increase the children's trust in you.