The child drops something for a trivial matter

Some of our parents will tell their children, you drop things, how wasteful things are broken; If you hit a child, it will hurt a child, and it is not right to hit someone. This way of reasoning is not very acceptable to the baby at this cognitive stage. Then we need to stop reasoning first and empathize with the child first.

For example, when we see a child's toy being robbed, and he is very angry and wants to throw something or hit someone, we can walk over and squat down to eye level with the child, and then gently hug the child, or hold the child's little hand, and tell the child - Mom sees that your fists are clenched tightly and your face is swollen and red, Mom guesses that you must be very angry when you are robbed of the toy.

When we describe the child's state in this way, and give the child a name for his anger, the child will feel that he is being seen. At the same time, this gentle description and empathy will also let the child know that his emotions are allowed, and he can have negative emotions when he is frustrated, which will make him more accepting of his negative emotions in adulthood, rather than avoiding suppression. It is normal for the baby to lose his temper and vent his anger, we must learn to empathize with the child, and then tell the child that his mother understands these emotions, but it is not right to attack outward at will.

Children crave someone to listen to them, but they only know how to express themselves by throwing tantrums. Look at the child seriously, ask him what is wrong, listen carefully to his response, maybe it helps, hold him, give him full attention and give them time to explain, this is not to say that the child will give what he wants, but to listen to him in a respectful way, just like you would with others. You can distract him, and then calmly think about the problem from the child's point of view.

Distract him, but don't lie to him, tell her that you love him and are willing to help him. Give your child freedom to a certain extent and help your child get through the first rebellious period. When your child is frustrated and emotional, don't suppress it, you can encourage your child to express frustration and anger in words and release negative emotions.

When the child falls something, parents should stop the child in time, such behavior should also tell the child, this practice is not right, to give the child some punishment, after the child calms down, parents should tell the child that falling things can not solve any problem.

Or are you spoiling your child too much, you should have taught him not to throw things when he lost his temper when he was young. When he first dropped something, you should have said him. Otherwise, he made it a habit to drop things.

In life, you should tell your child that this is particularly unreasonable and impolite, and may even make others particularly annoying and tell your child about the disadvantages of doing so.