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In fact, I am not afraid of being concerned about this necessity, I want to open a little to manage others, they want to see it and there is no shortage of catties or two, being concerned shows that you have this charm, and some people want to be noticed is difficult? Look at the point, oh, it's actually nothing!
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It's a pity that you have low self-esteem in this situation! It stands to reason that it is very proud to be paid attention to, and it is impossible to feel that you don't want to be noticed. Speak up and I'll be better able to help you!
If it's privacy, just say it's about privacy, and then I'll write out my QQ, you add me, and help you solve it.
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This is a sign of low self-esteem, it is a good thing to be noticed, if you want to overcome this fear and inferiority, it is recommended that you talk to the mirror every day, saying that you are the best. I hope you can feel confident. Hey.
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Maybe you're good-looking, so a lot of people are always paying attention to everything about you, but why are you afraid to be the center of attention, because you're not confident, or because you're insecure?
Don't think that others look at you to laugh at you, they are not so boring, they are always well-fed, they have nothing to do, they always like to look at you and laugh at you
Being noticed by others all the time means that you have that kind of attraction Don't put pressure on yourself Oh It's easy to get sick so good luck!
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You should communicate more with others, increase your self-confidence, and slowly it will be fine.
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Low self-esteem There are many people who are doing everything possible to make others pay attention to themselves, and someone who pays attention to them should feel their own personality charm.
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Is it low-key? Be confident! Want not to be watched? That's an escape from reality. Learn from Confucius's seventy mentality of doing what you want without going beyond the distance.
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You have to be happy when someone else is paying attention to you, because you have a place in the hearts of others and you have a certain weight.
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What kind of attention do you mean, if everyone else likes you, you should be happy, be grateful.
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How can others look at you for no reason, be low-key and normal.
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This should be regarded as a normal psychological phenomenon, and people may be more likely to be shy.
Usually when I hang out with friends, I'm most afraid of threesomes. Because I feel that three people are together, there will always be one person who will be left out in the cold, and I will feel a little uncomfortable.
And I don't usually talk too much, and I'm a relatively slow person. For those who are not very familiar with it, there are not a few words. Basically, what others ask, I answer. It won't liven up the atmosphere, and I can't let the focus of the audience be me.
Once there are three people, I don't know what to say when I speak. Especially not good at gossiping.,Let's discuss this kind together.。 As soon as others spoke, they immediately stopped and waited for her to finish speaking.
But often for a long time, I can't say a word, and this feeling is too painful.
It feels like it's a date of three people, so why did I become transparent. I want to say a few words, but I really feel that there is no place to interject, and my heart is very uncomfortable.
But sometimes when I go out by myself, it's like I'm quiet and quiet, and I don't want others to pay too much attention to me. Especially people I don't know, people I don't know, my eyes suddenly focus on me, and I'm a little at a loss.
I feel very embarrassed, and I don't know how to put my hands and feet on the **. I can't even walk, I don't know which foot to take or which arm to swing. It's too embarrassing to walk with the same hands and feet.
If I were suddenly asked to say a few words, it would be even more doomed. Easy to nervous physique, easy to be nervous, mind blank, unable to say a word.
So, I feel like we're probably a bit introverted and don't express ourselves.
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This is because you still have some low self-esteem in your heart, you are eager to get attention, but you are afraid of being paid too much attention, and there are still certain doubts and hesitations about socializing.
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In fact, it is a situation of low self-esteem, although I really want to make myself better, but there is fear.
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Fear of being the focus of other people's attention, in fact, this is a phobia, and many people have similar phenomena in real life now, so we should. If you are anywhere, in any situation, you are afraid of being the center of attention of others, you feel that you are afraid of making mistakes, you feel that you are being overly concerned, and you will not defend your rights with others through arguments and discussions, then this is called "social phobia", if you are often "stay" at home, unwilling to go out to socialize, it will only exacerbate the fear in your heart, you have to learn four ways to relieve stress: when you are shy, nervous, and short of breath, Force yourself to breathe long, deep and rhythmic.
When you're around someone, try holding something in your hand so you feel secure. Learn to take the initiative in communicating with others and focus on looking them in the eye when talking. In later life, you should broaden your horizons, go out for a walk with good friends appropriately, put forward your subjective opinions in social situations, and slowly build up self-confidence.
Unwilling to show himself, to put it bluntly, is timid. You may think that you are not a timid person in other ways, but you are very scared in your own way. If you really want to solve the problem yourself, try to communicate with others more, and try to show their excellent side to them, so that more eyes will pay attention to you.
It's good to take it slowly.
When I was studying, I was impressed by one thing, usually when the teacher asked questions, I always didn't dare to raise my hand, for fear of being noticed by the teacher, for fear of being exposed to my classmates. Even if you feel like you definitely will.
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Fear of being noticed, always like to hide, may be due to psychological defense mechanisms at work.
When faced with a tense situation or a frustrating situation, each individual has an adaptive tendency to unconsciously relieve his troubles and alleviate his inner anxiety in order to restore psychological balance and stability.
Projection is one of the psychological defense mechanisms, which refers to projecting one's own personality, attitudes, motivations, and desires onto others. For example, it is clear that you have made a mistake, but you always blame others for your mistakes, and you are afraid and worried because you suspect that the other person already has such a thought, and you impose your own thoughts on others.
Afraid of being noticed, that's because there is a heart that wants to be seen, but because of the experience of failure, and dare not expose yourself again, once there is a situation that will be noticed, the experience scene of previous years is online, self-projection, thinking that others will still treat themselves as before, so take hidden countermeasures in advance.
