How can we remember someone more thoroughly?

If you don't love me and remember me, then please forget me Because I don't want to embarrass the person I love, no matter how sad it is If you don't love me, please disappear in front of me immediately, or I disappear Because I don't want to look at those charming eyes anymore, it will only make my heart ache Perhaps, if you don't love me, I will live happily, provided that: the rest of my life is without you, except for memories Maybe you don't love me, I will be unable to extricate myself, but no one will care, a lonely life may be the best, although sad, But never regret loving Because it's worth loving me, but it's not worth cherishing Life is only once, but there are countless times of love, but there will always be one time when you love the most If it's two loves, please cherish it If the other person doesn't love you, please forget after deep love If you are loved by someone deeply, but you don't love the other person, tell that person to forget yourself. It's done, I think it's good to remember (if you have any questions, please ask.)

To say that you are completely forgetting the past is deceiving yourself and others, and as long as you have a little bit of something that can be linked to the past, you will not be able to forget the past. Don't run away, it's useless to regret it. Is that right?

Isn't there a saying that says? You may meet someone in 1 second, fall in love with someone in 1 day, but forget someone in a lifetime. That's love!

Deliberately forget, will remember deeper, so don't deliberately forget, since you want to forget her, it means that the traces she has left in your heart should be relatively deep, let everything tend to be flat, what to do and what to do, don't let yourself often be alone and think hard, as time goes by, you will slowly forget, and forgetting is not something that can be forgotten by talking about it, but also to see what type of person you belong to, If you are emotional, it is best to find something or activity that can attract your attention to distract your emotional fluctuations; Or go crazy with your best friends and forget about your play. It's best not to listen to any love songs, otherwise you will backfire. I don't know about the other types, you have to face everything by yourself, no one can help you in it, go your own way.

If you want to forget someone, he may have hurt you, maybe there are other reasons, you have to try to find out if you are sad, or other aspects and the reason why you want to forget, if you really want to forget someone, you have to learn to give up something, let your heart open, instead of thinking about it often, you will definitely think about it occasionally, this is also inevitable, right, time will make you slowly forget , if you really love him so much, you have to spend your whole life to forget, if you don't want to forget, please hide love deep in your heart Hope you are happy and happy!

In fact, to tell the truth, love has hurt and hurt, it is not easy to completely forget, and there are a few people who can really forget, it may be absolutely impossible, and they are also deceiving themselves, some memories can only be buried deep in the mind forever, just use time to slowly forget, love can be a momentary thing, or it can be a lifetime thing. Leave because of love, give up because of love. It may sound great, but who can truly give up for love?

Just learn to give up. Some people or some things, inadvertently missed or lost in the years of time, occasionally pick up the memories, will spontaneously give birth to a wisp of romantic feelings recalling the past, it contains a sense of seeing things and thinking about people, the sigh of the past. Love hurts, it hurts so much that I cry, so I choose to let go, letting go is a helpless despair, and it hurts my heart.

When the people who once really loved the release of life were about to meet strangers, they suddenly realized that what they thought was eternally long, in fact, it was just a meeting in Pingshui. I once thought that I could hold hands all the way down like this, but let go to understand that everything is just the accidental intersection of two parallel lines, when everything disappears, the parallel lines are still parallel, even if they are not far apart, it is also the end of the world, the price of bravery is to let go of themselves first, admit failure, accept helplessness, sigh softly, helplessly wish them happiness, from then on, if the heart stops, it is difficult to make waves. In fact, it is impossible to completely forget a person quickly, and it is also deceiving yourself, just keeping the deep affection in the memory and forgetting the pain of the past, because the most beautiful blessing is to remember a person, the best hard work is to think of a person will cry, the greatest satisfaction is what you give, and love will become unforgettable after suffering something.

How to effectively forget a person you want to forget, fall out of love, the more you don't think about a person, the more you think of the other person. The more you try to forget something, the more you can't forget it. What's going on? How can we forget? Let's talk about it.

Let's start with what's going on?

Follow what I said, "Please don't imagine an apple. "Do you think about it, you can't control yourself not to think about it. When you try not to think about something, you think more than when you don't control your mind, and more than when you think about it, suppressing your instincts is counterproductive.

This is the White Bear Effect, an experiment by the American social psychologist Daniel Wegener. He asks a group of people not to imagine a white bear, and the result is that people can't get rid of the white bear in their minds. This interesting phenomenon is the White Bear Effect.

In general, people can be distracted and keep disliked thoughts out of their minds. But when you deliberately don't think about it, your mind will stop from time to time to wonder if I'm thinking about things I shouldn't be thinking about again. And then you will remember again.

Wegener says it has to do with how the brain processes the "don't think" instruction. This instruction is divided into two parts, one is the brain control system, which is to make you not think about it. One is the brain self-control monitoring system, which is to find all kinds of evidence to prove whether you are thinking again.

The monitoring system is automatic, as long as you have the subjective consciousness not to think, he will start to monitor whether you have to think again, which forces you to think again.

So what to do?

The first is to give up self-control, and when you stop trying to control people and things that you don't want to think about, they won't bother you anymore. It may sound a bit paradoxical, but allowing you to think about one thing will instead reduce the likelihood that you will remember it.

But that's just the way it is. Thinking about what you think and following your feelings is the quickest way to forget.

Second: Accept that you will remember and keep yourself busy. Find something you like to do, and if you think of it inadvertently, you will think about it.

After thinking about it, move on to things. The human self-control system is singular and can only control one thing at a time. Now that you have what you need to do, you don't think about it every day.

Third: go with the flow.

The best way to truly forget one thing is to go with the flow. Don't forget something, pay attention to your daily life and work, and forget it after a long time. We can only try to remember, and forgetting can only conform to nature, which is the law of thinking.