The bride price in the countryside is so high, do you still plan to get married?

Updated on Three rural 2024-05-19
14 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-11

    I'm sure I'm married.,You can't stop getting married because of the bride price.,It's really.,If it's just because of this, you'll be single for a lifetime.。 What should I do about the succession in the future? Even if you don't get married or have children in the future, no matter how good you think, your parents and relatives will definitely not agree, please use your mind to think about it.

    It is very normal in the countryside that the bride price is heavy, I don't know why there is such a custom, we just think it is a test for the mother-in-law. If you truly love someone, you will not back down because of this bride price, I believe that the power of love is great and selfless. <>

    Please be sure to weigh the pros and cons of this, if you don't get married and lose a true love, are you willing to do it? Would you like to? Say goodbye to anyone who doesn't want to end up like this.

    There are a lot of things in life that need us to be troubled waiting for you two to deal with, and you two can't leave the scene because of this little thing.

    I've seen those who are looking for their lovers to find their homes, even if they don't want to be together, but they have given their true feelings, even if they talk about the person they love in the future, they at least have a capital to say. This is the power of love, the desperate pursuit.

    Thinking about retreating in front of you with a little barrier is what timid people do, not what we should do. We have to take out the sharp blade and cut down the doors that are blocked in front of us, this is the door to happiness, which can only be entered by opening and destroying, no matter what the method is, just enter it.

    The divine and irresistible perfect wedding is what every woman dreams of, and all we have to do is how to carry out this wedding perfectly.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-10

    Then let me ask you, if you don't have a house or a car, will you choose to get married? The current bride price is rising, there is nothing to complain about, and the city is even more expensive. Depending on your own choice, rural people think that passing on the family line is a necessary activity in a person's life, and there are also those who have been single all their lives, but there are more in the city.

    First, the preference for sons over daughters in rural areas is more serious, and some families want to have a son and keep having children. For them, their daughters are all raised by other people's families. It is the water spilled by the daughter who marries out, as the saying goes.

    They spent money to raise a girl, and the daughter belonged to her in-laws' family after marriage. With the increasing cost of raising and raising a child, this has led to the rising bride price. And now that the living conditions are gradually getting higher, people's horizons are also higher, and the bride price is also rising, which is natural.

    But in fact, there is no high level that people can't bear and are afraid of marriage.

    Second, when my cousin got married, the man gave a bride price, 10,000, I don't know what level it belongs to. But after getting married, because there was no shortage of money to spend, my aunt returned the bride price money to her cousin's husband. Generally speaking, the bride price will be refunded and not collected, unless it is a very bad family economy, such as owing money to others or something.

    After all, for the sake of their children's better life in their in-laws' house, parents will make such concessions. Therefore, there is no need to do anything because of this problem, sometimes, the bride price is more, it is to look good-looking, to show that the man's family has money, and it is not only the woman's face that is earned.

    Third, if you love your wife, you will be willing to give her parents some money, thank them for their upbringing, and support them, and the money will be earned.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-09

    Naturally, they are going to get married, and people like to generalize, but in fact, the real situation is that not every family needs so much bride price.

    For example, when my relative got married, her husband didn't have so much money, and we had a good bride price here of more than 300,000 plus a house, and a bad one of tens of thousands, and the bride's father had a good face, and he didn't agree at first, so the two of them scraped together more than 100,000 yuan, and then her father reluctantly agreed, and the marriage was concluded.

    But there are also people who are enlightened by their own parents, as long as the children are doing well, it doesn't matter what the false courtesy, because whether it is a bride price or a dowry is for the children, the son of a family next to my house marries a wife, his parents can be said to be farmers, and there are only tens of thousands of savings, and the girls are also very good at talking, so they got married, and now the two have stabilized their foothold in Suzhou with their own efforts, and they are also living very well.

    I also saw the so-called bride price list on the Internet, in fact, it is impossible to count, in fact, it still depends on the relationship between men and women. Some people really value the bride price, and they want a lot of bride price, so at this time you can think of other ways to save the country, if you meet enlightened parents, then you can get married without hindrance.

    So take 10,000 steps back, even if the bride price in the countryside is very high, you don't have to care too much, the average parents want a bride price just to have a face, you can borrow money to make up the face, you can also get married, if you don't want to cheat, then work hard to perform, so that the other party's parents see your potential, and their sincerity to their daughter, this is also okay, no parents really want to sell their children.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    Anyway, no matter what the others do, to be honest, I don't plan to get married, as long as my parents don't force me, I won't get married.

    In fact, I don't get married because the bride price is too expensive, but this is also one of the reasons, in my cognition, marrying a daughter-in-law is used to pass on the lineage, if this aspect of the requirements is not too necessary, I think there is too much difference between getting married or not.

    My hair was a few years before I got married, and now his children are in elementary school, and now every time he sees me, he complains to me, saying that he regrets getting married so early.

    If he hadn't gotten married at that time, he wouldn't have thought of getting married now, because he didn't expect to spend millions of bride price to marry his daughter-in-law at that time.

    In fact, to be honest, I also think like him, we can calculate it, if marrying a daughter-in-law now is according to the standards of our slightly rich people, then it is really not possible to have two or three million.

    First of all, whether the wedding house needs to be prepared, and in our third-tier city, it will cost nearly 1.2 million yuan to buy a larger house of more than 100 square meters.

    Secondly, it's not enough to have a house after getting married, you have to have a car, right, a house and a car are the standard for getting married now, just take an ordinary car about 200,000, which is nearly 1.5 million in total.

    In the end, if she gets married again, give her her mother's money, and the money she uses to get married, which adds up to 500,000 yuan, which may not be enough.

