After getting married, would you like to live with your mother in law?

I don't want to, fortunately I don't live together, and I come at two ends in three days, either to send this or to take that, and to come and talk endlessly.

I don't want to live with my in-laws, I am an ethnic minority here, and my thinking is very old-fashioned

I am willing to live with my mother-in-law, I am glad that I have a good mother-in-law, although the culture is not high, but people are enthusiastic about the old entity, for me is really better than for his son, I want to praise my mother-in-law, before marriage with my husband talked about four or five years of love, in my mother-in-law's house because of work for more than two years, treat me as a girl, my parents have not agreed with me and my husband before, the result is that I persevered to the end, fortunately persevered, only to be blessed to have such a good in-laws, although I am more sleek to my in-laws are also filial, After a few years of getting along, I have become a real family with them, sometimes I tell my husband, I really don't marry my husband to him, but also to marry such a good in-law, now I live together I am almost eight months pregnant, my mother-in-law doesn't let me do anything, I haven't even entered the kitchen, I sleep until I wake up naturally to eat, and I don't have to do housework, I don't work at home, I buy whatever I want to eat, stew soup every two days, ask me what I want to eat every day, my in-laws are selling vegetables, the fruit at home has basically not been broken, what to eat and open my mouth to say, I will make food, a few months ago at home sometimes I stir-fry, my father-in-law ate at home at noon, and slept in the afternoon, but my mother-in-law knew that I was cooking at noon and said that my father-in-law would not let me go in to get food with a big belly, I said that I would give birth smoothly, and accompany me out for a walk after eating every night, sometimes I bought some food and my father-in-law took it, and did not let me take things, basically when the state protected animals were raised, and there was more than a month to give birth, my mother-in-law said that when the time came to serve me in confinement, I was not worried about not getting along at all, under my husband, It is also a very considerate and honest person, very good to me, I should have done a lot of good things in my last life, I will be lucky to meet such a family, and I am willing to live with my in-laws, but they are not willing to live with us, saying that it is different from our living habits, and they are still young to make money to buy us a down payment, but will buy nearby, I am also grateful to be filial to my in-laws! ‍‍

Reluctant to live together. In fact, the old people are not happy to live with us, both sides know that there is a big generation gap between each other, for example, the old people think that marriage is to have children immediately, and young people do not agree. I felt like I didn't have anything, why should I have children.

And I'm still young, and I'll ask for it when I have a certain foundation, but the old man may not understand. I think it's annoying to urge you every day. You can contribute money and effort, you don't have anything to urge us.

It's annoying.

I'm a mother-in-law, and young people don't like to live with me, and to be honest, I don't like living with them even more. They live theirs, we live ours, everyone has their own space, how much freedom. If I need help, I'm willing to help, I don't need us anymore, I'll withdraw quickly.

It's best to keep your distance.

I used to live with my mother-in-law, I really can't say that day, I was young at that time, only twenty-one or twelve years old, very simple, my husband worked outside, not much at home, I went out after a week of marriage, and even gave birth to a child before rushing back, and I went out again in about ten days. My father-in-law also works outside, so I basically live at home with my mother-in-law, so it's not very harmonious, my mother-in-law is a very shrewd person, and I don't usually say anything directly about me at home, it's all metaphors. She just thinks that she has the final say in that family, and it is impossible for you as a daughter-in-law to think about how my family comes, and you have grievances!

The problem is, when her son comes back, she will behave very well with me, and at that time, she simply doesn't understand why she is so kind to me all of a sudden? Young and ignorant! When my husband came back, he had a grievance and told him that my husband never believed it, so there is always a gap between husband and wife.

Now that I live separately, it stands to reason that there is not much contradiction, but every time my husband comes back, he wants to go to his mother-in-law, and he will go for a few days when he comes back, and I say: You are not very at home, I want to live a normal life of a family of three, and I want to go back to go, can we go one less day and we are at home ourselves? He disagreed, and we are still arguing about this matter, alas!

My husband's relationship with his mother-in-law is very good, and in his heart our family should revolve around his parents! ‍‍

I don't want to. Living habits and eating habits are different, I don't know if it's because of genetics or the living environment since childhood, I like to eat spicy, I like to eat Chongqing hot pot, I like to eat freshwater fish, seafood, glutinous rice made of food, etc., I don't like to eat dumplings and other pasta, and my mother-in-law's family because of the relationship between Shandong inland (southwest Lu is not coastal), actually don't eat any fish and seafood, saltwater fish, freshwater fish don't eat, absolutely not spicy, I feel that their family only eats meat, dumplings and other pasta and pickles, and nothing else, the gap is too big, Accommodating each other is also tiring. ‍‍

I didn't live with my mother-in-law, basically only went back to my hometown for the New Year's holiday, at most I lived for a longer time during the Spring Festival, and I could basically get along peacefully in these ten days, but to live with my mother-in-law for a long time, to be honest, I don't really want to, I think we have different lifestyles in life, for example, I like to occasionally sleep lazily on weekends, and the elderly can't get used to my behavior. In terms of children's education, the old man thinks that as long as the child is well fed and drunk, she will not understand why I want to tell a story to a two-year-old child and read him a book, she will only think that it is superfluous. So I'm not too willing to live with them. ‍‍

I don't want to, I think after all, I just arrived at their house, there may not be a conflict at first, but after a long time, there will definitely be friction, I don't want to affect our relationship because of this, so I don't want to live with my mother-in-law.

Whether to live with their in-laws after marriage, I believe that many young people will face such a problem when they first get married. In fact, the answer to this question is obvious, it is very simple, the solution that both wise in-laws and intelligent young people will choose is: not to live together.

