My husband spends money indiscriminately, what should I do as a wife?

Updated on educate 2024-05-07
24 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-09

    Your weakness is what makes all this. Because he's used to it, because no one can control him, if you don't have the money to toss him. It costs a lot of money, no matter what the premise is, but these are not made by a responsible man.

    Life is lived by yourself, no matter how good your in-laws are to you, it is not a lifetime thing, after all, it is the two of you who live it. So, don't be unprincipled because your in-laws are good to you, such a man is really not worth it, I personally think that if you are divorced, it is an education for him, he will know how to cherish it, and he will know how to mature if he takes care of his family. If you don't want to take this step, if you go on like this, it can only be a vicious circle, if you are willing to let go from now on, simply ignore this matter, all the consequences to be faced, let him this man bear it, to solve it, even if it goes to the end of the road, you don't care, there is no blow he can't remember, and will never take marriage seriously, as long as you have this determination, you can.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    Take care of yourself, don't give him money, if he doesn't change you only divorce, you still have a daughter, and an old man, if your husband has been like this, you think about what to raise them, don't talk about them, you have problems.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    It's a similar situation in our family? I don't know what to do anymore. I really want to divorce him even if I pay off my debts!

    I just feel sorry for the child. In fact, the usual living situation is similar to that of being widowed. He said that he was starting a business, and he had never seen how much money he had recovered for more than ten years, and he was always investing.

    Although the industry has expanded, the debt is also increasing, and it can be afforded for the time being. He is becoming more and more conceited, thinking that he is very capable, others are inferior to him, he has no right to speak, and he doesn't listen to the advice he gave, which is really hurtful. Many times the result of not listening to advice is wrong, the loss is heavy, regret it for a while, and the next time after the crisis, it will continue to go its own way...

    Always take the busy business as an excuse, no time to accompany the child, once his socks I didn't wash him, no socks changed, he washed and dried himself, the daughter asked strangely, dad turned out you can wash clothes? Another time, a friend's child is a treat, I picked up my son to go over, not at a table, my son didn't see him for a few days, I wanted to play with my dad and didn't dare, I looked at him and laughed, I called him and then pushed my son over, he teased his son very happy at first, two or three minutes later began to count down his son to find faults, and his son couldn't sit still and had to go out... He basically doesn't care about things at home, and is always busy.

    Alas? It's definitely a widowed marriage, and I always feel like I can't see the future.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    The wife can make her own money, and she can make her own money and spend it, so it is better for a woman to have her own career, so that she will not be discriminated against by some men.

    If the woman is not at fault, has fulfilled the responsibilities of a wife, fulfilled the obligations of a wife, is conscientious, sincere, diligent and thrifty, honest and honest, and keeps to herself, the man will not neglect the family. Even if there are those who don't give money to their wives, there are very few.

    Under normal circumstances, the male protagonist is outside, the female protagonist is inside, and the family's expenses are all provided by the man.

    In this case, if the expenses of a family are provided by the man, for example, the woman is a full-time wife and has no financial **, then the woman is definitely in a situation where she needs to spend every penny.

    If this is the case, I suggest you take a list of every penny you spend on your family and tell the truth. This is all household consumption, and if the man does not give it, the family will not be able to function. A day's eating, drinking, Lazar, children's food and clothing.

    Then let the man be both outside the main and inside.

    Therefore, I think that if the family is because of this situation, the man does not give the woman money, this is a big problem, and it is obviously not to live a life. In such a situation, then sit down and have an open and honest chat with the man.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    1. Argue with reason

    It is a very serious matter for a husband not to give his wife money to spend, which can lead to some crisis of trust in the family. Generally, husbands earn money to support the family, and if the wife is not given a certain amount of financial expenses, the family will definitely become fragmented. In fact, it is a normal thing to give money to the wife, so that the relationship between the husband and wife can be maintained.

    Not giving money to his wife shows that the man has some personality or psychological problems, and the girl needs to pay more attention.

    2. Ask for help

    If the husband does not take money to subsidize his wife, then the wife can ask for help from the outside world. For example, you can reflect this problem to your parents-in-law and ask them to educate their children, or you can cry to your relatives, which can form a lot of pressure on men. With these methods, men should be compromised.

    In fact, women should learn to defend their due rights in married life, and if they are bullied, they should rise up and seek solutions.

    3. Independence

    Girls should still be more independent in modern society, and it is important to learn to earn their own money, so that they will not be financially dependent on boys and will not be looked down upon by their husbands. Independence allows women to establish their own family and social status, so that men do not look down on women.

    In married life, women should actually have their own careers, so that women will have weight when they speak, so that they don't have to ask men for money often. A career is very important for women, which is a great guarantee for women's dignity, personality and social value.

    Cause. He was stressed and dissatisfied with his family's expenses. Many men are always very confident in their abilities, and after marriage, many macho men will let their wives give up their jobs and teach their husbands and children at home.

    However, when women do not work and all household expenses are borne by men, men feel very struggling.

    At this time, some quarrels and friction will arise. Whether it is the inability to pay for living expenses or the friction in life can take a hit to a man's self-esteem and confidence, so he will do extreme things that no longer give money to his wife.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    Personally, for some life reasons, money is a sign of security for me to a certain extent, and I always feel that there is something less in the hands of others, and if I get married, I may not hand over the money to my wife. But you are pregnant, your husband may have his own reasons for doing such a thing, it may be that you have not established a complete trust relationship between you, which is also for all kinds of phenomena in this society to prevent everyone, I think you still talk to him sincerely about this problem, sometimes timely communication can reduce a lot of misunderstandings can also solve a lot of things, the happiness of marriage is in your own hands, money is not everything, life is so short.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    I think it's so hard to get along like this, do you want to live on an AA system? He doesn't give money to his wife, so he goes out to work by himself, spends the money he earns, and takes care of himself. Then talk to your husband about how to distribute this money, and if neither of you is willing, then there is no need to talk about it.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    If the husband does not spend money on his wife, then the wife can not be a full-time wife in the furniture, but have a job of her own, keep yourself busy, when you are busy at this time, your busy figure will make your husband feel very powerful.

