Need vs. want, want rather than need

Need is basic and want is luxury.

When necessary, basic desires are extravagant.

A beautiful house is meant to make a warm home even more luxurious.

If you don't have it, you can't survive what you need, and if you have something you want, you want it.

Bread can fill the hungry Tomato sauce can make the taste better.

Just close your eyes and think about it, without this thing, would you be able to live as a human being?

Like food, clothing, shelter and transportation are all needed; What you dream of is what you want; Things that should be done, such as: it is necessary to live well; Desire refers to the moderation of the pursuit of something.

With money, you can buy a house, but you can't buy a home.

With money, you can buy clocks and watches, but not time.

With money, you can buy a bed, but you can't buy enough sleep.

With money, you can buy books, but you can't buy knowledge.

With money, you can buy medical care. But you can't buy health.

With money, you can buy status. But respect cannot be bought.

With money , you can buy blood. But you can't buy life.

With money, you can buy sex. But you can't buy love.

Will I leave it aside for the time being, I just think this passage is really meaningful. Money is of course important to people, firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea, everything has to be bought by money, but money is by no means omnipotent, is it?

If you want to, you don't have to, you don't have to, you can live without this

Yes, but there must be.

Calmly think about what you need in the future, not what you need now, the people or the goal is the future!

For example, you are thirsty and want a glass of water.

You're tired and need some sleep.

For example, for the sake of family, friendship, love must be paid.

Or for example, wanting to get what you want creates desire.

Sometimes we get stuck and feel like we have no choice and no way out, because we confuse the precondition as "want" or "need".

What is wanted? Wanting is an expression of our inner desires, and it may bring us conditional self-esteem, happiness, a full and abundant life, and a sense of satisfaction, but it is not necessary for life.

Need is a necessity in life. We need food and water to maintain normal physiology, we need shelter to keep us safe, and we need a certain amount of clothing to keep us warm. Necessity is a necessary condition for our existence and the foundation of our life.

Desires that go beyond the scope of need are what we want.

Many times our dilemma is that we regard the satisfaction of our desires as essential, and without our life there is no value in existence.

For example, love makes us worry and suffer from worrying all the time, but in fact, whether the other party really loves me or not, I don't need his love, but I want to get his love, that's all.

In the same way, the recognition and respect of others, the enjoyment of luxury or comfort, and the same is true of career success.

That's why it's so important to understand the idea that we want rather than need.

In my opinion, this view is a very good reversal of our dominance in the matter. When we have desires for the outside world, and the importance of this desire for us is unconsciously raised to the level of "need", we invisibly hand over the control of our lives to the outside world, the person we desire to love us, the group that I want to gain recognition and respect from, the career that I want to succeed.

And what do we want? When we realize this, the dominance and choice of nature falls back into our own hands. Yes, the most important choice in life is back.

I want your love, I want your approval and respect, I want to succeed, so even if I don't get it, it doesn't really affect my personal value, because my existence as a person is not related to these things, I don't need them.

When I have this concept, I can be a hedonistic on the one hand, pursue love, recognition, respect and success, and on the other hand, I can clearly know what I need and what I can let go.

It allows us to know that not needing success and love and not being able to achieve it does not diminish my importance. It only makes me a person who can't get what I want for a while.

Obtaining is a process, not an inevitable state of life. Life is a process that is constantly flowing and changing, and there are no labels that can define us, and there are no desires that can enslave us.

Embracing desire, rather than being driven by desire, is probably a good commentary on this concept.

Read the essay "Accept Yourself Unconditionally".

The day before yesterday, when I was counseling, I told the counselor about my "Lu Defeat Love Yourself" action, and the counselor said that he was happy for me, but I suddenly said, "But I haven't done mindfulness for a long time." ”

The counselor asked me why I suddenly had a sudden turn in mood and wanted to say something bad.

I was silent. Then I reacted, I thought that in a perfect love for oneself program, there should be mindfulness, how good is mindfulness, close to yourself, relax, anywhere.

But I really don't like it.

It's a "should" do, not a "want" of me.

And in an environment where I fully and unconditionally accept and love myself, there is no need for any so-called "should", no so-called "right", only I "want", I "love", and I "deserve".

Yes, maybe some of the beings of mindfulness, for example, are really good, really worthwhile, but the unwillingness at this moment is not appropriate, not needed, not worth it. Why do so many people know so many truths but can't live a good life, because no matter how right the truth is, the timing is wrong, the emotion is wrong, and the state is wrong.

Since I would be happier without mindfulness in my current yearning for the future, then no, if you want to live right, wouldn't it be boring.

Let the "should" voices fuck off!

Need is the desire for things, and want is the desire for things;

1. Yes. 1) There should be, there must be; Necessary, justified.

Children need milk.

2) Desires or requests for things.

Economic needs.

Proceeding from the needs of war.

2. Want: yearn for it; Fervently hopeful.

A few days ago, I saw a passage on the Internet, "You may never get what you want, but after a period of hard work, you will eventually get what you need." ”

This remark made Xun quite educated. "Need" and "want" are sometimes two completely different concepts.

So, what do people "need" and what will they "want" to be human?

In this nature, the benevolent see the benevolent, and the wise see the wise. If someone is foolish, not hungry or cold, well-rested, and equal in dignity, this is what everyone needs.

As for what you want, it's too much to talk about. As small as a toy, as big as the "Dragon Aotian" in the fantasy, it dominates the world. That's what people want.

Wisdom like you, think about it, and find the contradiction. Sometimes there is a conflict between what people want and what they need.

For example, the dignity and equality that everyone needs sometimes conflicts with the "superiority" that some people want.

This contradiction is the source of suffering, leading to confusion, love and hate, and tearful exchanges.

Take the turbidity of wanting to be "superior" in everything as an example, because of this ignorant thought, I don't know how many times I have lost my dignity.

Because the idea of "superiority" was too urgent, when I was young, I longed for wealth, fame and fortune quickly, and even chose to flatter and please myself in order to get them.

In the end, they were the first to lose their dignity and be "inferior".

Can you really get it regardless of dignity? There are many licking dogs in this world, and most of them are ignored, belittled, and despised by them.

Occasionally, a few of those licking dogs can be promoted. That's why they have other talents and are beneficial to others.

In other words, they didn't have to. Scholars turn turbidity.

The greatest luck in life is not to pick up money or meet someone who touches you a lot of money, but to meet a person or a book, who breaks your thinking, improves your cognition, and allows you to embark on a higher latitude platform, and then improve your inner realm, understand what you are pursuing in your life, otherwise you will be busy and false to live your life, go and come, come and go, sink into it and experience immeasurable reincarnation.

In this life, we will always pursue what we need first, and on this basis, we will pursue what we want. For example, if I need very little and even less for my limbs, then my heart will be very peaceful, joyful, and tranquil, and I will be able to settle down in the present moment. On the other hand, if you want more and need more, it will naturally be painful to talk about it in your heart, because you have met one you want, and there are countless things you want and need, and desire is an unfillable demon, and the boundlessness makes it crazy for the rest of your life.