I have a fear of marriage, and now my boyfriend is asking to get married, what should I do? 40

How does your boyfriend treat you?

If you feel that he really loves you, what do you have to fear?

If you feel that he doesn't love you enough, you can say that it will be a while.

Or find a tactful excuse to delay the time and observe again.

Fear is caused by a lack of trust, because marriage allows an independent person to become completely one with another person, and everything you do is closely related to the other person, and you need to take into account the other person's feelings.

If you can't tell why you are afraid, and you love each other very much, then I will give you a reassurance:

Two people love each other, and marriage is not a rope that binds you, but a greater sense of security.

In marriage, you will stay together from knowing each other to cherishing each other to staying together.

Of course, the process of staying together is actually the most meaningful, when you quarrel, you must know how to be moderate, after the quarrel, you must know how to release, tolerance, and forgiveness. We should also be optimistic about the ordinary life of everyday life. Because love will become affection.

Then there is no need to knot. Fear? If you're afraid, don't get married for the rest of your life. Do you think it's possible? You have to face it.

If the other party's conditions are good, seize the opportunity Maybe the other party will not be happy when you want to get married In fact, there is nothing wrong with thinking so, to be a mother of a child and a man's wife, you have to give up a lot of things that you don't want to give up.

Sort out the cause and pinpoint the crux of the fear. Some people are afraid of taking responsibility, some people have become accustomed to living alone, some people have gone through the twists and turns of a relationship, some people are materially and spiritually unacceptable, and they are not mentally ready. Take multiple measures at the same time to work together to eliminate concerns.

As long as the cause is identified, persuasion and guidance, interaction, psychological counseling, participation in activities and other measures to eliminate concerns, so as to achieve no fear, no worry, full of confidence. Eliminate repetition and communicate often to correct. People's thoughts are sometimes more stubborn, and there will be ** after a short period of news, women should give full play to their patience and meticulous expertise, often exchange ideas, correct bad complexes and bad thoughts in a timely manner, and eliminate fear of marriage**.

Proper exercise and relaxation can also eliminate phobias to a certain extent, such as watching movies together, traveling together, cooking and housework together, and feeling the feeling of married life in advance. Adjusting his mentality is the most important point, to be confident in his future married life, believing that he can go through his life happily. Don't be distracted by unhappy people around you and unhappy examples in society.

Marriage also needs to be managed, and I believe that I can handle my married life well.

First of all, it is necessary to figure out what aspect of marriage he is afraid of, and then prescribe the right medicine to overcome it according to his actual situation. Generally, people who don't want to get married are because they don't have confidence in marriage, and they are afraid that they will not be able to deal with some big and small things in marriage, and when they get married, their roles will also change, from boyfriends to husbands, and they have their own small families, which also needs to be transformed. If you want to help him overcome the fear of marriage, you must first give him confidence, tell him that he will be very happy after marriage, happier than falling in love, and then let him have the warmth of home.

If your boyfriend has a phobia of marriage, you should help your boyfriend overcome his fear of marriage, give him more care, and communicate and communicate more together. Often accompany your boyfriend and your boyfriend to chat more, untie your boyfriend's knot, boyfriend for a while, wait for your boyfriend to change his mind, only trust, care, and consideration can make your boyfriend overcome his fear of marriage.

Let him experience the joy of marriage, and at the same time let him know that some things in marriage are very beautiful, and slowly open his heart knot.

I think you can take the time to talk to him about this every day, slowly dispel his doubts, and take him out of this fearful feeling.

Ask your boyfriend why he is afraid of marriage, and then choose a specific response according to the reason for his fear of marriage. You can let your boyfriend take a look at the married life of a happy and sweet couple, let him appreciate and affirm his married life more, and slowly eliminate his fear.