  9. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    The husband doesn't give his wife money to spend, and the wife can make money by herself, and she can make money and spend it by herself, so it is better for women to have their own careers, so that they will not be discriminated against by some men.

  10. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    Then the wife can make her own money and spend, and be financially independent of each other. Of course, it is also possible for the wife not to cook for her husband, wash clothes, and let her husband do the housework by himself.

  11. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    It depends on the situation, it is better to ask for others than for yourself, go out and find a job to support yourself, and let him take care of the family.

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    If the husband does not give his wife pocket money, first of all, the woman must learn to be independent. At the very least, you need to be financially independent. In this way, you can live a more wonderful life.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    The husband does not give his wife money to spend, only the woman is financially independent, and she can make her own decisions when she spends money, so that the man has the responsibility to support the family.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    Self-reliant, his wife doesn't have to worry about him taking care of him, he is self-sufficient, has enough food and clothing, works hard, and dumps him to find a better one.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    I don't think it's easy to deal with this kind of thing. Everyone has the ability to survive. In today's society, everyone is equal. Women can also go out and earn money.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    I've heard a lot of things like this, the couple has been in the AA system all their lives, and I can't understand how to live like this, this is probably how everyone has their own way of living, and no one can understand his world.

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    1. How to deal with a husband who loves to spend money indiscriminately.

    1. If you find that your husband loves to spend money, you can see where his money is spent. If you like to eat, drink and have fun outside, then this situation should be stopped, after all, this phenomenon is not a good phenomenon, and if it continues to develop, it may affect the relationship between your husband and wife, and it will also affect the normal operation of the family. I need to have a good chat with my husband, so that he can take into account the family and children's aspects, and hope that he can get rid of this habit of eating, drinking and having fun.

    2. If your husband's money is spent on dressing up, then at this time, you may need to communicate with him well, buy enough clothes, just learn to dress up a little, instead of blindly buying new things.

    To sum up, the above is the relevant content introduced on how to deal with the husband who loves to spend money indiscriminately, I hope it will be helpful to everyone. If you have more good suggestions, please leave a message in the comment area below.

    Second, what does it mean that men spend money lavishly.

    1. If men spend money lavishly, they generally develop this habit from childhood, and the conditions at home may be better since childhood. And the living environment when she was a child caused her to be lavish now, so it may be difficult to correct it.

    2. If the family conditions are not very good, and the man's life was not very rich when he was a child, but he has the habit of spending lavishly, then this can only show that he may have a better face and want to show his superiority in front of others.

    3. There is also a situation that this man may really make more money, and he also has the ability to make money, so he will naturally spend money lavishly, because if he can make money, he will naturally not plan money, and he has developed this habit.

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    Then you don't have more than a month to order.

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    You can confiscate all of his wages and give him a certain amount every monthPocket moneyto avoid him spending lavishly. Then it is to give him all the housekeeper's affairs, let him be responsible for all the expenses of the family alone, and clarify the details of a family's expenses, with this detail, if the husband is a person who takes care of the family, he will no longer spend money indiscriminately.

    Everything is not absolute, if the other party has some necessary or special expenses, you can directly pay for him or buy it back for him to use, so that he understands that he is not stingy with spending money for him, but just hopes that he will get rid of the habit of spending money indiscriminately, because the family needs some money accumulation for emergencies and the good development of the family.

    Reasonable consumption skills for families

    Make a plan of expenses and income, summarize it every month, how much income, how much you spend, and how much money you spend on it, all of which need to be recorded clearly. Tell your lover to use cash every time you consume, because people are like this, and it doesn't seem to be distressing to pay numbers with a mobile phone, but it will be distressing to trade with cash.

    Open a common fixed bank account, deposit the same amount of money every month, so that you can control your spending, this common account card can not withdraw money, unless there is a real urgent need for money, and then two people can only withdraw the money after discussion.

    Men should learn to manage money, so that they will not go out to spend money indiscriminately, and it is necessary to use the money reasonably, and it is necessary to talk to him more about this knowledge.

  20. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    In daily life, if you meet such a husband, then you should make it clear to him that you will not share the family's affairs for him in the future, and you will earn money and spend your own money, and you will become more and more rusty in the future, so that he can understand this truth.

  21. Anonymous users2024-01-20

    First of all, men and women are equal, why does the husband have to give money to his wife? I really can't accept that my husband doesn't give money, and I can divorce at all.

  22. Anonymous users2024-01-19

    Then go out and work on your own to earn money.

  23. Anonymous users2024-01-18

    The husband and wife are all mutual, they are paying for the family, and they want to spend the money, the key is ah!

  24. Anonymous users2024-01-17

    Spending money indiscriminately does not determine whether the person is good or bad, and if the money is spent on fun without considering the family, it is a matter of conduct.

    If you think that your husband is still a responsible man, you can make a list of household expenses, and then find out exactly what your husband spends his money, and discuss the planned expenses with your husband if he is working for friends, colleagues, and work.

    When forming a family because of love, the cost of firewood, rice, oil and salt is indispensable, so reasonable expenses are absolutely necessary! Wishing you happiness!

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