In your opinion, what knowledge made you change your outlook on life after knowing it?

If everyone thinks that Yongzheng is a cold-blooded and ruthless emperor, just a serious look, then we still don't know Yongzheng. Actually, he also has a pretty cute side. In fact, Yongzheng itself has a very high contrast and cuteness.

Although he is cruel to people, Yongzheng is still quite considerate when it comes to small animals. He can be said to be the best shovel officer in the Qing Dynasty.

From a philosophical point of view, everything has a beginning and an end, and life in the world is just a process.

It turns out that Chinese giant pandas need to sign a panda lease contract to go abroad, and they have to pay a lot of dollars to China.

Love is not all there is to a person. This sentence turned my outlook on life upside down. In the past, I was full of fantasies about society and love, but now, there is nothing that can interest me.

In 685 AD, Japan sent an envoy to China, and Wu Zetian gave the Japanese emperor two pandas and returned to Japan with the envoy. At that time, Wu Zetian engaged in "panda diplomacy".

When I was a child, I admired Zhang Fei in the Three Kingdoms, holding a Zhangba snake spear made of a bamboo pole every day, shouting loudly and repeatedly rushing to kill the scarecrow in the field. Until one day, I learned that Zhang Fei wrote a good hand, and he was also good at drawing pictures of ladies......The worldview collapsed in an instant!

The hand of the hand and the son together with the old man originally did not describe the love between men and women, but to describe the friendship between comrades-in-arms.

People often ask me, why do you have such a good relationship with your teachers? Are you better at slapping with sycophants? Yes, it's true that I'm a bit of a sycophant, but I think it's more important that I know that I am a student, and that the relationship between teachers and students is good, which means that the relationship between teachers and students is good.

The requirements of students are to respect knowledge and love learning, and as long as they do this, they will have a good relationship with their teachers. I think that the ability to identify a person's maturity is the ability to find their own place. A few friends to play cards, you must win, must show their smart, and others to cooperate, others make a mistake on the stomach to complain, everyone is friends, play together is nothing more than a happy, if you can't find your own position, always want to show their excellence, always want to get the praise of others, few are willing to play with you.

Leaders dare not speak in meetings, for fear that colleagues will feel that they are pretending to be forced, and the meeting is a communication between superiors and subordinates, and they need to express their own views. The complexity of life is that sometimes your roles will conflict, and trying to play your main role well, and being at peace with your secondary roles, life can become much smoother.

People instinctively reject those who chatter and repeat their own opinions, and it is easy to label them as "dead ducks with hard mouths" and "annoyed by the horns of the bull", but it is also easy to forget the content that has only been heard once. We will have sensitive vigilance and rejection of things that are alien, antagonistic and unfamiliar, which is a natural attribute of self-defense, and if the object is worthy and needed, one of the ways to dispel the other person's vigilance and rejection is to actively release the signal of goodwill and kindredness. Compliments, compliments, approaches, and accosting two people on a topic that they have in common or that the other person is interested in are all a kind of goodwill signal.

Warm-up greetings before talking to people to the point can help with more positive communication. ‍‍

Arguing with others is a matter of mind and energy, and it has nothing to do with whether the truth is in you or not. Most of the people who often participate in meaningless fighting, mutual spraying, and good tongue battles have inexplicable anxiety, anger, and irritability, and are often full of anger in real life, the most direct manifestation of which is that they like to raise the bar, misinterpret the meaning of the other party, and use the poisonous tongue as humor, and it is difficult to communicate with them; Even if you are a natural person with normal emotions of joy and sorrow, even if it is a well-reasoned and friendly argument, it will greatly and invisibly "consume" you. Therefore, one of the ways to make life vibrant in a realistic sense is to drastically reduce the number and time of arguments with others, especially meaningless arguments.

I had a nice female friend when I was in college, and when I hung out with her, I always found that the world we lived in was not the same difficulty. At that time, I was still in the age of my young man, and I thought that the reason why she was easy and difficult was because we were more willing to help the law of beautiful girls.

Later, I got to the boys, and they were a little simpler, and I realized that I lacked one of their qualities: active communication. But at the time, I prided myself on being high and disdained these interpersonal skills, and later I reflected on myself and realized that it was not integrity, but narcissism.

I've always had some kind of unrealistic fantasy that I would sit in the library with a focused attitude and a stack of tome books in front of me, which would always attract girls with rich connotations.

Last night, my dad called me and told me that the weather in Hangzhou might be bad in late January, and asked me to pay attention to keeping warm, don't freeze, don't have a fever and a cold. I told him that I would go back in mid-January, and my father was very satisfied and stopped the process of bending the weather in Hangzhou for me. He actually just told me:

Come back early for the New Year, I miss you, but people of that era can't express this kind of longing, and they will use various tongue-twisting ways to express their inner feelings. Don't look at what the other person said, but think about why he said this, his introverted personality also led to a difference in the way he expressed his love for me, and since then I have begun to understand him better, perceive my father's hardships, and be more willing to express my love to them. ‍‍

Accept the status quo and his anxiety will be significantly reduced. Finding what he wanted, his depression began to subside, his life became positive, and counseling became easy when he could find out that the client had found what he was looking for. In fact, you don't have to envy those positive people, you can't imitate him, the answer to how to do it is in your heart, many people will ask, I just don't know what I want, what should I do?

The first word of the sentence to find what you want is to find, whenever you are tired of looking, tell yourself: I am giving myself a chance.

Don't expect anyone to understand you, lower your expectations of the world I used to be miserable because I thought the world was so beautiful and I was so unlucky. The reason why I am calm now is because I know that the world itself is very vicious, some people are kind to me, some people praise me, and I have earned it. Others will not understand me, and there is no obligation to understand me, including my parents, I have no reason to hate them, let others understand me is my own business, but anyone who is willing to understand me should be grateful.

The world is terrible, and I'm happy. ‍‍

We often say that good men and women know how to respect others, they don't get angry easily, they don't force others, they are gentle, these don't come from having a higher level of endurance with them, a higher level of emotional intelligence, just they don't care. Julius Caesar was extremely brave, the Elder Regiment besieged Caesar, he stood like a god of war, until he saw his wife in the assassination crowd, and he put down his ** in disappointment. Even the best people become vulnerable when they encounter something they care about.

The level of concentration, patience, and time distribution determines that most of the long speeches and chatter are more likely to cause psychological discomfort and hinder the dissemination of content, whether it is talking, writing, or reading. This is why jokes are easier to spread than long articles, because even if long articles are useful, they are "Mark first and then read", and generally do not read them later. ‍‍