After 4 years of dating, my boyfriend is very afraid of getting married, and if you want to know what the other party thinks at this time, you need to have a good chat with the other party. Sometimes girls will be cranky, thinking that their boyfriend doesn't like them if they don't marry them, and that the other party just wants to play with the relationship. This kind of thinking will make the girl very uncomfortable, and fall into this sad mood in advance, and over time the boy may really feel that the girl makes him feel very tired.

So smart girls will not feel sorry for themselves at this time, but will take the initiative to talk to their boyfriends and ask them what they think. Because sometimes boys also have premarital phobia, if the boyfriend has premarital phobia, then you can choose to alleviate this problem with your boyfriend, so that both parties can be better together. Premarital phobia is not only reflected in girls, many boys also have this symptom, because after the boy gets married, he becomes an adult completely.

Before getting married, the boy was a child in the family, and with the help of his parents, he could live the life he liked. However, once the marriage is chosen, then the boy may be under a lot of pressure, and in the process, he will gradually lose himself. After getting married, boys bear a lot of burden on their shoulders, which is understandable.

Maybe the boyfriend is afraid of such a living situation, so he doesn't want to get married. <>

At this time, the girl can choose to tell her boyfriend that although the responsibilities of both parties have become greater after marriage, but after getting married, she can choose to work together with the other party and slowly make life better. Explain your boyfriend little by little, so that your boyfriend slowly realizes the benefits of marriage. But if the boy really doesn't want to marry him, then the girl can also choose to stop the loss in time and never abandon her dignity.

I think he doesn't want to marry you, and he doesn't take his relationship seriously, he just has a playful mentality, so when we meet this kind of boyfriend, we must break up with the other party.

This situation may be due to premarital phobia, as some people may experience a state of anxiety and confusion when facing marriage, and you should communicate with your boyfriend.

You can communicate with the other party, understand the specific thoughts of the other party, determine the real thoughts of the other party according to the behavior of the other party, or you can use some friends to knock on the side.

I don't really want to marry you, because he has been in love for 4 years, and he must have made a corresponding preparation.

This is actually the fear of the future, the fear of the unknown, if you have a good relationship with your boyfriend, these fears are no longer a problem, these fears will slowly dissipate over time, don't give up on your lover because of some inexplicable fears.

Fear of the unknownIn fact, everyone will be afraid of the future, when you were a child when you left home for the first time to go to kindergarten, I think everyone should have it, in elementary school, junior high school, every time I go to a strange place, I believe there will be a little fear. And marriage is a big event, a thing that determines your future, and it's strange not to feel fear, because people are afraid of the unknown. <>

The impact of negative news Nowadays people have a lot of negative news about marriage. Say that once a man gets married, he will change, and marriage is the grave of love. And now the network is so developed.

There are many people who post a lot of negative energy on the Internet, and post their unhappy marriages on the Internet for others to see, so that more negative information will naturally have a fear of unknown marriages. So many times it's not that you're really afraid, it's that you're afraid of someone else's marriage, but everyone's marriage is different, how can you be sure that someone else's tragedy will happen to you. So don't care about these inexplicable fears.

How to get rid of fears: If you are now full of fear about your future marriage, it is also possible that you do not know enough about your boyfriend. You're not getting the security you want from your boyfriend. If that's the case, you can continue dating for a while and don't get married.

Time can prove a person. <>

People are full of fear of the unknown, not to mention such a major event as marriage, you should correct your mentality and face the future life, and only in this way can you meet a better life. A better version of yourself.

Because your boyfriend can't give you a sense of security, you feel that marrying him will destroy this tacit understanding between you.

It's this man who doesn't put you completely at ease. So when it comes to getting married, you become unconfident, and you're not sure if you can go with him.

That can only mean that your boyfriend doesn't give you enough security, but if he gives you enough security, you will only be full of illusions about marriage, not fear.

Because I don't have confidence in my marriage, I don't feel particularly secure about my boyfriend, and I feel that a lot of things will happen after I get married, so I will have a sense of fear.

I want to fall in love and get married, but I am afraid and scared of marriage, what is this psychology? What to do?

1.Fear of marriage. I am scared because getting married means the beginning of a new life.

