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Satisfaction cultivated from childhood exercise.
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A person's self-confidence fundamentally depends on "the joy of self-acceptance and growth". If a person focuses on what they love and is consistently engaged, the person will become very confident.
Because from this moment on, he will not blindly compare, nor will he compare with others, but focus on the present moment, and the person will not be troubled by the surrounding environment and interpersonal relationships.
Through life observation, we will also find that the reasons for the lack of self-confidence will come from these two aspects.
One is that I like to compare with others, and after discovering that I can't compare with others, I will have a sense of loss, depression, and pain. Your grades are better than mine, and I envy them; You earn more than I do, and I'm jealous; You have a partner, I'm single, why can you be so happy, and I'm still so idle?
The more you compare, the stronger your inferiority complex becomes. In their hearts, I am inferior to others, others are better than me, I am useless, there is nothing to do.
Caught in a terrible cognitive mood, there is no way to reverse it.
There is also the frustration of striving for perfection. When something is not done well and cannot be completed, people will fall into a state of self-blame and guilt, and they will blame themselves.
It's so simple, why can't I get it done? Everyone else is done, I'm still like this, am I too stupid?
Others scored 100 points in exams, and I studied all day, studying for more than 10 hours, and only slept for four or five hours at night. Even so, I still can't compare to others in the exam, am I just a waste of firewood? I want to get things done, but the results often backfire.
After many times, I also had doubts about myself, whether I was such a material, it turned out that I overestimated myself.
These two kinds of psychology, whether it is the former comparison, or the latter in the pursuit of perfection, will have partial generalization of ideas, easy to fall into the world of thinking rumination, even if the material abundance, has reached the point that ordinary people can not reach, there will be such mental activities.
The reason for this is that it is difficult for them to recognize the world, they like to associate the activities of others with their own, they evaluate themselves as from the perspective and comparison of others, and they lose themselves once they lose their references.
Confident people will not be like this, they will never care about other people's evaluations when they do things, even if what they do is a little unworthy in the eyes of others, but they will never succumb to other people's attitudes. If I agree with it, I will do it, even if I suffer from the incomprehension of others.
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Self-confidence is a relatively stable personality trait.
In social activities, each of us is building our own value system to form a sense of understanding and trust in ourselves. However, not all behavior is determined solely by people's own character. Even a confident person can become unconfident in the face of a particular situation or major trauma.
Most human behavior is determined by both intrinsic traits (including genetic factors) and external environment.
Bandura, a psychologist, developed the concept of self-efficacy in social learning theory. Self-efficacy refers to an individual's assessment of their ability to successfully cope with a particular situation. In other words, it's about how much you believe you can do something well.
The theory of self-efficacy is not concerned with what skills someone has, but with what an individual can do with the skills they have.
According to Bandura, there are four main factors that determine self-efficacy in a given situation:
1.Behavioral achievement: Efficacy expectations depend primarily on what has happened in the past; Previous successes lead to high performance expectations, while previous failures lead to low performance expectations.
2.Vicarious experience: Observing the successes and failures of others can have a similar effect on self-efficacy as one's own, but to a lesser extent.
3.Verbal persuasion: Self-efficacy can increase when someone you respect feels strongly that you are capable of successfully coping with a situation.
4.Emotional arousal: High levels of arousal can cause people to experience anxiety and tension and reduce self-efficacy.
Some people still have low self-esteem despite their superior conditions (material or non-material)", which shows that self-confidence is not completely determined by one's own conditions, but is also closely related to how individuals perceive their own worth. The analysis of the factors behind the theory of self-efficacy may tell us that the formation of self-confidence is influenced by many aspects: past experiences, the environment (including important interpersonal relationships, whether it can provide more tolerance, support, and understanding), and one's own personality traits.
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If you can do this well, you will become very confident and feel very good. Including other people, they will also recognize you and think that you are a very capable person. But if you know that there is no way to do it, but you have to force yourself to do it, then your confidence will become smaller and smaller, in fact, it is the consequence of being too difficult for yourself.
Therefore, self-confidence comes from personal ability, as long as a person has the ability, then there is confidence. If he doesn't know anything and is afraid to do things, then how can he possibly make himself a confident person? Even if there is a kind of self-confidence, it is blind self-confidence, which cannot be a guarantee of getting things done on your own.
Self-confidence comes from a good family background. Family environment, conditions are the most important foundation for a person's self-confidence, and self-confidence is a quality that will slowly develop in people's hearts from an early age. Because of a person's family background, the impact on a person is very large.
Imagine those children who have lost their parents' education and care since childhood, their inner world can not be compared with those children whose parents have a sound family integration, and they have met children living in superior family conditions for the first time since they were young, they have been well accompanied and educated, well-informed, calm, able to deal with all kinds of unexpected problems, they have a strong ability to control the unknown field, and will get resources at hand and know new things. How can a child living in a remote rural area of Yunnan and Guizhou have the same self-confidence as a child living in the cities of Beijing and Shanghai? Children in big cities can speak English and play the piano at the age of seven or eight, while children of the same age in the countryside don't know what ABC and piano look like.
Even if you study hard and get into the same university, the little self-confidence you have in school will be wiped out through daily interactions. Children in rural areas can only sit in the classroom and study more honestly in order to get a job that can support them in the future. Reading is their only way out.
Self-confidence comes from personal traits and is related to the understanding and pursuit of the value of life. A person's self-confidence is affected by a variety of factors. Education, living environment, personality traits, and more.
Although some Duan Ming people have superior material or non-material conditions, they still have low self-esteem, dare not speak loudly in front of others, have poor interpersonal skills, and are not happy in work and life. The main reason is a lack of self-confidence and timidity. It can be seen that self-confidence is not completely determined by one's own conditions, but also closely related to how individuals perceive their own value.
The formation of self-confidence is influenced by many aspects: past experiences, the environment, including important interpersonal relationships, whether friends can provide more tolerance, support, and understanding, and their own personality traits.
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If you don't have self-confidence, you probably won't succeed, and even if you do, it's a fluke, maybe you will fail next time; You have self-confidence, but you don't necessarily have to succeed, because there are many factors that lead to success, and self-confidence is only one of the bigger ones.
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Successful dripping people must be confident dripping.
But self-confidence is not necessarily a success drop.
Because self-confidence drops people can also be overly narcissistic.
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Hehe, you have your own opinions, why are you still raising this question?
I think it's like working hard, saying that if you don't work hard, you won't succeed, but if you work hard, you won't necessarily succeed.
Confident people are motivated, and I think self-confidence is very important.
However, people with low self-esteem do not necessarily fail to succeed.
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