And this has little to do with whether or not to be filial. If someone restrains young people under the guise that they are not filial if they don't live with their in-laws, it is really untenable.

Definitely not live together, but can live very close.

I know a mother, she said that she didn't have a house when she first got married, and her opinion is that she would rather go out with her husband to rent a 10-square-meter cottage than live with her in-laws. Her point of view is that it is not a long-term strategy for mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to always accommodate anyone, each has its own living habits, and it is the most difficult to have a conflict.

Therefore, the opinion of many young people is that they should go to their mother-in-law's house once a week and follow their mother-in-law's living habits, so that they can endure their mother-in-law and be happy. Occasionally, I gave my in-laws some small gifts and snacks, and when the children were young, they were sent to their in-laws' house every once in a while, so that the old man was happy and satisfied.

After all, there can only be one male host and one female owner in a family, and there are many contradictions when there are many people, and after living together for a long time, the contradictions will eventually explode. Therefore, the opinion of many young people is that they will never live together, but they can live close to each other. If you don't live together, it doesn't necessarily mean that you are not filial, on the contrary, the family that lives together has frequent conflicts and constant quarrels is the real unfilial piety.

Living apart, distance produces beauty.

There are also some young people who also have the view that it is better to live separately. The reason is also very simple, that is, distance produces beauty, and it has little to do with filial piety. Some netizens also shared their stories, and she also thinks that it is better to live separately.

Netizens said that she used to live with her mother-in-law, with a family of five, and she saw her mother-in-law busy alone every day, and she didn't want to move when she got home from work all day. The main contradiction lies in the child, and regarding the child's education, the views of the two generations are not consistent, and sometimes there are quarrels. Now that we are separated, the distance produces beauty, and it is good to do our own things.

I have to say that this is indeed the case, for families with children, many young people who live with their in-laws are because they have different views on the matter of educating their children, and the longer they live together, the more conflicts they have, and in the end they may become enemies. And living apart, distance produces beauty, and it will be better for each other.

Living with in-laws is also a challenge for couples.

If you want to be harmonious as a husband and wife, don't live with your parents. Like both parents, smart parents don't live with their children. Of course, not living with parents does not mean that they are not filial, husband and wife marriage is not who marries to whom, it is two people who love each other to form an independent new family, each family has only one hostess, whether it is in-laws or parents-in-law live together, more is the old man who crosses the line and thinks that he is the master of the new family, if so, it is bound to affect the harmony of the whole family.

Nowadays, many young people are reluctant to live with their parents after getting married, and I don't know what everyone thinks, but I think it's better to live separately. Young people have different lifestyles from old people, and it doesn't matter if they live with their parents, but their other half, she must not be used to suddenly walking into an unfamiliar environment. There will inevitably be stumbles in life, as younger generations, we can't compete with our elders, and after a long time, we will leave pimples in our hearts, and slowly there will be a distance from this family.

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Especially when the young couple quarreled, it wasn't a big deal, but once the in-laws intervened, the matter would be endless. Think about it from another angle, other girls are married to live with you, not to be angry with your family. What is the meaning of marriage?

It is to quit their own family and start a new family. Rather than forcing one party to fit into the other's family. Of course, it's not just because of these that we live separately, there are three reasons for this, and everyone will understand after reading it.

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01. Reduce the burden on parents. If you live with your parents, when you have a child, many families will usually bring the child to the elderly after the full moon. Originally, the parents are also old, and after the children get married, they should enjoy the blessings.

But in order to reduce your burden, not only do you have to work hard to take care of your children, but also add your own pension and pension to your children. If parents live on their own, they will have a lot of time to live their old age. They can square dance with their friends and go on a trip, which is what they should live.

Each of us wants to have a happy married life, but after getting married, we will face a realistic choice, that is, whether we want to live with our parents-in-law after marriage. A satisfactory solution to this problem requires a comprehensive analysis on a case-by-case basis. Specifically, whether you can accept living with your parents-in-law after marriage depends on the relationship between yourself and your parents-in-law, whether you can adapt to each other's living habits, and whether you can have a relatively independent living space.

1. The relationship between yourself and your parents-in-law is the key to whether you can accept living with them.

After getting married, whether you can live with your parents-in-law and live in a green shed is the key factor in the relationship between yourself and them. This question is actually very easy to understand. Specifically, if you have a harmonious relationship with your parents-in-law, then there is no obstacle to living with them, and you can get a lot of care from them after marriage, which will be extremely beneficial to your happy life after marriage.

2. Whether the living habits can adapt to each other is an important factor in whether you can live with your parents-in-law after marriage.

An important factor that affects the life of living with my parents-in-law after marriage is whether they can adapt to each other's living habits. Because the age gap is very large, there must be a very big difference in the living habits between myself and my parents-in-law. If you don't fit in with each other in this area, it's hard to live together.

Only when they can adapt to each other's living habits and tolerate each other, can it be possible to live with their parents-in-law after marriage.

3. Whether you can have an independent living space is the decisive factor for whether you can live with your parents-in-law after marriage.

Even if you and your parents-in-law are in harmony and your living habits can adapt to each other, it cannot ensure the harmony and happiness of living together after the marriage. There is also a decisive factor in this, that is, whether you can have a relatively independent living space, so as to avoid your life being disturbed, and you can have a life that truly belongs to you. The ideal state is to live in the same building with your parents-in-law, but they each live in an independent house, so that they can take care of each other and maintain a relatively independent life, which is the most ideal, and they can definitely accept this kind of living state with their parents-in-law.