What should I do if I am timid and afraid

Are you autistic? The main thing is the lack of communication between people, the product is to pay attention to communicate their ideas with friends who can talk, don't hold it in your heart, and then gradually communicate with people who are not very familiar, let yourself slowly adapt, and then say what others don't want to hear and boldly correct and admit that you are wrong, and slowly your character will change.

Then there is the feeling that you have an uncontrollable urge to do many things, which is a manifestation of obsessive-compulsive disorder.

From saying things that others don't want to hear and rejecting books. Understand that different people deal with it differently.

If those two things come across me. Saying something that others don't want to hear. Then I'll immediately laugh at another friend and say, "We're talking about you behind your back."

Ha ha. Friends. It should be bold.

What should not be taken to heart. If he retaliates for it. That means you're having a bit of a problem with socializing.

Also, if I bought two books. There is a problem with one book. The other one is not good-looking.

In fact, there are problems with books that are not good-looking. Of course, the books in question should be changed. It should also be justified.

You can know that the books in the store are predestined for you to change. You changed. The original book may have been sold.

The boss won't lose money because of this. Otherwise, if you don't change it, forget it. If only it were allowed to be exchanged for you.

And then he takes revenge on you. What's the point of that?

In fact, it is not a bad thing to be timid and afraid. But before the horns of the bull. You should analyze the situation before you are afraid.

In addition, when it comes to relationships, you should be optimistic. Just hold the person who is happy EQ. The problem can be solved.

Read more books on self-cultivation and self-cultivation, practice book flowers or plant flowers and grass This can hone your mind.

Before doing everything, ask yourself if doing this will make you feel unsure, yes, don't do it, no, just do it. Mandatory provisions.

I don't think there's anything wrong with that. It's just that you should think about it before you do it. For example, if the owner asks you to change it yourself, can you change it yourself?

If you were found out by the shopkeeper when you exchanged an item? What do you do? Shouldn't you think about it before you go and ask a friend to come with you?

It is a manifestation of liver and kidney yin deficiency. It's best to go to a psychiatric teacher.

If you say too much, you will lose, be cautious in your words and deeds!

"My children are always timid and afraid of things, always want to retreat when they encounter problems, are afraid of other people's jokes, have a lot of worries, suffer from gains and losses, and feel mentally stressed. It's worrying. ”

What should you do when your child is like this, always cowering when things happen?

Cultivate optimism. One of the psychological roots of a child's timidity is that he is prone to pessimism. Optimistic people regard difficulties as normal, feel that difficulties are strong and weak, weak and strong, and full of confidence, determination and perseverance to overcome difficulties; The pessimistic people artificially exaggerate the difficulties and surrender before the battle.

Therefore, it is necessary to encourage your child to look at problems from a positive point of view, make more progress, and see his achievements, so as to have confidence in himself and develop an optimistic attitude.

Start small. Lack of perseverance is another psychological root cause of children's timidity. A person who is not strong in perseverance will have a retreat mentality when he feels that difficulties are difficult to overcome.

However, by accumulating victories in overcoming small difficulties, we can gradually cultivate people's perseverance in overcoming major difficulties. Therefore, children should be asked to start with small things, especially those that he ignores the most and is most likely to expose the weakness of will, to cultivate perseverance. For example, getting up on time every day, writing notes, morning exercises, etc., under any circumstances, not sloppy, persevering, can not make excuses, over time, you can gradually cultivate tenacious perseverance.

Encourage social interaction. Timid children are often introverted and withdrawn, so parents should create more opportunities to encourage children to take the initiative to socialize with others and obtain emotional support from their peers. For example, let children take the initiative to greet people, invite peers to come to play, introduce children to guests and play together, etc., to train children to act boldly.

Don't criticize sarcasm. Timid and fearful children have strong self-esteem, parents must not criticize and blame for their shortcomings, which deepens the impact of children's bad emotions, parents should give their children more encouragement, praise language, eyes, etc., enhance children's self-confidence, reduce psychological pressure.

People only have one death, and it is rare to do things to die, if not, then do it. A manly man lives for a breath

Don't be afraid, isn't that what it means to think about death when it's critical?

If you ask that, it means that you are good.

Find a psychiatrist to help you, that's the best path!

The key is your mindset! It's also what kind of mentality you have!

For example, if you go to a dark place, you must think of ghosts, so you have to immediately believe that there are no ghosts in the world, and you should also be optimistic to see what ghosts look like, if there are really ghosts, then we can become ghosts after we die, and there is no need to be afraid of death, because we die and become ghosts. It's better to have God's Word, and we can be reincarnated.

For example, if others provoke too much, people will naturally have the idea of dying and dying together, and their courage will immediately become bigger!

In fact, when I was in junior high school, I was very timid, I was afraid of causing trouble, I was afraid that others would bully me, and I didn't know what to do! I'm afraid to speak alone from the podium! I'm afraid of arguing and fighting with others, because I'm afraid that I won't be able to beat people!

It makes me stronger now, because I have life experiences, which makes me bold!

I think you're really small, and you need to go through life to be bold!

Please be like me, face the difficulties of life, all kinds of things that are not conducive to you, don't worry or feel inferior, and be sure to thank God for giving you the opportunity to exercise, because many successful people always get back on their feet after countless failures. Without difficulties, people cannot be tempered, people do not have to think about problems, and there will be no evolution, let alone scientific progress! Therefore, the key is the mentality, optimistic to think about the problem, there are many people who say that there is no absolute good person, and there is no bad person who thinks, the same I say, there is no absolute bad thing, there is no absolute good thing!

I don't want to explain too much, so I just say that good things, bad things, can make people think, and finally get life experience.

Good things can make people careless, and in the end they fail! It's also a life experience. Why do some people have to wear masks because they are afraid that good things will bring disaster!

