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I think it's a good thing that your roommate is too dependent on you, maybe you think your roommate is super troublesome, but I think he is a friend you deserve, and your roommate's dependence on you means that he trusts you very much, doesn't it? You don't need to do anything, if you think he is very verbose, you can take him when you do something, teach him how to do it, let him learn to be independent on his own, and slowly it's fine.

There is a child in our dormitory who is particularly dependent on me, although we are a class, but he is two years younger than me, in my eyes he thinks of me as my little brother, every day after me, although he went to college, but he is still like a child is not mature at all, he himself can't even wash a piece of clothes, his first dirty clothes are I washed for him, since then he seems to think of me as a friend, everything to tell me, every day in class and dinner with me, You have to take him to self-study, those who know know, and those who don't know are still working on the base, haha, so I still want to tell you that although he relies on you a little annoyed by you, he is definitely your trusted good friend, at least he trusts you very much.

Like I said above, he is too dependent on you, you can slowly exercise him so that he no longer depends on you, he depends on you, you can also rely on him, for example, to buy food, he relies on you and asks you to help him bring food, of course, you can also ask him to bring you food, and over time it will be fine, it is impossible for you to fall out with him because he is relying on you, right? So you have to put up with him, so you can have one more iron buddy.

Finally, I still want to tell you classmates, don't think that it's not a good thing for your roommate to rely on you too much, on the contrary, it's really a good thing for you, someone depends on you, to a large extent, it can reflect that your personnel are very good from the side, otherwise, no one will rely on you, so you must cherish your roommate, it's not easy to have one more friend.

I had met such roommates when I was a student before.

She's really super clingy.

We are not only roommates, but also in the same class.

I remember when I was in the class, she would come to me every day after class.

Then she went to the toilet, went to the commissary to buy food, and even went to physical education class She was always with me, and she had to pull me to do everything.

I think these are more acceptable to me, but the most unacceptable thing for me at that time is actually that she likes to sleep with me when I go to bed at night.

Because I have developed the habit of sleeping alone since I was a child, when I sleep with her, she has to carry me every time, and I am very unaccustomed to it.

At that time, it was a one-person bed, but because it was winter, and the quilt I brought was not thick enough, I didn't bother to go back to the house to get it, and then she asked me to sleep with her, so she put my quilt on top of her quilt, and then the two of us slept on a bed.

Then the lights were turned off at night, and when the lights were out, she had to talk to me, and I didn't want to talk to her because I was sleepy.

Then she had to stick to me and hold me and talk to me.

She even kissed me on the cheek, and then I couldn't take it anymore and crawled back into my own bed.

Then she asked me to come back, and she promised not to hug me.

Later, after coaxing me back, I went to sleep honestly.

At that time, I really couldn't stand her sticking to me so much.

But I think she is very good to me, and the relationship between the two is also good, so I didn't say anything, so I kept holding back.

At that time, I still wonder if she was gay.

But it turns out that she is just a more clingy kind, and now she is also pregnant and married to be a mother. <>

Then leave her and learn to be independent. I'm the same as your roommate.,I'm stuck to death by my roommate every day.,I have to take me with my boyfriend on a date.,I'm going crazy by her.,,She said she must rely on others.,Otherwise she won't be able to live.。。。 But I couldn't live anymore.

Then you will learn to be alone and keep yourself busy, but you must also learn to say no, otherwise you will be miserable! Try talking to her!

Everyone needs help from someone at times, and a "roommate" shows that she trusts you, but you need skill in dealing with it, don't help him deal with it every time. Reserve some space and encourage self-confidence.

Isn't it fun to help others if you have the ability to help?

1 All of them have both brothers and fathers. It's too hard to do.

Due to family reasons at an early age, inferiority complex sprouted in his subconscious. The key to solving the problem is to build up his self-confidence and gradually overcome his inferiority. You can start by looking for his strengths, carefully examine his strengths, and compare every bit of progress with his past strengths, but never compare them with others' strengths, so that you can gradually increase your self-confidence.

At the same time, you should give him some tasks and encourage him to participate in some group activities frequently, and you can also take him to participate in some group activities frequently, and give him the opportunity to fully express himself in the activities, so that his strengths can be fully developed in front of the public. Afterwards, let him see more of the successful side, even if he fails, he must also see that he has the courage to do it is a kind of success. Let him believe that he can only change himself if he keeps training himself in practice.

We should not only help him like a brother, but also discipline him like a father, tell him how to go through his life, teach him how to successfully build his own mind, cultivate him to be self-reliant in life, too much care and care is tantamount to killing him, not only to find his self-confidence, but also to ruthlessly attack his weaknesses, not too much and not too much, it is really difficult! Don't tell him very clearly about things in life and society, let him eat by himself, grow wise, take his time, don't worry, and gradually let him develop an independent personality.

I also have a wonderful method that can change a person's introverted personality, I know that I am familiar with 300 Tang poems, and I can't compose poems and chant them, and the cultivation of eloquence is also like this. The key to reading some books on communication and eloquence is to read more theoretical articles and humor and jokes, which is a practical skill, and practice makes perfect.

First choose a book of humor and jokes for him, stipulate that he will have a certain amount of time every day to memorize, eat a book thoroughly, and his life will be full of jokes and witty humor. Personality changes.

See also my blog Relationships and Confidence. Hope it helps.

I'm going to do it!

