How can I become a decisive person, I feel very unhappy to hesitate

Wei Shao 1 is very comprehensive.

Not hesitating often means daring to take responsibility. The most fundamental reason for hesitation is the fear of the consequences of the decisions you make. If you dare to take the consequences, whatever the consequences, then you will not hesitate.

To take an extreme example, some people dare to become bandits, because they dare to bear even the most serious consequences, such as the loss of life.

In any case, there are some responsibilities or risks in life, and sometimes you have to make yourself grow through failure.

This requires experience, and when encountering problems, you have to think about its pros and cons to make a decision.

Here are some ways that may help a person become decisive:

1.Set goals and plans: Having clear goals and plans can help people make decisions and take action more easily.

3.Know your values and priorities: Understanding your values and priorities can help people better understand their needs and goals and make decisions easier.

4.Eliminate fear and uncertainty: Reducing fear and uncertainty can help people make decisions and take action more easily.

5.Practice self-decision-making: Practising making your own decisions on pinky things can increase self-confidence and help people make big decisions more easily.

6.Ask for help and advice: Seeking the opinions and recommendations of others can help people better understand their options so they can make better decisions.

Let one be decisive. Then you have to talk about it.

First of all, he has to change some of his ways of doing things, and don't hesitate.

Let him be able to do things completely to the end, and the things he thinks of must be completed.

Judge by your own values.

A lot of the time, people are torn between two choices, and there is no fixed framework or judgment to make up their minds. We would put all the options in our heads and ask ourselves, "Which of these options is the best answer?" "The decision you make is the most important thing for you in this chain of choice--- your core values --- will be the best choice for you.

In fact, the best choice is the best one for you.

02 Trust your instincts.

In fact, each of us will have a certain degree of judgment, generally in the face of important things, we will hesitate, doubt their judgment, in fact, at this time, we should trust our intuition, do not keep thinking, consequences or something, in this way, can never make a decision.

03Don't get too tangled.

Lately, several of our colleagues have been worrying about what to eat every day, especially at noon, when no matter which one we choose to eat, it doesn't make a big difference, and any feelings that come with that decision are long gone before I finish my last spoonful. Sometimes, it doesn't matter which one you choose.

It's easy for each of us to get caught up in the faltering mind of our second thoughts, repeating their thoughts in a constant cycle and complicating things, especially when --- you have to do it--- it's okay to do it. Thinking in a loop will only make you dizzy, so it's better to stop immediately.

04Grasp as much information as possible.

Gather enough data before you need to make a complex decision. This allows you to weigh all the pros and cons of the equation, so that you can clearly understand the weight behind your choice, and the amount of knowledge you have will make very different perceptions of the same thing.

05Respect your skepticism.

Sometimes, we don't know what to do, and when faced with change, we will instinctively run away, and we will find many reasons to excuse ourselves, deceive ourselves, and continue to stay where we are. Actually, that's another character of ourselves, the "coward", who would make us rather not make a decision than take a risk to make a bad, bad choice. This coward is not the same as doubt, which is a legitimate concern about what may happen or what is lurking in the action.

Hello, such a man is not worth cherishing, at this time, you have to cherish yourself more, learn to manage yourself, work harder, and enhance your charm, so that others will cherish you, I hope it will help you, I wish you a happy life.

This is probably due to your rigor, and you think too much about the problem, but in fact, it should be looked at on a case-by-case basis. For example, if you are emotional, you must be quick and ruthless, and believe in your feeling in this second; Well, it's never too much to think about work.

The most important thing is that you don't have enough knowledge, read more books, make friends with people from all walks of life, and see more, the more decisive your decision will be.

When choosing, list all the advantages and disadvantages of doing a thing, and compare them.

Don't listen to them. It's called prudence. However, it is estimated that many times it is inexperienced.

I can't make a decision at all. Whatever the problem. Ask a friend.

Ask more people who have experience. In time.. I have experience myself.

These problems will not exist.

Think things through before making a decision, even if you are wrong, don't regret it, and gradually you will change this personality.

Change slowly, dare to dare to do, and be young and not afraid of anything.