There's so much to say, so much to explain!

The central idea is that the courage and the boldness depend on your life experience, and your thoughts and your state of mind!

In fact, I think that going to the army as a soldier for two years can hone a lot of things, not only courage, but also will and endurance. When I was a child, I was also scared, and when I was in junior high school, I was terrified every day (fighting, robbing money)...

Later, I went to the army as a soldier. Now I'm not afraid of people.

Don't cause trouble, just be nice.

The laws of our country do not go to the foreign conference, love the ancients or comfort, dare not be patriotic in the morning, and the foreign countries should be patriotic and on time.

Anyway, you still have to practice.

Wine is strong and courageous, and brothers are strong! If you need to run errands, you can have two drinks

If you don't want to do something, pluck up the courage to do it.

After reading your question, I don't want to put a lot of theories out like the first floor, I just want to tell you what the essence of your problem is. In fact, the reason why you are so timid is because you care too much about other people's eyes, and you care too much about what others say and think about you. So you can't let go of what you do.

What I want to tell you is that it is right to care about other people's feelings, but if you care too much about others, you will lose yourself, because everyone has their own ideas and perspectives on things, and right and wrong are only relative. You don't always think that others are necessarily right, don't always think about satisfying everyone, in fact, as long as there are 2 or 3 people who support you, it is enough.

You are 190 tall, which is very proud, you should give full play to your advantages, play basketball or do something else, meet the girl you like, speak up, don't be afraid of rejection, lose face or anything.

Remember, the more you want to save face, the less you have to save face, so you should let go of your self-esteem and live freely.

Life is very short, why do you always have trouble with yourself, if you want to open up, you will be a lot happier. I hope my words are helpful to you, and I also recommend that you read more inspirational books, so that you can discover yourself, find yourself, and rejuvenate yourself! ~

Not fighting proves your sanity! This is important!

Today's society! To fight is to fight for money! You're right!

As for talking about girlfriends. Girlfriend loves your words! Not love your family background! You will find true love!

Other self-confidence slowly improves! Tell yourself you can!

Think about Chengcai and Xu Sanduo, Sanduo is very smooth and excellent, but only Chengcai can become a general.

I'm in the same situation as you are. I'm really confused right now, too. Why don't we make friends?

Don't take yourself personally. Be a god. Believe in yourself! It's good and powerful.

··· Exercise emotional intelligence··· Maybe it's low self-esteem... Let's face it...

Make yourself!

If you're not happy, vent it!

I'm also a similar personality to you.

I've been depressed about this kind of thing lately.

However, I figured out that if someone treats me badly, then I will treat him the same way.

If others are good to me, then I will be ten times better to others, isn't there such a saying?

If anyone does not offend me, I will not offend, but if anyone offends me, I will offend!

That's a bit harsh, but it means something about the same.

Hello friends, I understand your feelings, and I have been like this for a while. Analyzing the reasons for my timidity and cowardice, one is that I am not confident, because I am not confident, I dare not boldly express my opinions, even if I find out afterwards that my ideas are very good; Then there is that I dare not take responsibility, no matter what we do, do well or badly, we must dare to take responsibility, this time we do not do well at least we have accumulated experience, otherwise, we will not independently complete some of the work that we can bear instinctively; We must continue to increase our knowledge and ability, and we must also continue to strengthen our self-cultivation. This way we will have more and more friends, and we will become faster and faster!

Hehe, just say it, everyone will share your worries.

No one is born to be able to do anything, just work hard and cultivate, take your time and it will be fine, it takes a process.

When encountering something, cheer yourself up and strengthen psychological hints, the same is why should I be afraid of him, go to the world with reason, and stir up three points without reason. Most people are bullying the weak and afraid of the hard.

In psychology, your personality is called inferiority. Try reading the newspaper and watching the news on TV first. Then try to use your ear pulse and say something to your friends on QQ.

In further heart-to-heart talks with parents. After a long time, when you start to communicate well with others without being afraid. Your low self-esteem and timidity will go away from you.

Listen more often. Dharma is very helpful for such heart diseases. The key is whether you can learn to resist frustration yourself.

I think you're a little timid. I mind you, first of all, train your guts. How do you train your guts?

Let me teach you! It is also my personal experience, that is, if you feel afraid to do something, you have to force yourself to do it, as long as you do it well. I don't think in the future when you encounter something like the one above, it won't be like what you said above.

Nozomi helps you.

Me too, so I don't want such a quarrelsome family, I want to build a family that never fights. In any case, if you want something that is harmful to your interests, you must be brave, and it is a very good way to avoid things like this, and you need to use your brain to be brave.

Actually, this is your kind psychology at work, I think you should be a very good-hearted person, you will definitely be afraid of hurting others or something.

On the other hand, maybe because you lack self-confidence, I hope you can be brave and shout when you are afraid: I can do it!

Let reality educate you, it works better than anything else, if you quarrel with others in the future, you will hit it with an electric cannon, and the next reality will tell you that it's not a big deal, I'm afraid it's useless, and finding a way is the last word.

Find someone who often bullies you and beat it up, just get used to it, people always have to grow up.

Exercise a lot, do anything, as long as you bite the bullet and break through, you will feel that this is nothing.

If, as you said, you only see your parents arguing with each other or with neighbors, and you see others having quarrels outside, you will feel very uneasy and hesitant (don't use "shrink aside" to describe yourself), if this does not mean that you are timid, but the environment in which you live has a shadow on you, maybe your parents often quarrel with each other or with neighbors, which will cause you to have a lot of thoughts, disgust, remorse, and cannot persuade ......It is recommended that you relax more, and if necessary, you can talk to a psychiatrist or find a good friend to talk about your inner thoughts!