Let s talk about how to get out of grief when a loved one dies

After my husband died, I couldn't slow down for a long time, I washed my face with tears every day, I couldn't eat, I couldn't sleep, I wanted to go with him, the child came back from school, and cried when he saw me like this, I looked at the child. Suddenly relieved. I can't sink like this anymore, I still have children, and his parents need me to take care of them, I cheer up, I started to work more than 20 days after he died, I work during the day, and I still cry and lose sleep in the dead of night at night, pretending to be nothing in front of my family, as if I have eased up, every day I will paint exquisite makeup during the day, and go to the gym at night after work, in short, keep myself busy, divert my attention, now he has passed away for a year and a half, my state has been much better, I want to live well, Pretend to love him, raise the child to grow up, and when his parents are old, I will also take care of his parents, and I believe that he will be happy in heaven!

When I was sixteen years old, my mother died, but within a few months my father died of illness, at noon on the day of my father's death, I was by his side, I was very sad at that time, I may have been too sad at that time, did not shed tears, although I was more than sixteen years old at this time, but I didn't know anything, and at home I was the eldest, and there was a younger sister, two younger brothers, my father's posthumous affairs, were handled by my uncle, uncle and other relatives. After a while, the relatives took care of my father's death, and I thought at the time, my father is gone, it is useless to be sad, I want to turn grief into strength, I want to change myself, what others can't do, I want to do it, I don't follow what others have done, I must invent something to come out, and change myself. And set a goal for yourself to strive for.

My attention has shifted to the goal, and the whole person is much better, and I will no longer be immersed in it.

My husband has been sick for more than 3 months, I am in a trance every day, I don't believe he is really gone, I see what he was doing before my heart hurts, the day is better, and the night is accompanied by tears, I hope that time will pass faster, and the pain will be less.

Give yourself a positive psychological hint that no one will live forever, and the departure of relatives is just a little earlier, even if it has been ten or twenty years in the past.

Thinking about it in a different way and thinking about it, the relatives went to a better place to enjoy it, that place was free of pain, and it was better than what the world would live now.

Life suffering, in addition to happiness, experiencing pain is also a part of life, I am about to leave my 12-year-old daughter, and experiencing reluctance is also a part of my life. I hope my daughter also understands that there must be suffering in life!

Thinking about your grief doesn't get anything in exchange, if you become better and more positive, that's what your loved ones want to see.

At this time, you should arrange yourself to be full, don't let yourself be idle, let yourself be busy and have no time to think about this.

Communicate with others more, participate in more party-type activities, and actively participate in activities to change your mind.

Time is a good medicine, which will make us reduce our sadness, but the pain in our hearts will still invade the whole body and mind because of the touch of something.

It's the best way to go out and travel, and it's not so easy to remember when you leave your familiar environment and meet new people in a new environment.

I can't stop my hands and feet, but at night I still think about it, and I wake up when I hear a sound, and I can't sleep.

Try to make yourself better, use this to motivate yourself, and let your deceased loved ones see that they are good, and they will be very happy.

You can use travel to change your mood, travel is the best medicine, and encountering a lot of new things in travel will change your attention.

Find more friends to hang out with, use travel to get rid of your negative emotions, and devote yourself to the process of playing, just a few more times.

Find all kinds of things to do at work, fill your work plan, keep yourself busy, and it's easy to get out.

Xiaohong, I will pretend to love you and live strongly, because we still have a son, and you can rest in heaven.

Time will dilute the sadness, but it will not erase it, and the voices and smiles of loved ones will remain in my heart forever.

How can you not want to miss the death of your loved ones, only to miss them more. The more I think about it, the more sad I become.

There is no time to grieve, only how to organize your life in the future.

My son is gone, leaving us both old, who can teach me to get out of the pain?

As the saying goes, people have joys and sorrows, and the moon is cloudy and sunny, and for our life, birth, old age, sickness and death are also a very normal natural law. Despite this, when we face the death of a loved one, we still feel that we can't let go of it, and we can't want it. All kinds of sad emotions, all kinds of memories of the past come to our hearts, but we feel powerless and have no choice, this is the reality!

Therefore, in the face of this kind of thing, we can only comfort ourselves by ourselves and let ourselves slowly let go!

1. Self-comfort. Although we will be very sad and difficult to let go of when facing the death of a loved one, this is the reality. We have to tell ourselves in our hearts that this is a very normal birth, old age, sickness and death, this is the law of nature, and perhaps for the relatives themselves, it is a kind of self-liberation.

We also need to think that he will be well in heaven. Through this psychological suggestion, allow yourself to accept reality!

2. The days will go on. Although the loved ones have passed away, the other relatives are still alive, and life will go on no matter what. Each of us has our own life and work.

In the face of the death of our loved ones, we can remember them psychologically, and we can pay tribute to them in our thoughts, but we also need to face them positively and optimistically, after all, we still need to continue to live. For the deceased relatives, he must also hope that we can put aside the pain and be optimistic to welcome every day of life.

3. Time is good medicine. For the death of a loved one, pain and sadness are naturally unavoidable. Sometimes, we also feel very scared, we feel that we are not in the mood to live, and we feel that we are not energized by everything, which can be said to be normal.

If you don't know how to face it and comfort yourself, I think time is the best medicine. Let time heal your wounds and comfort yourself.

4. Travel and relax. Of course, another way is to leave the sad place for a short time, and let yourself be able to open your heart, feel nature, and experience a different life through travel, which may be the best way for you to comfort yourself.