What's wrong with this character、You ask yourself。

The country is easy to change, and the nature is difficult to change! Born to die!

You can choose this coin toss method to solve the problem.

Dear <> I'm glad to answer for you, weigh the pros and cons when you are hesitant to make a decision, if you do it, the pros outweigh the disadvantages, you have to decide to do it, don't have any worries, because procrastination will be more <> than not making a decision

When we decide whether or not to do something, the hesitation reminds us: do it. But I have to start thinking a lot of things, always worrying about this, always worrying about that, and as a result, I miss a lot of opportunities.

Life needs to let yourself choose to your heart's content, and only when you choose to your heart's content, you can do a good job of being your true self. When people do what they look forward to every day, then this is the thing that can make them happy.

Many people have similar questions.

Know yourself and grasp the rhythm of work.

Let's talk about one or two:

For example, if a novice makes a dish, the main ingredients, ingredients, and process are not familiar, so they are tied, however, the first time they have cooked it and tasted it, and the first time they cook it, they will add or subtract it from the first experience, so they are not so hesitant and difficult to do.

Another one: it is good to have enough, and it can reduce the gains and losses a lot. Things should be done according to their ability, and they should be done in line with the common interests of the people and things concerned, benefiting others and themselves, rather than being overwhelmed or harming others and benefiting themselves; Usually buy things, buy mobile phones ......, too advanced and too expensive, too cheap is not necessarily easy to use, so they all have their own trade-offs.

Let's tell another story: (The advice given is different for people who have impulsive, hesitant, and weak personalities).

Confucius taught three people with different personalities according to their aptitude, and gave three different answers.

"Ji Wenzi thinks twice before acting. When Zi heard this, he said: "Again, Si Ke. ”

Translator's explanation: Ji Wenzi has to think about every thing he does many times. Confucius heard this and said, "Just think twice." ”。Ji Wenzi: That is, Ji Sun Xing's father, Lu Chenggong and Lu Xianggong were Zhengqing at the time, and "Wen" was his nickname. )

Analects of the Eleventh: Zilu asked: "Wen Si Xingzhu?" The son said: "There is a father and brother, how can you hear about it?" ”

Ran You asked: "Wen Si Xingzhu?" Zi said: "Wen Si Xing." ”

It means that once, the spontaneous Zilu asked Confucius, "When you hear something that is righteous, do you immediately do it?" Confucius said, "My father and brother are still alive, so how can we think about them and weigh them up and do them?" ”

Ran You asked, "When you hear something righteous, do you do it immediately?" Confucius said, "When you hear it, you should do it immediately." ”

Confucius's answer to Ji Wenzi was "think again and then act", to Ran You was "to hear Si (think) and then act", and to Zilu was "think twice before acting". And these three different answers, for them, are indeed the three best suggestions and the three most accurate prescriptions.

Zheng Xuan's "Notes on the Analects of Zheng": "Wen Zi is loyal and virtuous, and his actions are few and wrong, so he doesn't have to think twice." "As Ji Wenzi, who is the secretary of Lu Guozheng, he is diligent and thrifty, and cautious.

For him, it is good to make decisions and be far-sighted, but there is no need to be overly considerate, what he needs is courage and courage at both ends of the first mouse, and action and action. Ran You, who is modest and cautious, speaks very measuredly. And the big, brave, and competitive sub-road is better not to be too impulsive).

What should I do if I hesitate a lot?

How to be decisive?

These require a little more experience.

Only slowly can you change yourself.

If you feel that you are hesitant and indecisive, then you are at least aware that you can change this method, be confident, enrich yourself, and learn all aspects of knowledge, so that you will not be so hesitant when you encounter things.

Think about it three times and do it immediately, don't have too much time to think, so that you will be more efficient and will not miss other things.

Decisiveness is based on accurate judgment. Otherwise it is reckless.

It's just that don't drag your feet when you say anything, and get it done as soon as possible.

Slash it down, don't think too much.

3 In our daily lives, we will always be indecisive for some things, look ahead, and feel that we are not decisive enough, and we even hated ourselves for a while, so how should we change our character.

According to expert analysis and research, when we consciously exercise our brains, our brains will slowly become familiar with some things, so as to become accustomed to nature.

