How to overcome vanity, timidity, low self esteem, calm one s heart, and live in harmony with others

Make yourself more confident! You don't have to be timid! As for vanity, everyone has it! I'm no exception! As long as this does not violate the principle of being a man, it is generally harmless!

Put yourself in second place and put yourself behind in the face of anything and anyone, because only then will you be able to see the whole thing or the whole person for what it really is! The same should be true when talking to people, and don't impose your own opinions on others! Because you're no one else, you can't help someone decide anything!

Another important point is that when you have an argument with someone, you must not be subjective, remember!!

When you can't change others, remember to change yourself!

It's not a bad thing to be a chameleon once in a while!

Go buy a book on human accidents and take a look, you are mainly because you have just entered the society and don't understand human accidents, and if you know more, you won't be like this now.

I used to be like that, but unlike you, I think about things when I'm with people who are prettier or more famous... Don't think too much about it, it'll be fine, face him with your true face, and it will be fine after a long time.

When you are fine, imagine in your brain that you are confident, generous and brave, and after a long time, you will feel that you can face it.

Why be vain and timid? The gentleman is frank.

But all individuals have a little vanity to a greater or lesser extent, and they are eager to gain the attention and admiration of others. This is also sometimes a good promoter of progress. But we all hate people who have vanity, who are pretentious, arrogant, who like to boast and only care about themselves, and if you are really disgusted by such types of people, I suggest that you stay away, so as not to look bad.

It's just that in life, for various reasons, we can't stay away from this kind of person, so we can only find ways to change him or change ourselves. One is to be a "dead fish", choosing to turn a blind eye to the various manifestations of people with strong vanity, ignoring them, and letting all his strength hit on cotton; The second is to be a "two-faced person", boasting on the surface, satisfying their vanity, satisfying them, and burying the truest thoughts in the bottom of their hearts. The third is to be a machine gunner, as long as there is an opportunity, he will spare no effort to attack and criticize their vanity, and suppress them with great reason, so that they will doubt themselves.

It's best not to get along, if you have to get along, she has a strong sense of vanity and jealousy, so you don't want to say anything, just say something good.

How to get along with a person with a strong sense of vanity is to hold him in everything, and to praise him in all kinds of ways.

When you get along with people with strong vanity, you should keep a low profile, so that you can get along harmoniously and happily!

Not far or close, not flattery, not revealing people's shortcomings, and objectively evaluating each other's advantages.

People who encounter vanity forces should pay more attention to themselves when they get along with them, as the saying goes, you can't have the heart of harming others, and you can't have the heart of preventing people. Respect and stay away, you can't conspire with big things, and think more about everything.

Then you have to follow vanity, otherwise, you will be honest, others may not be able to follow you for a long time, or you have the ability to slowly change her vanity.

Naturally, it is flattery, and it is the only way to do it.

Friend, that's how I came here, I think it's quite difficult. First, now everyone still doesn't have to worry about food and clothing, so they have the leisure time to think about these useless things, because once a person is busy, he can leave everything behind. Secondly, it is necessary to have an optimistic heart, and must not be negative or give up on yourself.

These two things in principle cannot be changed. Be busy with what you are busy with (students study hard, office workers work hard), and secondly, you can't give up hope in life. How?

First, bravely face your own shortcomings, you have low self-esteem, it must be because you feel that you are not good in some aspect, you can't avoid this shortcoming, and you can't give up on yourself because of this, you have to try to learn to accept it calmly. For example, I used to be very thin, and I was often ridiculed by girls, and I felt very hurt at first, but then I figured it out, and I was so thin, and even later some girls said: Why are you so thin.

I'll tell her: don't ask me why, because you're going to get hurt. She asked me:

How did I get hurt? I will tell her righteously: the reason why I am not fat is because I don't grow meat when I eat anything, I eat meat, drink Coke, and eat supper happily every day, no matter how much I eat at each meal, I just don't eat fat.

Sure enough, those girls who drank cold water and grew meat never said that I was thin again. So you have to face your shortcomings with a calm mind. When someone makes a joke about your shortcomings, you follow their joke and make another joke.

If someone is busy humiliating you with his shortcomings, you should also tell him righteously: That's how I am, and you can't blame me for some things. That's why you're strong in your heart, and others will respect you.

The second is to know that you must work hard, you can't be lazy, you have to keep yourself busy, whether it's studying hard or whatever, as long as you have your own skills, someone will like you.

Be confident, everyone has strengths. Try to communicate with the people around you, participate in group activities, don't always stay at home when you have nothing to do, go out for a walk, and try to face everything with a positive and optimistic attitude. If there is something in your heart, don't always hold it back, you can talk to someone you trust, don't always be alone, try to get along with everyone.

Communicate with people more, and the more you are afraid of something, the more contact you will have.

Usually read more books, study, and enrich yourself.

Actually, you didn't find out.

There really aren't many people in the world who pay attention to you.

It's always you who cares about yourself.

Hey, it's like talking about me, but it's a little bit better than you, and I like to chat.

Make more friends and have good friends! Try to change yourself, slowly develop various hobbies, and self-confidence will come.

Imagine yourself as whoever you are.