Want to know about the reasons why you want to get married and why you don t want to get married 30

Why take it so seriously.

I feel that my love wants to give her a sublimation of love, which is marriage.

To get love, after all, you have to pay for this love, after all, this love has to have results, all love and emotions get results, and when you get the results, you have to find something to interpret these and carry these things.

So marriage is needed.

If there is love, if you handle it well, if you can resist all external interference, marriage is the beginning of you.

The beginning of a happier journey.

Female Married That's what I really think.

To be honest, I really want to get married, and as soon as I go home, I will have my own lover, and I feel that my life has settled down, but now I am still at a loss for the future.

Male students.

I want to get married, I want to have a family, male, unmarried 27

Age 21 male Not married.

It's good to have an object relationship! I don't want to get married yet! I want to live a better life and have a warm home after marriage!

25 years old is about the same age. I have a boyfriend who has known me for 9 years and talked about for 4 years. So it's the wedding building.

Without the longing for love in his early 20s, I may have heard more and had a more realistic attitude towards marriage. Now I just want to find a man who loves himself and can read him, and live the life of ordinary people. Female, unmarried, 29

I have always been reluctant to marry for the following reasons:

1. There is no money at home, and the financial pressure is too great.

There is not enough money to find a partner. Because now marriage is becoming more and more demanding for men. Usually dating in love, eating, watching movies, buying bags, giving gifts, etc., all ask men to pay for it, which is okay.

The key is that now marriage requires a house and a car, which is the source of everyone's anxiety. For a person who has worked for several years, the house price is so high, the pressure to buy a house is huge, without the help of family members, it is very difficult to buy a house on your own, I used to think that it was a shameful thing to gnaw at the old, but now you have to gnaw at the old.

2. I am still a child.

Now many of them are only children, and they have been pampered since they were children, and their independence is relatively poor. In addition, many of them are in school, and they have little contact with society, so they are simply a child who has not grown up.

I've seen people in their 30s who don't even know how to wash their own clothes. How can a person who has not grown up himself think about getting married and have the courage to take on the responsibilities of a family. Many people say that she is still young, but in fact she is really young.

Compared with our parents, who began to earn money and bear the burden of a family when they were teenagers, today's children are not allowed to do this and that from a young age, and they have long lost the space for self-growth. As a parent, while scolding the child for being useless, but on the other hand, he does everything for himself, and does not let the child learn and grow at all.

To tell a real joke around me, once the top student in the college class had a roommate's evaluation in the ** of the first prize Hengzhen scholarship application, which said "I can't take care of myself in life". For many parents, academic performance is more important than anything else, but children's growth is not only about academic performance.

3. Personality problems.

Many people are introverted and rarely take the initiative to communicate with others, especially for the opposite sex, without topics. And the school will not teach you how to communicate with others, but only your academic performance. As long as you have good academic performance, your teachers are happy and your parents are happy.

As for the cultivation of emotional intelligence, financial intelligence, etc., it is not as important as the academic performance ranking.

Now that universities have become popular, if you study for a doctorate, you will be 30 years old after graduation, and you will already be old before you work. Moreover, if you read too many books, you can easily become a nerd, and there are a lot of single older young people who are not low in terms of academic qualifications. But most of the time in their lives, except for reading books, they rarely have contact with the opposite sex, and they don't even know how to get along with others and how to chat with others.

For them, finding a partner is really much more difficult than taking an exam.

Reason 1: I can't find the right person.

It may be a lack of interpersonal skills, the ability to establish relationships with the opposite sex, or it may be a low psychological age, feeling immature enough, afraid of responsibilities in the adult world, and afraid that they will not be able to bear it. This is rare, but it does exist. Most of them are affected by Tong Conghong's experience in the past few years, and he can get better or recover after receiving formal psychological counseling.

Reason 2: Economic pressure.

After getting married, there is pressure to have a house, decorate, have a baby, raise a baby, and go to school. The standard of living is different now than before, and in the past, ten yuan could support the family for a whole day. Now, a hundred yuan can't support a family's expenses for a whole day, and education, medical care, and housing prices are all the majority.

If you don't think about having children after getting married, the quality of life should not decline, and if you plan to have children, you can't afford to raise them. In addition, young people have a lot of work pressure, and their income cannot support a large family, and economic problems are actually the main problem.

Reason 3: Self-consciousness awakening.

As women have their own independent financial ability at work, women develop self-esteem, self-confidence, and self-charm. I have the scenery I want to see, my favorite clothes, bags, mobile phones, and food. If you get married, part of your income will be used for family expenses.