Since childhood, our traditional education methods have tended to be conservative, not as open and innovative as the West, and the people around us are mostly some old-fashioned, feudal people, they don't seem to like the spirit of adventure, they teach us to be cautious in words and deeds, and think twice when encountering things, so under their ears and eyes, we have developed the habit of thinking first if we want to act.

Thinking twice is a good habit in itself, it allows us to make more thoughtful decisions, so as to avoid a lot of unnecessary trouble, and it can also allow us to stop from doing things that we will regret for the rest of our lives. But the problem is often that we miss the best time to act because we are overthinking.

It's the same thing about thinking about things. If you think too much, it will hinder action, and in the end, you will develop an ugly problem that can only talk on paper and have no practical action, which will attract criticism from others.

In fact, what we are worried about is nothing more than that the result is not good enough, aside from other things, but as far as one thing is concerned, how can there be a perfect result, it is just the pros and cons, so, as long as the result is not too bad, then we will do it. Isn't there a joke that says, dreams always have to come true.

I once read a story about a father who asked his 5-year-old son to help him move a stone weighing more than 100 pounds, and when the son tried again and again, and failed again and again, he told his father in frustration that he had done his best, but his father told him that if he did his best, he should know that he could still ask his father for help, and finally the father and son worked together to move the stone. This story reminds us that it is also a kind of wisdom to ask for help from others at the right time, and to learn to use the power of others to help us achieve our own wishes in life. When we encounter more difficult things and can't make up our minds, we might as well visit the elders who are more experienced and calm, and I believe he will also be happy to give you more pertinent advice.

So young people have to know a few elders anyway, not too many, one or two are enough.

If you don't feel brave enough and decisive, try not to think about it the next time you make a decision, and just let go of all your worries and do it boldly. People must always learn to grow up, they can't always live timidly, and they will be more in awe of life and understand life better if they fail.

Be brave, my friend, it's no big deal, if you fail, you'll start over!

In the call of the bleak autumn wind, the autumn leaves quietly broke away from the branches that depended on them for life and death, and slowly played a few unique whirls in mid-air, and lay down on the ground lightly. Some people say that swirling is to indicate that the leaves are hesitating, and what I want to tell you is that it is not hesitation, it is persistence, and this dedication is to the mission of "turning into spring mud and protecting flowers".

Falling leaves know better than anyone else where they should go and what they should do. With the power of the autumn wind, it whirls because it wants to use all the power of life to present the most beautiful dance for the roots of the tree that gave birth to it and nourishes it, and also for its next homeland, the land, to show its value. Interpreting the love of life with graceful dancing, so decisive, so free and easy, stems from its inner direction and goal - the value of life lies in giving back everything to nature.

The insignificant fallen leaves in nature can achieve that determination and determination for their own goals, so what should we do as human beings who control the entire natural world? How to make yourself decisive and unhesitating in life, work? The simple answer is that you have to do everything with a goal in mind.

Of course, there are many other quantitative factors besides goals.

First, have a calm heart. In the face of everything, right and wrong, external factors are basically uncontrollable, and the only controllable factor is one's own heart, that is, the mentality of facing all unknowns. As the saying goes, we can't control the length of life, but we can expand the breadth of life. We can't control the weather, but we can change our mood.

If we can handle everything around us with a calm heart, I believe that your choice will be beyond your imagination. You will be amazed at your decisiveness, and that decisiveness will give you the best results.

Second, don't rely on others, rely on yourself for everything. In this world, everything is on its own. People don't often say that others can help you for a while, but they can't help you for a lifetime.

No matter when or what happens, we must learn to use our own brains, there are many forks in the road ahead, and we must learn to choose by ourselves. In the end, there is a discrepancy between other people's suggestions and their own thoughts. Stepping out of your own life trajectory and decisively making what you think is right is the best way.

You have to remember that many times missed opportunities are probably caused by your own hesitation. In order not to leave regrets, for the dream in your heart, you must rely on your own strength to go, and do not hesitate to stick to your original intention.

I believe that with that original heart and that unswerving goal, you will be able to do what you want decisively without hesitation.