You, the elder brother, sometimes can't say the same about your younger brother, the reason why the younger brother depends on you is because he trusts you, and you are a good example for him

You should think that this is your honor, and you think about it, what would you do if he suddenly ignored you one day? Do you feel a little bit lost?

So I hope you continue to be such an example, and his situation is more special, you should be a little bit better to him, let him feel like a relative, if you abandon him again, I think he will be very lost, and there is also a tender downhill Because you said, his personality is more introverted So you have to care about him and be your role model The reason why he proudly introduces you to his roommate also shows that you are in his psychological position!

Didn't you say he learned everything from you? So!

1 You can do some housework and the like, so that he can also learn a little bit, so that he does not need to worry about his independent life in the future

2 You can make it difficult for you to use him as your motivation to study your own, so that his academic performance will not be too bad 2 The best of all! Why not?

3 You can talk to him more, tell him how to behave, let him make more friends, and tell him something about the benefits of having more friends (you should also be careful about making friends, you must tell him this) so that I think he will stick to you a little less, don't you say?

4 You can also learn some basic skills! Make yourself a little more fulfilling, so that he is likely to learn from you

5 When he grows up, he will naturally have some ideas of his own, and he may not stick to you every day Didn't you say that he had just been admitted to college, so that he would gradually have the ability to be independent Don't you say? Hehe!

I think it may have something to do with your cousin's inner world, he lost his father at a very young age, and suffered a blow that no child of the same age has experienced, maybe because of this, he feels very lonely in his heart, and he feels that he is always missing something compared to others, and that is fatherly love. And it just so happens that your brother cares about him very much, and he feels the warmth and makes him feel it"Father's love".That's why I'm very dependent on you.

If you want to solve this problem, if he is an introvert and doesn't get along with his classmates much, you can let his classmates have more contact with him, expand his circle of friends, or help him find a GF

...This is a bit of a trick. That one just told him that it was so big.

Learn to be independent. Don't rely on your brother for everything. After all, my brother will have his own family in the future.

There will be a lover of their own. I may not be able to take care of you in the future. There are a lot of things to try to do on your own.

Then he said encouragingly, manly husband, decide your own things more in the future. Try not to rely on my brother to watch. In this way, your brother will have face.

And he's a little smarter and knows that you have to have your own family, a lover or something. I know you don't want him to be such a rice cake. You can also know if he likes male drops....

Look at the reaction. If you think so, it's best to act like you don't know after trying to make him independent, and then hack him here. Wakaka.

But you have to accept that he may not be as good to you as he was in the past.

This is what Freud said that this is a brother-in-law plot, which should be a kind of mental illness. You are in college, right, there is a psychological counseling room in the university, you can take him to see it, but you have to pay attention to people like him, who are generally psychologically fragile, and generally do not admit that they have psychological problems, so you must pay attention to not let him feel that you dislike him, and you have to let him face this kind of psychology.

Also, you can tell your parents about the situation and ask them to help you. They will also help you resist some things so that you are less awkward when you get along with him.

Hopefully, I'll give you some help. No more worries.

Find something for him, of course, it is something he can do and it is right, let him do it. Then, evaluate him and summarize him. Say right and wrong. Constantly let him grow an independent spirit.

Where he does the right thing, you might as well praise him often, praise his strengths, and he will grow.

I suggest you try to find him a girlfriend to see if he has homosexual tendencies. Then it's about bringing your girlfriend and seeing how he reacts. If you can roughly confirm that you are gay, it is better to see a psychiatrist as soon as possible.

Teach him how to be a man. Primary!

I guess he's not a glass, he should think of you as a dad or someone you can rely on, he thinks he'll be safe by your side, you have to enlighten him, tell him his own way, go his own way, go to college, you should learn to face life...Don't despise him, because you're the person he trusts the most, tell him and trust him to face life on his own.

Teach him some truths that he must learn as a human being, so that he can personally feel that he should not do or should do it.

I also think it's a psychological problem, eighteen years old, does he often interact with outsiders? If there is, it must be a psychological problem, if not, it may be that the relationship is not very good, take him out more, right?

Try to let him learn to work alone as soon as possible, is it possible to rely on you in the future? It's impossible to change this now, when will it be changed if you don't change it now?

You let him do what you tell him to do on his own, and he is not allowed to rely on you.

See if he is willing or not, and flatten him.

Psychologically not normal. I understand you, you can talk to him.

Does he have a complex of falling in love with his cousin, then it's best to take him to a psychiatrist.

Hurry up and find him a girlfriend and beware of homosexuality

Hurry up, even if you rob it, you have to get him a girlfriend.

Help him with your own actions.

Just do what msnfh said, get him a girlfriend!

Otherwise, be careful that he chases you

Brother lover.

This is a bit of a trick to do.

Leave him to time.

If you can get along, you can get along, and if you can't get along, you can build your own circle, but you can't change yourself because of others. Everyone will have their own circle, and it's okay to be your own. ，

It's good to keep a certain distance. But don't be too distant, it's your roommate, after all. For individuals, it is worth living each day happily.

University is a miniature society, with a variety of forms, and everyone has it, and it can be regarded as an introductory exam for you to enter the society. If you can't get along with your roommates in the dormitory, then I think your future will be difficult. Try to communicate, get to know more about this person, and impress her with sincerity.

There are more people who can pretend, but I believe that people who pretend are actually fragile inside.