Seek help! How to reject a particularly good man? I don t want to hurt him and I can t accept him

Updated on psychology 2024-05-15
60 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-10

    Since you don't like the other person, tell the other person what you really think, and don't hesitate. I believe that I can get the understanding of the other party, since he is a good man, he is not afraid of being hurt or rejected, because a good man will always have a good opportunity.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-09

    I think what you said is that you have a good relationship with your ex-boyfriend and you can only know the result after the summer vacation This makes me feel very unreliable Could it be just your wishful thinking about him The probability of the man wanting to get back together after the breakup is relatively small The woman will not forget a lot Your boyfriend contacts you Not necessarily to get back together with you Maybe just treat you as a friend If he really intends to reconcile with you It won't be so abrasive and not show his attitude So I want you to think about this issue clearly Don't get your hopes up And now you have a better man in front of you who is really for you You are now directly refusing Maybe one day you will regret not catching it in the first place You are not necessarily a wise choice to give up the person in front of you for a suspenseful relationship The girl's mate selection period is very short You have to plan more for yourself You can submit a few more "resumes" in order to sign the most satisfactory "contract" So maintain a friend relationship Maybe one day you will be together.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    Find someone who loves you. He's already so good, you're still hesitating. I just had "as if there was a sense of reconciliation" with my ex-boyfriend, so I waited.

    If you don't reconcile after the summer vacation, think about him again, maybe he's still there. Actually, you still like him. A little bit is fine.

    Flowers can be folded straight, do not wait for no flowers and empty branches.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    Why is this man so much like me? It's all hard-working children......

    If you don't want to hurt him, persuade you to disappear from his world, because it will hurt you when he sees you again, let alone see you and your boyfriend ......

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    You should continue to contact this doctor for a while, it's still early, and the other person thinks that your ex-boyfriend should forget it.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    I think it will hurt no matter what you say, but the long pain is better than the short pain, when he pays enough and doesn't get in return, the mood will get worse and worse, and then hit him again, it will definitely collapse, but you can't make up a lie to deceive him, although it is a white lie, if you reconcile during the summer vacation, he knows, what lie do you go to find to round this lie?

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    There is no pure friendship between men and women, don't give up if you have illusions, give up and make a decision, ambiguity will hurt you thoroughly.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    You don't have to dwell on it.

    Give each other a hard time.

    Feelings are not immune to strength.

    If you don't take a stand, you'll get deeper and deeper.

  9. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    To put it bluntly, it's the best thing to do, and the more you don't say no, the more it hurts.

  10. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    Tell him directly that you are not suitable.

  11. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    Let's be best friends, he'll understand.

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    Snub him, and he will be able to understand your heart for a long time!

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    If you don't want to develop a relationship with him. Don't be tactful, resolutely reject him. When you are tactful, he feels that he still has hope, and he will continue to pursue you, in order not to have unnecessary trouble in the future, you have to tell him directly that you can't!

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    Let's just say that at the moment, the focus is on academics, and you should study hard, and don't say anything hurtful, remember to encourage her to study, but remember to keep her distance.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    It is too hurtful to refuse directly, and it is too hesitant to think about it, which will make the boy feel that it is too hurtful to be ambiguous

    So, tell her about your shortcomings, talk about your thoughts (what kind of boy you need) and then say that you are still a little short, so that he can understand after saying this, and will also give him a space to work hard, so that he will not be too frustrated (he will work hard if he likes you).

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    No matter how much rejection is hurtful, people are not stupid. It's nothing more than refusal and promise.

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    Refuse directly, refuse strongly, rest assured that it won't hurt him, even this little setback feels that the injured man is not called a man, it is called a sissy.

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    Say to him, thank you for liking me, I'm so happy, but, in the spirit of being responsible to everyone, let's be friends first, you are so good, maybe you will meet someone better than me.

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    If you don't want to hurt, refuse cruelly, refuse directly, and don't give hope.

  20. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    It depends, but if it were me, I would be honest and firm enough to tell him the real reason, because that would at least let him know the facts.

  21. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    In many cases, intentional harm is actually a form of protection. Since you can't promise your future, you don't have to take possession of your present. Everyone's time is precious, even if it is wasted, you must be at ease and free!

  22. Anonymous users2024-01-20

    I'm sorry, I can't promise you, in fact, I have a lot of shortcomings, I'm a person (make it up myself), and then I'll say we're still friends.

  23. Anonymous users2024-01-19

    Let's just say it better, sometimes it is too tactful and it will give him the illusion that there is still a possibility.

  24. Anonymous users2024-01-18

    I've come across it simply, and I just say I don't like it, or I have someone who likes him

  25. Anonymous users2024-01-17

    You're not my type, and there's a chance to introduce you to a girl that's right for you.

  26. Anonymous users2024-01-16

    You can say whatever you want, it's his business to hurt or not, you don't have to care.

  27. Anonymous users2024-01-15

    Direct rejection, ambiguity is harmful.

  28. Anonymous users2024-01-14

    You said you'd wait until you made 10 million to talk.

  29. Anonymous users2024-01-13

    You just say, is ginger delicious, he says it's not delicious, you say I'm not your dish, I still want to be your turnip, innocent and good friend.

  30. Anonymous users2024-01-12

    You just say you're getting to know for a while.

  31. Anonymous users2024-01-11

    Tell him you already have a boyfriend.

  32. Anonymous users2024-01-10

    Just say I'm sorry, let's be friends.