    Anyway, even if it's two million, other details don't count, but the key is where I got so much money all at once!

    What I think is, if you don't get married, you can earn money slowly, leave enough money for the elderly to provide for the elderly, and then you can live a little more chic, you can often change the person next to you, and you won't feel tired, why do you want to get married!

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    I will plan to get married, I think the relationship between the two is there, when it comes to the marriage year, according to a local custom, it is reasonable to give the woman some bride price, and it is not easy for the parents-in-law to raise their daughter so big, so they should be compensated.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    I don't think I will get married in the future, on the one hand, I really don't have this family condition, and on the other hand, I don't think I have the ability to support a family, to be honest, I am a person with low self-esteem.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    First of all, this method is wrong, because not only the rural bride price will be so high, the urban bride price is higher than the rural bride price, this kind of thing is also a major trend in contemporary society, with the development of society, the bride price will be higher and higher, and it can really cost so much money to get married.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    In the past few decades, the preference for sons over daughters in rural areas has led to more men and fewer women, and many parents have spared no effort to marry their sons to daughters-in-law, so the bride price will try their best to meet the woman.

  9. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    This is related to local customs, marriage does cost a sum of money, after all, life requires a very high consumption.

  10. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    The reason why the wedding bride price in rural areas is so high is mainly because rural people's thinking is relatively feudal and conservative, so they will set a high bride price. My view on the bride price is, first of all, the bride price can indeed express a man's heart for the woman. Secondly, for the woman, the bride price is indeed a guarantee after marriage.

    In addition, in fact, when they get married, they are all a family, and the bride price is still fertile and does not flow into the fields of outsiders in the end.

    In rural areas, the bride price is generally relatively high, in fact, the high bride price in rural areas is not without reason, mainly because there are still some feudal remnants in many rural areas, and there is no ambiguity at all when asking for a bride price, which is very ruthless. No matter what the other party's family conditions are, the bride price is to die anyway. Personally, I think that the bride price can be requested, but it should be determined according to the actual situation.

    First of all, the bride price can indeed express the man's heart to the woman, and it can also identify the woman's heart to the man. Some people are already getting married, just because the bride price finally collapsed. In fact, the bride price can indeed determine the man's heart for the woman.

    If the man and the woman finally separated because of his girlfriend's bride price, it actually proves that the love between them is not strong. If a guy wants to be with this girl by all means, then this is indeed true love. On the contrary, if the woman does not let go and has been determined to ask for a high bride price, it also proves that he is not sincere to the man.

    Secondly, for the woman, the woman does pay a lot after marriage, and the bride price is indeed a guarantee after marriage. Most of the situation in society now is that many women will have children after I get married, and then take care of the children, do housework, take care of the elderly at home, and pay a lot for the family. Even some women are abandoned by boys in the end, in the face of this situation, I think women want this bride price, in fact, it is also to get a guarantee after marriage.

    After all, no one wants to give everything they have and end up getting nothing.

    In addition, in fact, when they get married, they are all a family, and the bride price is still fertile and does not flow into the fields of outsiders in the end. In fact, if you think about it from another angle, after getting married, everyone is a family, if the family can be together in harmony and happiness, what is the importance of who the money is placed on? In the end, this money will not flow into the fields of outsiders.

    That's my personal opinion on bride price.

  11. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    Rural people are ignorant and want more bride price, and then subsidize their son's expenses or save a pension money for themselves, I think the bride price can be appropriately asked, but it is best to return it to the young couple.

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    It may be in order to make his daughter live a particularly good life, or it may be a general trend, which is why this situation occurs, I think the bride price is a man's respect for a woman.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    Because the countryside is poor, and there are many children in the family, in order to marry a daughter-in-law for a boy, so a lot of bride price is required, I think the bride price is a number, which is the respect of the man for the woman.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    It is not difficult to see that the majority of rural marriages are dominated by the female market, and that the bride price demanded by women before marriage exceeds that demanded in the cities, and there are even signs of further improvement. The bride price in a rural marriage may seem like a discussion between the bride and groom, but it is actually a game between two families.

    Specifically, the concept of money in rural areas has not changed much, and wealthy families have shown a relaxed attitude towards the bride price, which is only a symbolic amount of tens of thousands of yuan, and finally goes to the newly established family. For example, some rural areas in Shanxi believe that if the bride price is high, they will lose face in front of relatives, and believe that the value of daughters is reflected in the bride price. Even if they think that the bride's ** is not enough, they will not give the man room to defend himself.

    For young men and women in rural areas, the main reasons for late marriage can be attributed to two factors: first, a change in attitude. As the requirements increase and the conditions increase, the probability of finding a suitable object in a short period of time naturally decreases.

    In fact, this is directly related to the imbalance in the sex ratio between men and women that began in the 80s of the 20th century, because of the different perceptions of fertility. In rural areas, where the preference for sons over daughters is very strong, many families choose to kill the girls in their arms in order to have sons, which is also an important reason for the serious imbalance between men and women in rural areas. The fact that there are more men than women naturally makes it impossible for many young single men to find a date.

    China has had a tradition of quoting bride price for marriage since ancient times, but few marriages had such a high bride price as it does today. Now, if you want to get married in a rural area, you have to carry it'Three mountains'These three mountains refer to the unit, the car and the huge cash bride price. For a long time, a house and a car were the standard for marriage in all regions of the country, but the bride price was different in different regions.

    In recent years, the number of brides in rural areas has risen sharply, from tens of thousands of yuan at the beginning to more than 100,000 yuan now, plus units and cars, it takes nearly one million yuan to marry a daughter-in-law in rural areas.

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