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Anonymous users2024-02-08It's not that you don't mind the question.
However, there is a generation gap between the two generations, and there will be great differences in living habits, rhythm of life, and living customs.
It will not be a question of compromise then.
It's getting more and more unpleasant with each other.
You can live in a community with your in-laws and parents and take care of each other.
But try to avoid living under one roof.
Privacy, conflict, escalation, quarrels, cold wars, .........
This happens when you live together.
If you think you can handle this.
Then you don't have to worry about that.
If you are also the one who has grown up at home, then you still have to think about it in the most decided.
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Anonymous users2024-02-07Or willing to have their own space, living together will inevitably have contradictions, filial piety does not mean to live together.
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Anonymous users2024-02-06I don't mind, my in-laws are my parents, they're the same as my parents, why would they mind? After all, they are old, and we should do our best to take care of them and let them live out their old age.
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Anonymous users2024-02-05No matter what kind of house I live in, I am willing to live with my in-laws, and people must be filial
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Anonymous users2024-02-04I always feel that it is inconvenient to live together, my mother-in-law doesn't care, my father-in-law is especially in the summer, and the headquarters is comfortable. . . Upstairs is right, filial piety doesn't have to live together...
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Anonymous users2024-02-03I don't mind living with my mother-in-law, but I do mind living with my father-in-law.
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Anonymous users2024-02-02Unwilling. In the long run, living with the in-laws, contradictions are unavoidable, maybe the newly married in-laws will not say anything, but after a long time, there will definitely be friction, plus after giving birth, the two generations have different parenting concepts, you want the child to be like this, the mother-in-law wants to let the child be like that, then, quarrels must be rare.
Looking up and not looking down, it will be very inconvenient to live together, this inconvenience covers the privacy of husband and wife, and the daughter-in-law also hates "mother-in-law comes in directly without knocking on the door", this situation is really embarrassing, although the mother-in-law said that it is all a family, don't see outside, and don't be embarrassed, but your heart is diaphragm.
Living with his in-laws, a man's sense of responsibility will become smaller and smaller, and if you ask him to take care of the child, he may be the shopkeeper and directly leave the child to his grandparents to see, and even the housework will be done by his parents, and he will not worry about anything. Such a man, frankly speaking, will not care too much about the whole family, children, and wife, and will always rely on others when he encounters pure questions, just like a child who will never grow up.
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Anonymous users2024-02-01I can't accept living with my in-laws after marriage. But in fact, some friends expressed their willingness to live with their parents-in-law, the pressure was reduced a lot, and now the house price is so expensive, there may be no second house for a while, and some friends said that they must live separately, many concepts of the old and young people may be different, there is no separate marriage room Tong Lao, there is no relatively private space, rather not get married.
On the other hand, the older generation of parents, parents seem to be willing to live with their children, so that the family will be more lively, food, clothing, housing and transportation, and it will be more convenient to take care of children, and a few elders are unwilling to live with their children.
The advantages of living with parents-in-law: it is convenient to eat, you don't need to cook by yourself, you don't need to wash your own clothes, the elderly will also bear a large part of the housework at home, and the elderly will help take care of the children, which relieves a lot of pressure for people who are in the class and just have children.
Disadvantages of living with parents-in-law: There may be a generation gap between young people and old people, different ways of doing things are prone to conflicts, young people need their own private space, and living with elders may not be very free.
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Anonymous users2024-01-31I can accept living with my parents-in-law after marriage, and I feel that the Qing family of Dayuan Hall will be happier when they live together.
Some people say that the relationship between in-laws and daughters-in-law is very difficult to get along with, among which the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the most difficult to get along, in fact, as long as the in-laws and daughters-in-law can get along harmoniously, then the happiness that the family can obtain will be very enviable.
In real life, there are many examples of in-laws and daughters-in-law getting along well and happy family life, and the reason why these families can achieve a harmonious relationship between in-laws and daughters-in-law is because both parties have achieved mutual respect, harmonious communication between in-laws and daughters-in-law, and both parties can take the initiative to care for each other in life.
First, the reason why the in-laws and daughters-in-law can get along well is because of the mutual respect between the two parties.
For those families where the in-laws and daughters-in-law live in harmony, mutual respect is one of the most important reasons why they can achieve harmony in their relationship, specifically, if the in-laws do not respect the daughter-in-law, or the daughter-in-law does not respect the in-laws, then the relationship between them is not destined to be harmonious. And if the two parties can respect each other, the basis for harmonious coexistence will be generated, and the relationship between the in-laws and daughters-in-law will inevitably improve and be strengthened.
The second point is that when encountering problems, the in-laws and daughters-in-law can communicate harmoniously, which is an important prerequisite for getting along.