  33. Anonymous users2024-01-09

    My seven emotions and six desires have been broken......

  34. Anonymous users2024-01-08

    How to reject a person, but not hurt the other party, this you have to reject the other party, it will definitely hurt the other party a little bit, you can't look forward and backward, if you don't like him, decisively reject others, don't give others hope, so he will fall deeper and deeper.

  35. Anonymous users2024-01-07

    When rejecting someone, how do you satisfy the other person without hurting your feelings? Three suggestions for you!

  36. Anonymous users2024-01-06

    To put it mildly, I'm like this too, I don't want to hurt others, don't speak too strongly.

  37. Anonymous users2024-01-05

    Be resolute. Rejection is inevitably a disservice, but it should not be used to discourage you. Since it is the person who is in love with you, he is very sensitive to your words and deeds.

    If your attitude of refusing love is not resolute enough, it is easy to cause misunderstanding of the other party, especially if the other party is in a situation where you love you deeply, and the thinking you adopt out of politeness or consideration will make the other party feel that you also love him, at least let him feel that there is hope, and in the end it often brings greater harm than refusing love. Do your best to maintain the other person's self-esteem. In order to reduce the psychological damage caused by rejection to the other party and make it easier for the other party to accept, it is necessary to try to maintain the psychological balance of the other party and minimize the inner frustration of the other party.

    Specifically, you may wish to first praise the other person's character and talents, and then explain why you can't accept the courtship. The reasons to be said should be reasonable, and it is best to put forward favorable aspects from the other party's point of view, so that the other party feels that the rejection is also for his (her) good; If you have to explain to others, you may want to attribute the negative cause to yourself to avoid giving the impression that you simply rejected him. This method is especially suitable for those who are psychologically fragile and can avoid some extreme phenomena.

  38. Anonymous users2024-01-04

    Don't be overly nice to him, so good that he has a seizure, and thinks it's just too right for you not to have something to do with him.

  39. Anonymous users2024-01-03

    A man should not hurt a girl easily, if you don't like her, tell her early, no matter how much you like you, it won't be able to get your heart, even if you are sad, it is better than being deceived.

  40. Anonymous users2024-01-02

    Reject a person to be decisive and not hesitate, and don't let him feel that there is still a chance, to say that he likes a little bit and this kind of harm is relatively small.

  41. Anonymous users2024-01-01

    As long as you refuse, it will hurt, so you must refuse decisively, and procrastination hurts even more.

  42. Anonymous users2023-12-31

    Making a decision on the spot is the least likely to hurt the other party.

  43. Anonymous users2023-12-30

    The only way is to defile yourself and make them feel that you are not worth it.

  44. Anonymous users2023-12-29

    I think it's better to be silent, and sometimes you don't have to say it if you say no.

  45. Anonymous users2023-12-28

    I guess it's sad to be rejected. It's hard to say. Try to be tactful and sincere when expressing your meaning clearly. Give him self-esteem and not say insulting things. And sincerely apologize.

  46. Anonymous users2023-12-27

    This is not the same as fish and bear's paws.

    There is rejection and there will be harm, no matter what way, if you really don't like him, don't leave him the seed of hope, show him your thoughts, in fact, it is also a relief for him, the hurt is only temporary, so please make the result as soon as possible, the more the feelings drag on people, the deeper it hurts.

  47. Anonymous users2023-12-26

    You say: I am already engaged, I will not accept anyone, if he wants to ask who it is, you will say that it is me.

  48. Anonymous users2023-12-25

    It's not that he directly said that if he wants to linger and entangle, it will only be him who hurts himself.

  49. Anonymous users2023-12-24

    Feelings can't be forced.

    If you don't like it, say it sooner!

    And to be clear, to be clear.

    Don't give the other person the illusion that there is still a chance.

    That's the most hurtful!

    Rather than tactfully and unclearly, it is better to cut through the mess quickly and if you don't want to hurt him, it is better to have a long pain than a short pain.

  50. Anonymous users2023-12-23

    The younger ones dragged first, and the older ones came directly.

  51. Anonymous users2023-12-22

    You just say you don't get along! Anyone who understands knows what this means!

  52. Anonymous users2023-12-21

    It depends on what age you are, and different ages have different ways of doing things.

  53. Anonymous users2023-12-20

    Then you have to figure out what is in his heart, and you have to know what will hurt him.

  54. Anonymous users2023-12-19

    Refuse first, and say it directly if you don't understand, the more you delay, the more it hurts.

  55. Anonymous users2023-12-18

    I can't give you the happiness you want, you don't know me very well.

  56. Anonymous users2023-12-17

    Let's be friends first.

    Slowly he will discover something on his own.

    It's better not to be too blunt.

  57. Anonymous users2023-12-16

    It is advisable to be decisive.

    The longer it drags on, the more it hurts him.

    Don't talk to him about friends or anything like that.

    Because in his heart, you are not just a friend, it is impossible not to hurt, and whatever you do will hurt him.

    So if you don't like it, you will talk to him.

    Perhaps he will thank you for your confession.

  58. Anonymous users2023-12-15

    It is best for him to make it clear earlier, there is no so-called harm, the later the showdown, the greater the damage.

  59. Anonymous users2023-12-14

    Then you can only hurt yourself, and the sooner you refuse, the better.

  60. Anonymous users2023-12-13

    Direct refusal, hurt is inevitable.

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