Deng Chao wants to rest for his daughter! How do modern parents balance work and family?

As the old saying goes", ".You can't have it both waysThe same applies to modern parents when dealing with the balance between career and family.

Family and career, either give up the career for the sake of the family, or ignore the family for the sake of the career. In fact, this is the question of how to choose between the fish and the bear's paw. If you want to balance your career and family, you need to have two prerequisites, either you have strong economic strength to back you up, or you have super ability to do capital.

Otherwise, everything will be empty talk.

For Deng Chao, years of hard work have accumulated enough economic strength. Even if it is temporary, it will not bring financial difficulties to the family, and even if Deng Chao chooses to retire, the wealth he has accumulated over the years can also be used for investment and financial management, even if he does not work, he can still earn money, but the speed of wealth accumulation has slowed down.

According to Maslow's hierarchy of needs, people must first solve low-level needs before they can breed high-level needs。That is to say, we must first solve the physical needs such as eating, drinking, and Lazar before we are qualified to consider the higher level of spiritual needs. And for those who do not have the accumulation of economic strength, the most important thing is to let the family fill their stomachs, not starve and freeze, and survive first.

To talk about giving up work to spend time with children in such a situation is pure nonsense. Without income**, does the family want to drink the northwest wind!

I don't like it very much that some people who claim to be experts will blame the parents of those left-behind children at every turn, saying that they only know how to earn money, but lack the company of their children, which is not worth the loss. Theories are always based on reality, just imagine, are those parents willing to leave their homes to work in a foreign land? Don't they want to accompany their children to take care of the elderly?

But if they don't go out for a day to earn money, the whole family will starve. Survival first is the last word, and everything else is in vain.

For ordinary people, if they want to balance their family and career, and they don't have enough family foundation, they must have superhuman abilities. For example, you can work from home on your own, such as opening a **, doing a micro-business, self-starting, opening online classes, etc., which can not only take care of children, but also take care of income. If your own conditions are not suitable for working from home, you can only sacrifice the time you spend with your children and go out to work obediently.

The reality is so cruel, either you have a family background or you have the ability, otherwise it is a luxury to want to accompany your children.

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<>So how do modern parents balance their work and family?

First of all, you must be clear about your life values, know what you want, and plan your life, so you must be clear about which is the most important work or family? For example, my family now has two children in primary school, the curriculum is getting tighter and tighter, the most important thing for me at the moment is to support the children's learning and growth, so I put the most important 80% of the time into the children's education, the rest of the time is for study and work, my own plan for myself is to do a good job of backing the children and family within 5 years, and at the same time self-internal growth, to better support the growth of myself and others. When I was able to settle down in the present, I found that the family was more harmonious, the children were more able to be their authentic selves, and I felt that the atmosphere of the whole family was different.

Secondly, we need to objectively analyze our actual situation, and we need the understanding and support of our family members.

The family needs us to clarify everyone's position in the family, and the family needs everyone to be able to contribute some strength, so how to pull everyone in the family to move and pay for the family together is the most important. At the same time, many times we may have to take care of both because of economic pressure, which requires us to work hard, try to get the work done during work, return home to take care of the children with peace of mind, and the elderly with their partners to handle the relationship, accompany the healthy growth of the children, let the children feel the love and support of their parents, and the family is more joyful. It's also a good choice.

Therefore, adjust our state and take care of both, so that we can do both work and family.

How do modern parents balance work and family? In fact, this problem has always bothered some workaholics, because they do not know how to arrange work, so that work and family are often mixed, so that the quality of life declines. So how to deal with the relationship between work and family?

1) First of all, the two do not interfere. In other words, when working, there is no family factor. When you go home, don't bring home the emotions from your work.

I usually go home at night and don't bring back the events from my work. I never do anything at work when I go home, for the simple reason that I can relax and devote myself to work better the next day. If I have to work overtime sometimes, I'll be sure to finish my work at work and go home.

When you get home, get a good rest and never talk about work.

2) Do your best to work and live with all your heart. You must be diligent and diligent in your work, and don't be serious because of a small problem, or complain or say cool things. Only with care and diligence can the work be done well.

In life, let the family have a warm love. Only by doing our best to do a good job in work and life can we handle the relationship between the two. As a result, work is smooth, and family life is smooth.

The family is harmonious, and the work is even more motivated. So, both separate and connected, that's work and family.

In short, the relationship between work and family has been handled. Your relationships, your customer relationships, your subordinate relationships, will all give you better prospects. Family is the foundation of work, and it is also a driving force for progress.

Therefore, it is often said that behind a successful man there is a successful woman. That's true, but if you know how to put yourself in the position of work and family, you can handle everything better.

When the money is almost earned, don't be so busy that you can't even take care of your family, you can rest. Life is not only about making money, but also about poetry and distance. Stop, accompany parents, accompany children, and feel the quiet years.

As a parent, the best state is to be able to set off at any time to struggle, and you can also stop and spend your days at the right time.

However, for the average person, these are easier said than done. As an ordinary person, I can only take care of my busy time, taking care of work and family, and taking care of both.

