When a husband and wife divorce, is it necessary to take the initiative to give the man the news of

Friend, I think you have to think calmly and objectively about this matter, since you have chosen the path of divorce, if you don't have the idea of remarriage, then you should stick to it, because at the moment of divorce, you have already made a conclusion about the child's future family composition, since it has been unfair to the child, let him adapt to this living environment as soon as possible, because even if the father always comes to see it is just an illusion, I have several friends who are also divorced, they are right, for the sake of the child should be before the divorce, Since you have chosen this path, let the child and me adapt well, if you can't bear his family because of the child, and now you should also think about not planning to remarry, let the child and you quickly adapt to the new life now, incomplete children will lack a lot of things, but the child will always grow up, as long as you guide well, the child will still grow up healthily, including mental health, so my advice to you is, ask your heart, what is the biggest reason, If you really don't have any nostalgia for him, then don't think too much, and the child as soon as possible to adapt to the new life to face the future, if you really think that the child himself is also very dependent on the father, and often mention the father, then for the sake of the child, don't be angry, life is not good to be angry, let go of the past before you can embark on a new road, since you are not a family in the future, why do you have to make yourself angry and uncomfortable for the past things, happy to face the future life, is the performance that you have made the right choice, It's the best way to get revenge on others, and I think you must know that.

If you really want the child to come and see it by himself, if he wants to care about the child, he will take the initiative to contribute money and efforts, and if he doesn't come to see it, it proves that people don't want to see the child and you, you don't want to be bored, you say that not looking at the child is a problem with the man's personality, I think it's not a personality problem or the man's own problem, the bad relationship between the daughter-in-law and the mother-in-law is largely caused by the husband, you better stay away from him.

It's the children who are hurt by divorce! There is no child of an able-bodied family! There will be a shadow in the future! Not good for his growth! You should think more about your children! I think it's your news that should be given to the child's father! For the sake of the children

Why get divorced! Don't let the two of you affect the child! Let's watch and deal with it yourself! It is also difficult for a Qing official to decide family affairs

If he really wants to see the child, he will definitely take the initiative to find you.

Do you feel that life is too peaceful? I don't want to say more.

According to your description, at the time of the divorce by mutual agreement, the custody of the child was in the husband, and the husband pushed the child to you without an agreement or in a lawsuit to change custody without paying child support. In addition, there is a certain personal danger of the child in the man's place, if you want to obtain custody of the child, you can sue to change the custody, so that the court will force the man to pay reasonable child support, so as to give the child a health and safety guarantee. In other words, if you don't want custody of the child, then just send the child back to the man.

Article 1084 of the Civil Code of the People's Republic of China: The relationship between parents and children is not extinguished by the divorce of parents. After divorce, the children are still the children of both parents, regardless of whether they are raised directly by the father or mother. After divorce, parents still have the right and obligation to raise, educate and protect their children.

In the event of a divorce, children under the age of two shall be raised directly by their mothers. For children who have reached the age of two, and the parents fail to reach an agreement on the issue of child support, the people's court is to make a judgment based on the specific circumstances of both parties and in accordance with the principle of the best interests of the minor child. Where children have reached the age of 8, their true intentions shall be respected.

Legal analysis: If it is more conducive to the healthy growth of the child if the child lives with the man, the child can be given to the man in the divorce. According to Article 1 of the "Several Specific Opinions of the Supreme People's Court on the Handling of Child Support Issues in Divorce Cases by People's Courts", children under the age of two generally live with their mothers.

If the mother has any of the following circumstances, she may live with the father:

1) Suffering from incurable infectious diseases or other serious diseases, and the children are not suitable to live with them; (2) The father requires the child to live with him/her;

3) Due to other reasons, the child is unable to live with the mother.

The second shed stipulates that if both parents agree that a child under the age of two years will live with the father and there is no adverse effect on the healthy growth of the child, it may be allowed.

No, the custody of the children under the age of two is generally the woman's, and the husband and wife over the age of 2 agree on the ownership of the custody, and if the agreement fails, there is a court judgment.

Under the Marriage Act

Article 36: The relationship between parents and children shall not be extinguished by the divorce of parents. After divorce, the child remains the child of both parents, regardless of whether they are raised directly by the parent or the parent. After divorce, parents still have the right and obligation to raise and educate their children.

After divorce, the child who is breastfeeding shall be raised with the nursing mother. If the two parties cannot reach an agreement due to a dispute over the custody of a child after breastfeeding, the people's court shall make a judgment based on the rights and interests of the child and the specific circumstances of both parties.

Article 37: After divorce, the other party shall bear part or all of the necessary living expenses and education expenses for the children raised by one party, and the amount of the expenses and the length of the period shall be agreed upon by both parties; If the agreement is not reached, the people's court shall make a judgment. An agreement or judgement concerning the maintenance and education of the child shall not prevent the child from making a reasonable demand to either parent, if necessary, in excess of the amount originally agreed upon in the agreement or judgment.

Legal Analysis: If the child is raised by the man after the divorce, the woman's main responsibility is to pay child support until the child has the ability to live independently.

Legal basis: Civil Code of the People's Republic of China

Article 1076:Where both husband and wife divorce voluntarily, they shall sign a written divorce agreement and apply in person to the marriage registration authority for registration of divorce and marriage.

The divorce agreement shall clearly state the parties' expression of intent to divorce voluntarily and the consensus on matters such as child support, property, and debt handling.

Article 1079:Where one of the husband and wife requests a divorce, the relevant organization may conduct mediation or directly initiate divorce proceedings in the people's court.

People's courts hearing divorce cases shall conduct mediation; If the relationship has indeed broken down and mediation is ineffective, the divorce shall be granted.

In any of the following circumstances, if mediation fails, a divorce shall be granted:

1) bigamy or cohabitation with another person;

2) Committing domestic violence or abusing or abandoning family members;

3) Having bad habits such as gambling and drug addiction that they have repeatedly taught and not changing;

4) Separated for two years due to emotional discord;

5) Other circumstances that lead to the breakdown of the relationship between the husband and wife.

Where one party is declared missing and the other party initiates divorce proceedings, the divorce shall be granted.

Where, after a people's court has ruled that divorce is not permitted, the parties have been separated for one year, and one party initiates divorce proceedings again, the divorce shall be granted.