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Most men and women have different emotional lines, men are at the beginning of the woman in every possible way, grace, and when he feels that he gets you, part of it is to break up directly, and part of it is to turn feelings into a kind of responsibility, that is, people often say that love becomes family affection.
Women ignore most men at first, but with the accumulation of time, women's feelings for men will become deeper and deeper.
If he is still willing to take responsibility for you, then you can try to communicate to understand each other's thoughts, and it may be better to talk about it, and the most taboo between husband and wife is to be suspicious of each other, after all, it is not easy to be together.
If he not only does not have the heart to take responsibility, but also is selfish, and does not consider your feelings from your point of view at all, then I don't need to say what to do, if you want to be good to others, you must first learn to be good to yourself.
The ideal love life is for two people to form a tacit understanding in the ups and downs of life and the run-in of their personalities, rather than forbearance.
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See if he is cold on the outside and hot on the inside, or if he is the same as the inside and outside. Cold on the outside and hot on the inside, maybe it's just a lack of humor and not good at expression; Cold inside and out, there are only two outcomes: either you change him, or you become as cold as he is.
There is only one kind of person in this world who is cold inside and outside: the dead. Men are very difficult to change, do you want to live with a dead person for the rest of your life?
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Move him with your sincerity.
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If you quarrel with your husband, choose the cold war or give in, it depends on the actual situation. In most cases, we should first try to solve the problem by subduing the soft, and the Cold War is only used as a last resort, so we should try to deal with the contradictions by subduing the soft.
Generally speaking, there should be an objective attitude towards the problem, both parties should be honest with each other, and try not to win over others. If we can put aside the odds and failures in this debate, we can communicate the problem rationally and honestly, even if there are differences of opinion, we can respect the other party, be honest with each other, and see the problem as a process of solving the problem together. In communication, both sides should avoid blaming each other, avoid exacerbating attempts to actively argue, and focus on reconciliation and elimination of misunderstandings.
When both sides are willing to communicate openly and honestly, but cannot reach a consensus on opinions, a Cold War can be considered. A cold war is when both sides do not admit that nothing has happened, both inwardly and on the surface, neither side communicates, or only superficially contacts and expresses indifference to each other inwardly. The Cold War helped to dispel the intense feelings, calmed the mood of both sides, and gave both sides a chance to re-examine the issue and try to see it from a new perspective.
However, the Cold War has the potential to deepen tensions, and both sides may lose some of their emotions in silence. Therefore, when using the Cold War as a means of mediation, we should pay attention to moderation and not drag the Cold War too long, so as not to cause more problems. Moreover, in the Cold War, we should strive to remain rational, not only take care of ourselves, but try to listen to the opinions of the other side as much as possible, as well as more reasons and factors behind them, listen to each other's voices in a timely manner, and bring the relationship between the two sides back to a normal state.
In short, both the soft and the cold war are exquisite, and it is necessary to judge which effect is better and which is more suitable for oneself depending on the specific situation, and then handle the quarrel with the most positive attitude, rather than rushing to adopt the cold war. If you feel justified, you can express your opinion firmly, but respect the other person's feelings and don't attack the other person. If you feel that you are unreasonable, it is better to give in softly, admit your mistakes, and take the initiative to make amends.
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There are many reasons for apathy, and some people may be a problem with their lifestyle habits and are not good at expressing their feelings. Some people may not be aware of the needs of the other person, do not know how to deal with it, and will live according to their own habits, giving the other person the illusion. Some apathy, it may be that they are in a state of getting along with each other, and they have accumulated problems, causing them to feel depressed and unwilling to open up to themselves anymore.
So, apathy can have different factors, and you have to determine what causes your lover belongs to the apathy. If it is a problem with his personality, it means that you lack understanding of his habits, or that you have a problem understanding each other, and you have not found the right way to get along with each other, and you have not established an interactive relationship. If you have emotional and impression problems with each other, it means that in the previous process of getting along, you gave a bad impression to the other person, and let the other party take a cold and closed attitude towards you.
Only by finding the root cause of the problem can we better solve it.
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It depends on why there is an indifferent attitude, because the reasons for indifference are different, if you usually get along very incongruously, your way is more extreme self, your relationship has fallen into fatigue, his indifference is a kind of discouragement, or closed to your feelings, such indifference, you need to reflect on your previous way of problems, make the right adjustments, re-improve your impression, repair your relationship.
If there is a lack of understanding between you, or a lack of emotional foundation, he is not interested in you at all, and he can't open his heart, you should be patient and comprehensive to understand him, constantly touch him correctly, slowly enter his inner world, and let him open up to you, so there are many reasons for indifference, and the way to deal with it is naturally different.
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How to deal with an indifferent husband, you have to use the delay to gently go to him.
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The indifference of the husband is one of the most common phenomena in marriage. Some women are so good that their husbands treat her well when they get married, so that later, she does not want to marry her husband again, so that she becomes a person who does not communicate with her husband and does not want to care about every detail and feeling in his life. If you know how to deal with your husband's indifference, do you also know how to make yourself better?
What should you do to stay in good shape in your marriage? Don't expect men to change! Don't expect him to change all of that – you just need a small change!
1.Stop complaining about him.
Men sometimes Changlu will be very silent, even a little indifferent. In such a situation, what a man is most afraid of is not that his wife does not understand him, but that his wife always motivates him with his own bad things. Therefore, you have to learn to treat him in the right way, not to complain about him.
Complaining is probably the best thing to do. But don't always talk about "complaining" – it will only make men bored with being nice to you, and ultimately it won't be good for family life. Every time I watch my child fall asleep in the middle of the night, I always feel that my child is as cold as a father, and I think, what should he do now to make himself more comfortable and keep his child away from indifference?
2.Learn to respect and envy him.
You can discuss this with your husband, but don't say "I don't agree" or "I don't agree." It won't change everything he does to you, because he won't understand what you're saying, and he won't be able to understand it. Of course, we are not in favor of interfering in men's private lives in any form, but you have to know one thing:
Respect" is not demeaning, not suppression. If he wants to achieve something in his marriage and have his own space and time in a happy life, then he should let him find it himself. But we can't just assume that he is in control of what he has done, and therefore challenge our views and attitudes towards the other person.
Know that men don't feel dissatisfied because you're too picky!
3.Have common interests and hobbies.
When you're working with a man who doesn't care about you too much, you're definitely living a lonely life. But if you share common interests, this loneliness will be alleviated. When you share the same interests, it's easy to relate to each other.
For example, if you like to work out, he may join a health club with you. You like to cook, but he may go to a restaurant with friends. You like to play video games, and he might invite friends to join him – each with their own interests and goals. These hobbies will make your relationship better. It's like a platform to talk about each other's strengths and weaknesses.
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