I fell in love with a divorced man who was 14 years older than me and he had a 15 year old son

You are with him I don't know how long you can be happy 5 years 10 years After all, the gap between you is too big, your family's opposition, and his son's adolescent rebellion, hehe, I think enough is enough for you, in fact, love is not as beautiful as we think, sweet time is always short-lived, I feel that you are the most right, it is about 28 and I am about the same, the road ahead is still very long, it is a lifetime thing, I hope you think about it yourself,,, I wish you good luck.

If you think you can find the peer you like, then please let go of this lifeless relationship, because marriage is to be transformed into a responsibility for a certain period of time, you get a little love now, if you are with him in the future, you need to taste it back, I am really worried about you! Take care of your emotions, you can be friends, it is not recommended that you form a family!

There will be many factors that are not good for your marriage, and you will be under a lot of pressure in the future, so it is better to find another one,,, your loss is not necessarily a matter of love ,,, emptiness.

Office romance, it is better not to develop,. There are very few good results.

There are still many couples who are about 14 years older than themselves. It's up to you what you think.

First of all, break up as soon as possible and don't ruin your future because of a relationship. Second, shift your interest to other goals and stay awake. Also, find yourself an "overseer". Finally, let each other go.

1.Break up as soon as possible and don't ruin your future because of a relationship. Some people may have just experienced love and saw feelings as the whole of life.

2.Shift your interest to other goals and stay awake. In reality, if you don't adjust yourself, you tend to suffer the deepest damage.

Sometimes we change our goals, and we can get relief very quickly. So join a new hobby club, or travel with like-minded friends, and shift goals, maybe that feeling will be put down.

3.Find yourself an "overseer". If you can't control yourself, then all your previous efforts will be in vain.

At this time, if there is personal supervision, then you can remind yourself of your persistence. Hopefully, all women, once in love with someone they shouldn't love, try not to talk about it or pursue it, but to keep it in their hearts. Men never refuse to come to the door, but they never show their true feelings.

In the end, it was only the women who were injured. Perhaps, that's too sure, but since you're not supposed to love, let it go and don't let passers-by affect the scenery on both sides of the road. So you should know that falling in love with the wrong person will only give you the feeling of love, while falling in love with the right person will give you the whole world.

4.Spare each other. Sometimes, love that may not be there is a two-way street.

Because of the family, or distance of both parties, two people love each other, but they can't be together and bear the final fruit, it is better to let each other go. This kind of love is too heavy and oppresses every nerve of two people. It is no longer simple love, but a burden that torments each other.

Isn't he all divorced? In fact, there is really no need to ask others if she is really about you, although it is said that the IQ of a woman in love is negative, but you can definitely analyze his heart for you when you calm down. I've always felt that age is not a problem, it's not a bad thing to have some surprises, many times you can complement each other, and peers grow up slowly together.

I think the challenge you face is whether he has children or not, what is his plan for your future, a man of that age can't have no choice without any future, he must have his plans and intentions.

When your boyfriend reaches this age, he will be stable and mature, don't just look at the maturity and stability of this man now, this is old and coming, any man will have this day.

You and that old man will not have results, don't be confused, he sees that you are young, which old cow doesn't like to eat tender grass, you still don't want to mix with him, this often ends badly.

Get along with your boyfriend.

When other people's families are happy, what do you do to destroy other people's families and destroy other people's happiness? I don't think that man is mature or stable, if he is mature and stable, he will divorce his wife for you? What are you doing this?

Did you think about his wife? Is there a different way of thinking about the problem? You 20 he 35, you 35 he 50, you 50 he 65, you 65 he may go to Hades to report.

It's not worth it. A man can divorce his first wife for you, and it is possible to divorce you later.

The more time passes, the bigger the gap, and when he is very old, you will take care of him.

Most of the cases that are entangled in feelings are similar (the different ones have become legends and are talked about by us).

Acquaintance --- good feelings, at this stage, especially for people who have just come out of an undesirable relationship (basically, at least the period of breakup is not ideal), we are easily attracted to a certain point of the other party, yes, just a certain point.

This kind of goodwill is often accumulated, enthusiastic and unstoppable.

But man is selfish.

