When did you feel like you couldn t think of yourself as a child anymore?

It's when I have to face a lot of pressure, and at that time, I feel that I can't hide under the protection of my parents like a child.

But the days are going slowly, even if there is no now, there will be slowly in the future, mainly relying on both sides to struggle together, bear the pressure, you can't buy what you want to buy like in your parents' arms, you can buy what you want, don't worry about what will happen if you don't have money. I don't value the importance of money that much.

Now that I am about to get married and live, the first thing is to save money to raise the children well, and I have to think about a lot of things, so I am not as carefree as before.

In the past, when I was working outside, I was very willful, I went to work if I wanted to go to work, and I left directly if I wanted to resign, I didn't care about those salaries at all, I just cared about my own happiness, and I felt like a child at that time, not mature at all, very willful.

At that time, I lived at home alone, and I began to do all aspects of cooking and taking care of my life alone, and when I stayed with my parents, my mother helped me get everything right, and my father would cook the dishes I liked, but when I cooked by myself, I realized how good it was to stay with my parents. <>

Especially I'm afraid of the dark, when I was out of the field before, my mother came down to pick me up at night, and when I went back to my hometown to find a cake shop's salary to work, I needed to work at night until half past ten in the evening, and it was almost eleven o'clock when I got home, and there was an alley downstairs in my house, the light was broken, and there was no light in that alley, so I ran in and upstairs with the mobile phone light on every time. At that time, I felt that I had to rely on myself for everything, not on my parents.

If it were me, it might have been after the birth of my baby that I realized that I was no longer a child!

Many years ago, my father was suddenly hospitalized with a heart upset, and that night, I felt like I had grown up suddenly.

I will, because I love this person, I love everything about this person, including children.

How to treat both parties in a remarried family with children.

Treat each other's children fairly, and be slightly biased towards each other's children! Remarriage is a rebuilding of the capacity to love. If a remarried person wants to have a harmonious family, he or she must strive to change himself, adapt to his new role, and abandon the following 4 pathological psychology:

"Comparative psychology", that is, in the couple's interaction in a restructured family, comparing the current spouse with the previous spouse is often the fuse of many family conflicts.

defensive psychology", not being honest enough in dealings, "keeping a hand" in terms of economy and property, or wanting to control both parties, being too sensitive in terms of feelings, unable to get out of the shadow of the first failure, and suspicious of everything.

favoritism", such as counting each other's children and favoring one's own children; "Inferiority complex", some people (especially women) think that divorce is a dishonorable thing because of the failure of their first marriage, feel inferior, blindly give to the current one, and lose themselves.

Do you have to have another child if both parties to the remarried family have children?

In a restructured family, most of the time, at least one parent has children. There is a lot of pressure in society nowadays, it is easy to have children, it is even more difficult to raise children, and raising children is more of a responsibility, rather than for your feelings, to become the so-called bond of your feelings. has experienced some emotional ups and downs, and should know how to cherish it.

If the remarried family has its own ghost and has to rely on the children to maintain it, such a relationship is estimated to not last long. Having another child is actually extremely irresponsible. Manage your marriage well. Maintain the relationship between the members of the restructured family.

I will treat my children as my own children, respect the old and love the young, whether the children are my own or not, I must love them.

Behind many bear children there is a bear limb disturbing parents, these parents only know how to protect their children, and do not care what the truth of the matter is, nor can they correctly judge who is right and wrong, resulting in a distorted view of right and wrong of children.

The reason why parents can say "he is just a child" lightly after their children make mistakes is first of all because parents lack a correct view of right and wrong, and cannot correctly understand or directly ignore the truth; secondly, because parents are overprotective of their children and spoil them for a long time; In the end, it is because parents are irresponsible and do not care to train their children at all.

2.Asking others for forgiveness in the name of "children".

Obviously, it was the bear child who made a mistake, and others were obviously hurt and planned or had to fight back, but because of the parent's sentence "He is still just a child" and "What do you care about with a child", it has become the fault of others. When parents say "he's just a child", the meaning behind it is that even if the child makes a mistake, you can't blame him, if you blame him, you are stingy, this is actually a means of coercion to prevent others from resisting, and you can only let the bear child mess around.

After reading the above analysis, will you feel too angry, not only angry with the bear child, but also angry with the parents of the bear child, who are angry that they connive at their children to make mistakes and do not allow others to educate, so how can we refute this statement, so that the parents of the bear children can realize the error of this sentence and accept the criticism of others?

Refute the words of the wayward bear parent.

1."He's just a kid" – but you're not! ”

When the parent of the bear child says, "He's just a child," there is a meaning that is, "How can you deal with a child?" "So how do we, as victims, refute it? You must know that parents are the guardians of their children, and parents must be responsible for the mistakes made by their children, so you can reply "but you are not a child" to ask parents for explanations.

2."He's just a kid" – kids can't do that."

Many parents ignore the truth and blindly think that how can a child do such a thing, it must be slandered by others, so they only care about protecting their children and ignore the harm suffered by others. If you want to refute it, you need to tell the parents that "the child can't do such a thing" to wake the parents up to how excessive his child's behavior is, and how harmful it will be to others and the public.

3."He's only a child" – but he's not my child."

Parents lack self-consciousness and always over-protect their children. When our legitimate rights and interests are violated by the bear child, we can refute "but he is not my child" to discipline the child, telling parents that if you don't care about your child, then leave me alone and take care of it for you. Of course, when we are hurt, we should seek more reasonable ways to seek justice from the bear children and their parents, so that we will not suffer because of the wrongdoing.