In 1928, Dr. Marston proposed four intrinsic qualities of human behavior, which evolved over time to be widely used in the field of management. Four personality traits: D = Dominance, S = Influence, I = Stability, C = Conscientiousness.
D-Dominance, this type of person is highly dominant, outgoing, doer, optimistic, achieves results as soon as possible, takes immediate action, has the courage to accept challenges, makes decisions quickly, questions the status quo, effectively handles troubles, and overcomes difficulties.
i- Influential, outgoing, talkative, optimistic, likes to connect with others, makes a good impression, is good at verbal expression, creates a warm and motivating environment, has a positive attitude towards others, likes group activities.
S - Steady, peaceful, introverted, bystander, pessimistic, stable, no big ups and downs, patient, good at listening, focusing on professional and technical improvement, helpful, loyal and reliable.
c- Conscientiousness, perfection, introversion, pessimism, attention to policies and standards, attention to the accuracy of details, rigorous thinking, weighing the pros and cons, and taking a roundabout way to resolve conflicts.
People who are afraid of being noticed and always like to hide, the personality type belongs to stability or conscientiousness. Excessive perfectionism is the latter.
S type people disadvantages: not easily excited, refuse to change, like to stay the same, do not have a strong sense of purpose, seem lazy, unwilling to take responsibility, avoid pressure, silent. Unassertive, needs the support and knowledge of Type D people, can't handle pressure, and is not good at making decisions.
Strengths: More humble, in most cases, not direct at first, requires time and space, and requires long-term concentration to perform the work steadily. Do things safely.
Fear of being noticed may be a manifestation of the projection of Type S people, how to guide it?
1.It is permissible not to overly suppress one's feelings and to be brave enough to express one's inner feelings.
2.Take more action and break through your fears with positive actions.
3.Don't act immediately reflexively--- take refuge in your comfort zone.
4.Give yourself permission to make mistakes, allow yourself to take risks.
5.Step by step, break through a small goal.
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It's a psychology of self-preservation.
Likes to keep a low profile. I don't like to be noticed.
Don't want to have all of yourself.
Exposed to the public.
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Why are you afraid of being noticed? Movie stars are followed by so many people every day, what's so scary about this, it's not necessarily a good thing to be noticed, it means that you are very good, you are a kind of fear psychology, let go of your heart, and you will not be afraid.
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It is a kind of inferiority complex, feeling that you are not good enough, and you are afraid that others will see your shortcomings or shortcomings.
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Because you're a person who doesn't speak famously. So I just want to do it silently and don't want to be noticed by others. When others pay attention to you, you will feel uncomfortable.
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If you are afraid of being noticed, it means that you have low self-esteem inside.
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You may just like to be alone, and it has something to do with your personality.
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Consider whether you have an inferiority complex!
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Honestly, I'm such a person. I'm just the one who wants to be noticed, but I'm especially afraid of being noticed; My heart is so strong, but also lonely. I'm so strong, I hope I can be the focus of the whole world, I want me to be noticed in front of others, I want them to say how I am most of the time?
How am I? But I am also a person who is particularly afraid of being noticed, I am afraid that my words and deeds will be noticed by others, I am afraid that any of my lifestyle habits will be noticed by others, I am afraid of being seen by others, and I am also afraid of seeing others.
It's not because I'm selfish. It's the loneliness I store in my heart, I'm lonely! I'm lonely!
I'm cold! I am not a poet, but like the poets of old, I am puzzled by my friends, and although I am not exiled like in ancient times, my mind is imprisoned in the abyss.
I can't be as free as the poets of old, because I have to live, I have tomorrow and I have to move on, I don't have their talents, but I have created the same situation as them. Every time, I hope that the articles I write, the speeches I make, the test papers I answer, and the handiwork I do will be noticed by others, but no one pays attention, and even if someone pays attention to me, I have to avoid him, because I am afraid of being noticed. This mentality has been with me for a long time, I don't know how to solve it, I don't know how to overcome it, and I am always accompanied by an infinite cycle between attention and non-attention.
But how can we fall. We still have to do what we like, we have to do what we love regardless of whether others pay attention to it or not. First of all, when others pay attention to you, they care for you.
They are supporting you. Who cares about someone they want to laugh at?
Secondly, the attention of others to you is a reflection of your ability. Who cares about a useless person?
Finally, others pay attention to you, you have to believe in yourself, believe that you can do it, as long as you do it seriously, you will definitely be able to do it well, if you have other negative emotions, it will affect your state. leads to the backfire. Relax your mind and do things seriously, others will not only not laugh at you, but also envy you.
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This shows that it is a problem with my personality, I personally want to be noticed by others, but I am very introverted, not good at expressing my thoughts, and I am very poor at communicating with others, so I am a little afraid.
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It shows that his heart is very unconfident, so he has such a mentality, and wants to be noticed by others, but is afraid of this ambivalence.
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Such a person is actually two personalities, that is, if you pay too much attention to yourself, you will feel scared and insecure, but no one will pay attention to you and feel that you have no sense of accomplishment, which is such a mentality.
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The main reason is that I have low self-esteem, lack of confidence, and am afraid that I can't bear it, but don't mind, and show myself boldly.
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It shows that I am still not confident enough, so I have such a mentality, and I want to be noticed by others, but I am afraid of being noticed.
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This feeling is love, only love will have this feeling of gain and loss, if you meet such a person, you should cherish it.
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In fact, your heart is a lack of self-confidence, insecurity, and want to get attention from others, but at the same time you are afraid of the anxiety that attention will bring to you.
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Because I am still not confident enough and not good enough, I am always afraid that no one will pay attention, and I am afraid that I will not be so good after someone pays attention, and others will make irresponsible comments.
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