Life will not be because of the lack of who will not live, the earth will not be because of the lack of who will not turn, each of us has their own life, care and miss others, put it in our hearts, and live well is the best memory of him!

1.From a psychological point of view, the recovery time from the death of a loved one is different for each person, because everyone's feelings for their loved ones are different. So it's hard to give a specific timeSome people may be months, others may be years, and some people may not be able to recover from this event in their lifetime.

2.Psychology refers to continuous connection, which means that the relationship between us and our deceased loved one does not end with death, but remains continuous, internal. For example, although our grandparents are gone, we will always remember the taste of the specialty dishes made by our grandparents.

That is to say, the influence of our loved ones on us is profound.

3.It is normal for us to have a hard time accepting the death of a loved one, and it can be the first stage after the death of a loved one. At this time, people will be reluctant to admit that a loved one has passed away and may say:

He just went to another world". Although this is a beautiful statement, it actually reflects our inner reluctance to accept this fact.

4.In order to recover from the loss of a loved one, it is necessary to adjust to the fact that the loved one is not there. To understand:

Although our loved ones are no longer in this world, we are still alive, we can feel the joys, sorrows and sorrows of life, and we still have the opportunity to realize the value and meaning of life.

All in all, we don't need to forget about our loved ones to split up the world, and we don't have to force ourselves to come out, as time passes, we can return to our daily lives, but we always have a corner in our hearts for our deceased relatives.

1. Birth, old age, sickness and death are natural laws, and death is her ultimate rule, so don't be too sad.

2. The family will have a good time over there. I don't want to see people upset.

3. Birth, old age, sickness and death, the law of nature! Don't be too sad, he will feel your filial piety!

5. People will always walk one day, if he walks happily, then he has nothing to worry about.

6. Birth, old age, sickness and death, everything is a natural phenomenon; Since ancient times, no one has died, as long as he always lives in my heart.

7. Relatives go to the Yellow Crane, and people go to the sound and save the building is not empty. But to comfort mercy with a smile has never been the most hateful. Chain judgment.

8. Relatives lose pain and part, and suffer for people's wet short sleeves. I don't know when we will meet again, the moon is full of flowers in heaven and earth.

9. Loved ones will be watching you from heaven. With you. Loved ones will always be there for you. It's just that you can't see him.

10. I was shocked to hear that you suffered the pain of losing your father, and I empathize with you, and I hope that you will mourn and change, take care of your body, and the future will be long.

11. The happiness of the living is the best comfort for the deceased, for the hope of the elderly, you must work hard to make yourself happy!

12. We should now sincerely wish the deceased his sincere wishes, and wish him a good journey for the old man and rest in peace under the nine springs!

Birth, old age, sickness and death are natural laws (the death of my father is irretrievable!). ）

You didn't get to hear your father's last words (a pity indeed!). ）

You feel guilty about being ignorant as a child (which is normal!). This just means that you are now sensible and mature: this can reassure your father! ）

Advice: Mourning (Father doesn't want you to be in pain forever: that's the last thing he wants!) ）

Remember your father's voice and smile: make these your own memories (let your father live forever in your heart!). ）

Do your best to do what you have to do: this includes work, study, life, making friends, fitness, marriage and other life events. Strive to make your life happy and worthwhile!

Strive to be yourself: study well, be healthy, work well, live well, this should actually be what your father wants to say to you on his deathbed! (You're all right!)

This is what your father wants to see the most! You must not fail him! ）

As long as you can adjust your mentality as soon as possible, you can come out of the pain of your father's death in time! A sunny, handsome, youthful and lively you are back!

I wish you a happy day and happiness forever!

Buddhism has long given us the answer, the final result of people is the same, when you really understand life, you will have a sense of urgency, don't let a person into your heart easily, let your heart learn to become softer. Acceptance, tolerance, and understanding are the necessary courses in life.

No one can accompany you for a lifetime, some people come halfway and leave again; Some people have been with them for a while and are gone, this is life, it is always divided and combined, the deceased has passed away, but the living have to continue to live, maybe it will be better after a long time, and the days will always go on.

I can't help you, because I can't say anything because I'm unfamiliar, just look away, if it happens to me, I'll probably cry, cry too much, and feel better.

Don't think too much about them, come out of the shadows and live your style, after all, your deceased family also hopes that you will live well and have a good future. Just take it as their last wish, and you have to live well!!

Why come out? Life is constantly changing, and some people are born and some people die. If I love, even if I leave, I can feel the love he left behind, I feel that he is still by my side, and I am so happy to see everything he has prepared for me.

You have not forgotten, and he has not left. You can feel His love, and you won't be in pain.

I have personally experienced this problem, during the junior year of high school, I experienced the departure of my grandfather, I collapsed on the spot, I couldn't accept it, I couldn't accept this fact from my heart for a long time, and now it's been 5 years, as I grow up, maybe I understand that no one can accompany me for a lifetime, and I slowly accepted this change silently, but it doesn't mean that I don't love my grandfather anymore, and I feel that my grandfather has accompanied me in a different way.

First of all, you have to figure it out, everyone has such a day, birth, old age, sickness and death are the natural law, but this day is often caught off guard when it happens, we can't change the status quo, we can only cherish the people around you who still love you, and live every day, isn't it? Besides, the departed person doesn't want you to be in pain all the time, he (she) hopes that you can live every day optimistically and happily, so that he can leave with peace of mind; After figuring this out, dedicate yourself to work and life, divert your attention, spend more time with friends, and get yourself out as soon as possible.