Especially when women and men have the same income, for example, women with a monthly salary of 8,000 feel that the men with a monthly salary of 8,000 are unremarkable, which also affects the view of some women in choosing a mate.

So for these reasons, everyone naturally doesn't want to get married.

What makes you stay single because you don't want to get married? With a lot of young people don't want to get married, the marriage rate in our country is getting lower and lower every year, many people are afraid of marriage, they either never want to get married, so they are about to get married and suddenly don't want to get married, so what are the reasons for not wanting to get married?

First, the influence of the family from which he was born.

Growing up in a warm home environment, children will know how to express their feelings better. On the contrary, children who grow up in discordant family environments will have problems in interpersonal relationships, such as not knowing how to handle arguments, deliberately avoiding the kindness of others, and so on. Maybe it's because your family didn't provide you with a harmonious environment to grow up in, or because your parents didn't set a good example for you, and you are disappointed in the marital relationship and don't know what to do.

Second, the fear of uncertainty about the future.

The meaning of marriage is to support each other in life, and two people should not only share, but also give. In this process, we should share the joy and pain together. But obviously, you don't have much faith in the future, you don't even know what your life will look like, and you're not sure what your life together will look like.

This uncertainty about the future makes you uneasy about marriage, and you want to know : Is marriage a good decision?

Third, being single for a long time is easy to become addicted.

Everyone has the experience of being single, and there are thousands of ways to entertain in today's society, and many people can find various ways to entertain themselves in the process of being single. Conscientiousness at work and indulgence at work are naturally more in line with the fast-paced lifestyle of today's times. A variety of short-term entertainment methods are more likely to make people addicted.

Some people will feel uncomfortable in life after being single for a long time, not only the rhythm of life has changed, but also the dislike of each other's shortcomings.

Fourth, there is a lack of heart and weakness in dealing with marriage.

It's not that they can't find a suitable marriage partner or they don't have the financial strength, but the most basic house of marriage often means despair for them, our necessities have been rising, and the meager wages are not enough to make ends meet, let alone build a better life after marriage. "Poor couples mourn everything", they are only one economic reason away from marriage. As a result, he was reluctant to be single, and as he got older, marriage changed from a hope to a luxury.

Over time, it is bound to dispel the idea of getting married, rather than boasting about the father chasing the sun, it is better to be single with high quality, after all, whether you are married or not, you have your own advantages and disadvantages, the key is to choose and adjust your mentality.

There are Nansheng girls who can do high, don't be wronged to cater to the world, and be brave to be yourself! There are so many reasons why you don't want to get married, in fact, there are thousands of reasons, they are just excuses, and the real reason is that you haven't met the right person for you! May you be happy!

There are many reasons why modern young people are reluctant to get married, such as work pressure, housing pressure, life pressure, loan pressure, and support for the elderly.

With the development of the economy, although the standard of living is much higher, modern young people are facing unprecedented pressure, they dare not fall in love, and even their own survival is a problem, let alone dare to think about starting a family. If you have money, no one wants to be single, which is caused by many pressures.

In the past, the carriage and horses were very slow, the mail was very slow, and there was only enough time to love one person in a lifetime. However, modern love comes and goes quickly!

The kinder party paid money and time, but in the end ended up with a "lack of people and money", the risk cost of marriage increased, and the former staring Pei has been consumed to the fullest. Modern young people really don't dare to get married casually, unless they are really very rich and have always had the ability to support their families, otherwise they just raised their husbands (daughters-in-law) for others, and in the end the gains outweigh the losses, there are too many people who are spare tires!

Even if a person finds a second marriage, it is raising children for others, not biological children, no matter what, people will still find their biological parents when they grow up.

In the past, marriages were very simple, a cow, a sheep, or even a dustpan was the size of a bean or a sack of sweet potatoes. Today's love, the three major pieces (house, car, ticket) are all indispensable. In the past, it was all about feelings, but now it's all about silver.

If you have less silver, you don't dare to get married, and if you have more silver, you will have confidence, which can be described as "drought and waterlogging".

Young people, without capital, really dare not step into marriage, just like some girls say: "Your little silver is not as expensive as my box of cosmetics!" ”

Although the young boy has a smile on his face, only he knows the pain and pain in his heart. Others are persuading you to get married, but in fact they can't help.

Take marriage as an example, a house costs millions, a car costs hundreds of thousands, and a gift money costs hundreds of thousands.