We know that modern parents are generally very stressed, both old and young. To support a family, to provide a house, to provide a car. The education expenses of children and the pension expenses of the elderly are all pressed on the middle-aged self.

It is difficult to have parents like Deng Chao, who can say in a chic way that they will put down their work first, return to their families, and accompany their children. It's also unrealistic. Therefore, in many families, both parents go to work to earn money, and the elderly watch their children at home.

The old, the young, the whole family works together to live.

Of course, as an ordinary person, it is also common for the husband to work outside the home and the wife to watch the children at home. It's nothing more than the husband working harder, the wife saving a little more, and carrying the life together. Only self-knowledge is warm and cold.

In the case of economic prosperity, if you want to achieve a balance between work and family, you can only rely on the cooperation of husband and wife and the help of the elderly. The only pleasure is being able to take the kids out on Sundays, eat something good, etc. The greatest joy of ordinary people living is the moment of reunion with their families, watching the children lively, the elderly healthy, and then having the courage to struggle.

Being a parent is a lifelong struggle for a family. When he raised his son, the old man was sent away, and he was old. The family is not sick or sick, and the work is profitable, so it is a good life.

For a better life, we can only run desperately. Once in a while, stop and take a break, and happiness is it.

Deng Chao posted a small ** on Weibo on the 22nd, with the comment "I decided to retire and be a full-time father". ** Deng Chao's daughter Xiaohua cried on Deng Chao's shoulder, not wanting her father to go to work. Sun Li also teased in the comment area:

Men shouldn't let women cry. ”

Deng Chao and Sun Li are a model couple in the entertainment industry, and their acting careers have developed well. Now, Deng Chao has transformed into a director and drama, and his latest movie "Galaxy Cram School" has just been released during the eleventh holiday. Both of them are busy with their careers, so they naturally can't devote themselves to their families, which is probably the reason why Xiaohua's sister is reluctant to let her father go to work.

In modern society, if a husband and wife work full-time, once there are children at home, it is inevitable that their parents will help take care of them, and even if they hire a nanny, they will also need family members to take care of them. This is also a helpless move for many couples, giving up their careers and how to support their children; Constantly making money and ignoring the growth of children will not only cause problems in the parent-child relationship, but also leave a lot of regrets in life.

So how do modern parents balance work and family?

First of all, parents should try to stay with their children for the first 3 years after birth. When parents leave their children for more than a week, they can bury the original trauma in their children. At this time, parents should minimize the travel schedule that is too long.

If you have to do it, for example, if an actor has passed this popular time, his career will suffer a big setback, and he must run for his career, then he must also create opportunities to get along with his children and do his best.

Secondly, conventionally speaking, couples often need one party to make concessions, take care of the family more, and choose a relatively stable job.

In modern society, parents are working hard in a fast-paced life and fast-paced work. Especially Deng Chao, a first-line star like them, who received a soft hand in the play, and had no extra time to spend with their families and children.

First, if you are a woman, you must not sacrifice yourself for the sake of your family. Women also have self-esteem, self-confidence, self-reliance, and self-improvement, as a modern woman, no matter what kind of work you do, you must have your own job, don't be a housewife who wears clothes and stretches out her mouth to eat. Although your husband may not have said anything at the time, but after a long time, I don't think anyone thinks that a yellow-faced woman who can only cook at home and clean up the house and take care of her children is a good wife and mother.

Second, if you go out to work and have children at home, as part of the family, you have to learn to balance family and work. No matter how busy you are at work, you have to set aside part of your time to spend with your child, don't miss his growth process, no matter how busy your life is, you have to set aside part of your experience to take care of your family, accompany your husband, and even take care of the elderly on both sides, these are all things you must take into account. Don't lose yourself because of your family, and don't forget your family because of your work.

Third, in fact, whether it is at work or at home with children, it is not easy to work, to counsel and care for the growth of children, to take care of the elderly on both sides, and of course, to care for yourself. That's how you're going to work with your significant other. The power of two people is always much stronger than one.

Fourth, we need to learn to self-regulate, and how to do everything depends on how you regulate your time. Everyone's time is limited, we have to allocate our limited time reasonably, when we are in the unit, we work wholeheartedly, and on Sunday we have to play with the children and go shopping. Don't forget to give your family a new piece of clothing during the holidays, and you can also find a time to watch a movie and relax in the evening.

Life is to live out, not to worry, so what we need to do is to let our minds relax and deal with the next things in peace.

Deng Chao was born in a reorganized family, his ancestral home is Nanchang, Jiangxi, his father is a museum secretary, his mother is a factory cadre, his mother takes his eldest sister, his father takes his eldest brother and second sister, and then he combines Deng Chao.

From 2003 to 2005, Deng Chao's father and eldest sister fell ill one after another, which made Deng Chao fall into a low ebb period of not picking up dramas in order to raise medical expenses. At the beginning of 2011, Deng Chao's father died, and since then, Deng Chao has cherished and filial piety to his mother and spent time outside of work to accompany her.