The child is seven years old and does not know what to do with honor and disgrace

It is recommended that you read more about parent-child education, and you can also participate in some public classes on parent-child education! Cultivating children is not an overnight thing, the main thing is to start from your own heart and understand the root cause of your child's problems in order to prescribe the right medicine! Don't blindly pursue the fault of the child, because the child is different from the adult, and the child has the child's inner world!

When I was in elementary school, the homeroom teacher gave us a small experiment, let a boy who likes to talk go outside the classroom to play for three minutes, and after the boy went out, he said to the remaining children in the class for a while that after the boy came in, no matter what he said on the podium, you can chat and laugh at will below, and I will not punish you. When the boy walked into the classroom, the teacher asked him to tell his classmates about his favorite toy, which was to make him very eager to tell everyone, and then when the boy was full of emotions to tell everyone, he talked endlessly on the stage, and none of the classmates in the audience listened to him, they were all chatting happily and ignored the boy, and gradually, the boy cried on the stage. I have always remembered this incident, because since then, I have known the minimum of respect, I know that the teacher has to listen to what he says, I know that it is not good to not be taken seriously, I know self-esteem, I know honor and disgrace.

7-year-old children say that they are not big, they say that they are not small, they all say that 3-year-olds will look at it for a lifetime, and the education of children is very important, whether it is the surrounding environment or the education of parents. Now 7 years old should know some basic things, such as friends do not play together, or many friends around him to play is different, there are rewards and no rewards and even the feeling of criticism is also different, children themselves feel, also need the guidance of parents.

Pinch the watch for your child.

First, secretly calculate the time your child spends eating.

Then go up a little bit higher.

Have your child stick to this time.

Eat it in this time.

If it works, increase the time a little more.

Step by step, no reprimand, mainly praise.

But do what you say, don't get old.

Children will have a fluke mentality.

For children, parents are the first teachers. Therefore, it is necessary to set a good example for the child, and if it is the child's problem, you should learn to guide the child.

The most important thing with children is patience.

First of all, mobilize children's enthusiasm and initiative. It is best to find a tutor who can play and help your child learn actively and actively while having fun. You can't blindly instill those dead knowledge in children, for children, what they are not interested in is not motivating, and their hearts are not on learning, how can they learn well.

Second, persevere, don't give up halfway. Infiltrate him with a little knowledge every day, and review what he has said before. Be sure to persevere, if you ask for a tutor, don't just ask for a month and feel that there is no effect and give up, learning this kind of thing is slow, and you can't rush.

Third, don't be rough with your child. If your child is not good at learning, violence must not be used. The more you push him to learn, the more nervous he becomes.

Fourth, see a doctor. Do a thorough examination to see if there is any disease.

My children are also like this: think about the headache, my math is no problem, it is pinyin, and the headache in English cannot be taught.

It's hopeless.

Tip: Buy some exercises for him to do.

Hire a tutor. Let him go to cram school outside.

Like that bridge, you can buy books with colorful pictures.

In terms of numbers, don't just give questions, you can use beans and something like that to keep him interested.

Let him do some exercises, and if you don't give him more of them, let him understand thoroughly.

1. List the schedule, complete it on time and reward the little red star, if you don't complete it, there will be no little red star, and the little red star accumulates to a certain amount, you can reward small gifts.

2. There are some things that we can do in competition with children to see who can do it faster.

Hehe, you need to slowly subtly change the ink to the child, and you can't force it. For example, "Baby, we have five minutes to eat, put away the toys" "Baby has two minutes left, is it done", when the five minutes are up, the adults sit down to eat, don't wait for the child. The next day to take the child out to play, the day before and the child to say good, what time to go out, what time to get up, what time to eat, so that we can go to a few places to play, if you can't go out on time can only go to one place to play, and then the next day according to this schedule to do, each time period is coming, to remind the child to do something in a few minutes, several reminders, 10 minutes, 5 minutes...

Cultivate a sense of time in children, and slowly children will be able to do things neatly! Another key is that in this process, the child can not finish on time, the parent must not help, or the child will have a dependence, I can't finish it, my mother will help me finish it, or I can eat on time and play on time. The rules formulated must be implemented, so that children can also learn to do what they say, take responsibility for their own actions, and bear the responsibility of the consequences.

Introverted children need more guidance, and it is important to understand what the child is thinking. People's character is largely determined by the environment in which they grow up, family factors, social factors will affect the development of a person's character, self-confidence is a part of people's character, plays a decisive role in the growth of people, if there is a lack of self-confidence in the character, the road of life will be very difficult, so you can not be without self-confidence. The country is easy to change, the nature is difficult to change, and the character of a person is difficult to change, but there is nothing difficult in the world, only afraid of people with a heart, and some methods must be tried to know.