In the stage of getting along, this process does not take too long, and the other person's shortcomings will be discovered beyond what they have previously "seen by their own minds". So we couldn't take it anymore.

We hope that the initial goodness will not diminish it.

Otherwise, "I thought he was so perfect, how could he be like that now?" How could I have been completely wrong? ”

In fact, no one has changed, it's just that we didn't notice it at the beginning, and even the subconscious can choose to "not see", it's just that.

PS: We ourselves are basically the same in the eyes of each other. From perfection to inadequacy.

In the end, when you can't bear it (in fact, the shortcomings will inevitably continue to magnify, because these shortcomings are what we are most concerned about at this stage), you have to go back to the same as the previous relationship--- you may break up! I can't stand it! He deceived me!

In fact, it may be that we have deceived ourselves.

So what to do? Out of line?

There are always some "wise people" around him, and they are not bad at handling feelings. There won't be too many ups and downs. Why?

If you are not impulsive at first, everyone will be attracted to it, and you will constantly be attracted to different people. Steady, and then find out his shortcomings. Compare the advantages and disadvantages of the current (former) and judge it comprehensively: is he really very good? Can I really put up with his shortcomings?

In this way, it will not be perfect at first, and it will not be hopelessly in the end.

As for your question, the answer should be there.

So the problem may lie in myself, the same understanding of feelings, this section is divided, and the next paragraph will be fine? Not necessarily.

This kind of man can see that he has no responsibility, he is not decisive enough and procrastinates, and it hurts more to continue to accompany him, so it is better to break it off as soon as possible and find a better one.

Such a man is not credible, don't dwell on it.

You also ask, "What's wrong with this society?"

Have a clear conscience and sit back and relax.

Then I personally don't think there's anything you can't do.

Maybe we can be precocious at the age of fourteen.

Everyone has the right to love and to be loved.

Maybe you may have watched Korean movies too early.

Don't you particularly like to watch it**?

I'm still chasing stars at your age. Hehe.

However, I want to tell you the truth, although men of this age are very fascinating from the outside to the inside.

But if you are together now, it is really difficult to have a future.

Because it's not just because of your young age, it's a matter of vision, even as you get older, your life experience grows.

You'll find better ones in the back. Then you will feel how cute and ridiculous it is today.

Really, that's what I really feel as someone who has come before.

I used to come here at that age. I also said that I love everyone very much, and without anyone, I can't even breathe.

Hehe, looking back now, that person is just like that, but I used to be so persistent, which made my parents so sad.

It looks ridiculous now, but I had a terrible vision back then.

Do you have a father-love complex? Or did you grow up as a child in an unsound or fatherly family? Do you want your father's love or true love? Ask yourself what is deep within you ...

You're too young to be dragged away by momentary emotions. The age difference is too big, and even if they are together, there will be many conflicts.

As long as you like it, both parties have a good relationship.

Let me help you analyze it!

For you: What is your love for him? Is it just that he thinks about your goodness, or is he already as good as you are? Is it because he is good to you that you don't want to repay him, or do you feel that you need him in your life?

For him: What is it about him that he is good to you? Out of appreciation? Out of the boss to the subordinate? To know that he is a divorced person, it must be more realistic .........Does he love you, or does he need to find another mother for the child to help him take care of the child?

Now consider ......... carefullyRecall the details of your work with him and see which one it is!

If you find that you don't love him as much as you thought you would, then you don't need to read ......... below

Since you see this, then it means that you have chosen him. So now let's analyze a few more points for you.

He is 12 years older than you, as the saying goes, there will be a generation gap if the age difference is 3 years, you are a whole generation behind (10 years is a generation), post-70s, post-80s, post-90s, they are not only different in age, but more importantly, the difference in values, world view .........You're going to let him tolerate your .........Or do you go and change him?

If this still hasn't changed your original mind, then be sure to think about this last point!

If you're together, how do you get along with his original child? If the child is already sensible and in a rebellious psychological time, how are you going to deal with it? If you really love him, you have to accept all of him!

There will definitely be a ......... between you and his children in the futureSo can you do it as if it were your own?

If you can take it all in one go, then it means that you love him!

If he can tolerate all of these in one breath, then it means that he loves you!

Wishing you happiness!