There are so many unknowns that you don't know what will happen in the future. It's normal to be afraid, or it may be that the other party can't give you enough security. Actually, don't worry too much.

Marriage is a necessary stage of life. No one will start a marriage at the beginning, they all enter the state slowly. I believe I can do it well, so don't be afraid.

Psychological self-confidence, always feel that the other party may not really like you, it is difficult to really give. Many people are afraid of marriage because they start thinking about the breakdown of marriage before they get married, and they often have the fear of possible divorce in the future.

2.Only by accepting each other from the bottom of your heart and acknowledging that they are the love of your life can you take the first step, dare to take responsibility, dare to invest, and become a mature lover. Marriage is the process of compromise, and marriage is the beginning of compromise.

If your teeth are so close to your tongue, it will hurt suddenly if you bite it. For two people, everything has to be spread out and discussed. Whoever has a reason to listen to whom, if it doesn't matter, taking the initiative to give in is the best option.

Concession does not mean cowardice, but true wisdom. After all, marriage is the art of getting along, and if there is no compromise, it will inevitably become ugly performance art.

3.Have a correct understanding of marriage and a mature view of marriage; Marriage is based on love, based on the principle of mutual consent. Marriage is the sublimation of love, not the grave of love.

A mature marriage should have a process of acquaintance, love, and love. The two have had a run-in for a period of time and think that they can get married together. If the other party is suitable for you enough, you are actually willing to marry him.

If she doesn't give you what you want, then you will be hesitant or unconfident about your marriage. Before getting married, you must do a good job of running in before marriage. Most of the reasons for cracks in marriage are because they don't know each other well enough, have too high expectations, and can't accept each other after getting along for a long time after marriage, and always want to change each other.

You want to fall in love and get married, because you feel that there is love in the world, you don't want to be lonely, you feel scared and scared about marriage because you have seen too much negative news, and you feel that marriage is not all perfect. The best way to cope is to fall in love more, find someone who loves you, and get married.

It's normal for you to have this mentality. Because people will have some anxiety and fear about things that they can't control in the future. Especially now that there are many reports and negative information about failed marriages.

Let's lack faith in marriage. But in fact, we often see negative reports on marriage, in fact, there are still many marriages in our lives, they support each other, and couples who accompany each other to old age, they may also quarrel, but these do not prevent them from relying on each other for happiness.

That must be the psychology that you don't dare to do, it should be to tell yourself whether you will go through these ups and downs, as long as you get through it.

In fact, many people have the so-called "premarital phobia", this disease is actually a psychological problem, itself is not terrible, we only need to face our own problems, and then confess to the other half and family, find the cause of their fear and discuss the solution, we can quickly eliminate the fear of marriage.

First of all, some people may not want to enter marriage so early, worried that their lives will change after marriage, most of this psychology is that girls will have, girls have this kind of psychological problem is nothing more than the boy's sense of security is not enough, maybe boys feel that their life after marriage has not changed from before marriage, but girls will worry that they will become "Huang Soona face wife", "nanny", "broken mouth mother", "irritable wife", etc., from a yellow flower girl to a "woman" process, It is indeed necessary to do a good job in psychological construction, so it is recommended that women with such thoughts must communicate more and not hold back their own words.

Secondly, there are some people who have premarital phobia, which is that they feel that they will change each other's living conditions after marriage, although two people are "one" when they are in love, they also have their own private space, even if they live together, they can have freedom, but after marriage, it means that two people are left with only a little self-space from the perspective of life or from the perspective of law, two people even need to eat and live together, and the other half even has the right to know most of your situation. If you are not ready to "become one" with each other, then it is best not to enter into marriage.

In the end, no matter what the "fear of bending" is, there must be a reason, and the fact that we can find out that we have fear is already a great progress, so why not move forward and find the factors that cause our fears? If you find the reason, you can have a solution, if you can't get over the level in your heart, don't force yourself, fear also deserves to be respected.