My cousin is seventeen years old this year, and he has been introverted since he was a child, which is related to his living environment when he was a child, his parents are busy with work, rarely take care of him, and give him too little care, so that he has a withdrawn personality, is not good at expressing himself and communicating with others, and is confident that he does not know anything to him. Seeing that her grandchildren are about to become adults, my grandmother is worried about her cousin, and she blames herself, she always says that if she cared more about her cousin when she was a child, she wouldn't be what she is now. Grandma is really worried about her grandson's future life, and Yu Wei's family also tries their best to help his cousin, let him talk more, exercise his courage and thick-skinnedness, everyone firmly believes that his younger brother will find self-confidence.

Grandma is a person with a lot of ideas, and he has heard people say that things that open the light can bless people, drive away the bad luck in people, and make people healthy, happy and full of confidence. Grandma has no culture, but she is still very researched about these things, and asked me to help find things that open the light, I am not interested in these superstitious things, but grandma's orders have to obey. I'm lazy, and I won't go to temples, ancestral halls and other places to find it, I think the network information is so developed, ** there will definitely be something I'm looking for.

I really found it, there is a wishing bag for selling light in the store that helps you get rich, and the shopkeeper Fan Fei and Yuan Ying said that their things are all opened by a master, which is absolutely true. I don't know if it's true or not, but it's really necessary to buy one, this thing looks quite spiritual, and I have to buy one for my cousin anyway. My grandmother put the bag of wishes I bought under my cousin's pillow, and there were words in my mouth.

I soon forgot about it, but when my cousin asked me how to pronounce the English word confidence, I was suddenly dumbfounded, I couldn't believe my eyes, is this my cousin, and there seemed to be a little smile on my face. Gradually, the family members noticed the change in their cousin, became more cheerful, dared to express their thoughts, and spoke with a kind of confidence. The happiest is grandma, one day suddenly came to make me my favorite cola chicken wings and plum cabbage button pork, of course I know why, this is the secret between me and grandma.

According to psychological research and our experience, it is usually parents who demand too much and too much from their children, often pay too much attention to their children's mistakes, and use criticism or other harsh punishments to help children correct their mistakes, which will cause children to feel bad about themselves. Whether a child feels good about himself or not initially comes from the attitude of others towards him. Parents (including postnatal caregivers, such as grandparents, nannies, etc.) often treat their children with a negative and blaming attitude, and as they age, their self-confidence will decrease, their low self-esteem will increase, and their self-esteem will become worse and worse, so that they will use evasive methods to avoid making mistakes and avoid punishment.

Intergenerational care, that is, children raised by the elderly, are usually overly cared for and protected, and children rarely have the opportunity to do things on their own, especially if there are some dangerous things, and the elderly prohibit children from doing them. This will give the child the impression that I can't do these things myself, I can't do them, let someone else do it for me.

Because of the fear that the child will not do well, and the fear that the child will be harmed, parents will deprive the child of the opportunity to do things on their own, and the child will habitually give up the opportunity to try, so that the formation of a fixed pattern of not being allowed to do - not daring to do - not doing - unwilling to do, I call this phenomenon "learned impotence".

In response to this phenomenon, the way to improve is: it is normal for children to not be able to do things, not to do well, and to make mistakes; Parents teach their children how to do things in a timely manner, let them practice on their own, and encourage them to keep trying; Tolerate and ignore your child's mistakes, and often praise what you have done well. When your child is doing well, praise must be timely and specific, for example, "You're awesome!"

Wash the towels so clean! When there is a mistake, encourage the child to take responsibility for himself, for example, if the child spills the water, "It's okay, wipe it with a rag and try again, you won't spill the water with the cup this way." ”

You can get them to participate in more networking activities.

Self-confidence comes from capital Such a young child does not understand this truth.

It only flattened him, and I was afraid of him, and I didn't believe that he was disobedient

However, you don't want to hurt him, it's okay to hurt him outside the skin, don't hurt him inside

This is a characteristic of children at this age, self-centered, unwilling to accept criticism from others, I think as long as they go through this age, it is still necessary to guide them appropriately.

This is indeed a big problem, and it will not be able to control it at all after this continues.

The consequence of this is likely to be infinitely magnified, completely self-centered, and do things for yourself, without taking into account the thoughts of others (let alone others), even if you are her closest relatives.

My family is the other door, from my parents to my grandparents, I have taken care of the child since I was a child, and I have never been willing to beat and scold some of them.

After a few years, the result is that when I get to elementary school, I can't control it at all, let alone respect my elders, and it's already good if I don't beat my grandparents. I didn't finish junior high school. Then I went to school in another place, and I don't know what happened to me.

You have to make your parents, grandparents realize the seriousness of the problem, 100 pampering will definitely go wrong, three points of majesty and seven points of care is more appropriate, do the wrong thing should be criticized and corrected, do the right thing should be praised and encouraged, when it should be serious, it should be serious, when it should be scolded, scolded. It should be too late to be 7 years old, but the key depends on the education policy of the elders.

You still need to communicate more with your child to see if the child is uncomfortable, and you need to deal with it according to the specific situation

Punishment Either let him be, and slowly he will be fine.

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