There are a variety of problems in family life, which may affect the relationship between family members, and when problems are encountered, if there is a lack of communication between family members, each thinking about each other, there may be disagreements and misunderstandings, and then conflicts. However, if family members can communicate harmoniously, they can reach a consensus, create a joint force, and achieve a state of harmony between family members. If you want to get along well with your in-laws and daughters-in-law, you have to do these things.
The third point is that in daily life, in-laws and daughters-in-law can care for each other in order to get along in real harmony.
In daily life, the in-laws and daughters-in-law live together, and the status of their relationship with each other depends largely on the state of interaction between the two parties. If there is a gap between the two parties and there is not much contact with each other, it will affect the relationship between each other, and the relationship between the in-laws and the daughter-in-law will be very poor.
And if the in-laws and daughters-in-law can care for each other and take the initiative to take care of each other in life, the relationship between them can become closer and closer, and finally achieve harmony. When the relationship between the in-laws and daughter-in-law reaches the most harmonious state, the relationship between the two parties will be as close as that of the biological father and daughter, and the biological mother and daughter, which is very enviable.
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Anonymous users2024-01-30Not quite acceptable. If you live with your parents, your living habits and eating habits are likely to be different, and many people are reluctant to live with your elders after marriage.
1. Personally, I think it's better to live separately from your parents after marriage, you have your space, and I have my space. If the economic conditions allow, you can buy a house close to your own community for your parents, so that everyone's emotions can get the closest connection. Therefore, not living with your parents after marriage is a rational choice of modern people, which is of great benefit to either party.
Second, people always have their own living habits and three views of thinking, and often do not celebrate the rent can easily accept others, their own change is not so simple, the worst result of living together is that with the accumulation of time, some trivial things, will be gradually magnified, and in the end, like a volcanic eruption, one day will make a big fuss.
3. Many women want to have an independent space with their lovers after marriage, enjoy the romance of the world of the two, and do not like to live with their in-laws The reason why they don't like to live with their in-laws should be that there are a lot of inconveniences.
Fourth, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has existed since ancient times, and it is not unique to China, since there may be contradictions, why are there still people who still die and beg to live together, in the name of filial piety, do not know that the family and everything is prosperous, and the old man with normal thinking will hope that his son and daughter will be happy after marriage, less quarrels, and fewer contradictions.
There are too many examples of conflicts around me because I live with my parents after marriage. I think it's acceptable to live together once in a while, it can enhance the relationship, and it can also avoid a lot of shortcomings being magnified.
All in all, there are pros and cons to living with your parents after marriage, whether you live with your parents or not. If you have the conditions to live with your parents, then it means that the factors around you are more perfect, please cherish this life, after all, there are still a few people who can enjoy the family together. If you don't have the conditions to live with your parents, don't force it, only by choosing a lifestyle that suits you, can you have a happy marriage.
You also find a house close to your parents' house, compare it, in addition to the distance, other advantages and disadvantages are compared, and everyone does not only focus on the distance. >>>More
After marrying your husband, it is best not to live with your parents-in-law after giving birth to a child, even if you go out to rent a house, don't do it together, because there will be a lot of conflicts when you live together, and if you don't live together, the relationship will be better.
As soon as I got married, I really respected them, and I bought whatever I bought for my parents, and sometimes I didn't even buy it for my mother, but bought it for my mother-in-law, for example, I bought two gold necklaces for Mother's Day, one for each person. But my mother said, she has it, I didn't want it, I bought it for my mother-in-law, my mother-in-law said put it there, didn't say anything else, there are many examples, don't say it one by one, just talk about the cause of the matter, my husband is a mother-lover complex, for example, I don't do anything as good as my mother, just got married and kept arguing, just because of housework, and no matter what happens in my family, my husband will talk to his mother, big and small. For example, one thing that the two of us discussed, buy a small washing machine, convenient for washing diapers or something, said that it was okay, but when it was time to eat at noon, his mother knew about it, and did not let him buy it, saying that it could not be washed and so on, in fact, he was afraid of spending money, but I want to tell you that my mother-in-law has never given us a penny since we got married, and every time we eat something and other expenses are our own (my mother-in-law has money, not no money, the old couple has a monthly salary of seven or eight thousand, more than us, and our sister-in-law's family eats at his mother's house all year round, Later, in the end, I didn't buy this washing machine, and when I was confined, my sister saw that my mother was tired and bought one. >>>More
In fact, in a situation like yours, you can live your own life separately, you and your husband go out to earn your own money and spend it yourself, why rely on the elderly? There is no face to ask for that money.
I don't want to, fortunately I don't live together, and I come at two ends in three days, either to send this or to take that, and to come and talk endlessly.