Regarding my son s troubles, why am I annoyed when my son is close to me?

Repeated mistakes show that he is not afraid of punishment and is not self-motivated.

I think that if you want to change his attitude, you can't focus on his shortcomings, I think you should start with his strengths, for example, he has strong self-care ability, you can praise him more, let him go from doing his own housework to taking the initiative to help the family. As long as he establishes a sense of honor and is self-motivated, he will perform well in all aspects.

If you want your child to learn well, you can't just let him pay attention to his academic performance, he is enthusiastic about participating in class activities, or likes to help others, and even likes to play ball is a necessary part of his growth.

Now that your child is still a little introverted, you can't use traditional education methods to restrain him, otherwise it will pull out the seedlings and help them grow, and the desire will not reach it quickly.

Then you avoid your uneasiness first.

I have time to talk to him, but it's not serious. A lot of jokes. Let him participate in any decision made by the family.

Let him know that you value his decisions as well. Seek more from him for experience and advice. In this way, you can understand his thoughts.

It is also possible that he will share his own affairs with you and ask you for advice.

The most important thing is to be calm and do not use a commanding tone and a high tone. It is necessary to create an atmosphere of equality.

As a child, I know what we think. Your son thinks you don't know him and don't love him. So the surface pretends to be a big deal to show that you care.

I think it's only if he's scared that he can't stop doing it. It depends on what your child is afraid of, when I was young, I was afraid of the police, and if I was disobedient, my grandmother said that the police came, and I would be honest. You have to find out what he's afraid of or what he's afraid of.

Start from that aspect. This is not just for children, after all, there are corresponding things to be afraid of when they grow up.

Don't beat or scold him as a parent! Such a child is very fragile in his heart!

You should consult a psychologist! Don't think it's okay to be like this! You are responsible for your children!

If you don't trust me, it's okay, care more about your children, I still feel the need to find a psychiatrist!

Maybe he will find some other way to pour out his heart, such as chatting online, writing letters, etc.

For [lonely, like to be alone. Often absent-minded. Even if there is something, he will not tell me and his friends. ]

You should consult a psychologist.

And it's also likely to be a kind of rebellious psychology among teenagers.

You should make him feel like you are his friend and not his superior. He was lonely because he didn't have a friend to talk to. It's not easy for everyone.

Communicate with him more and find out what he is thinking.

Tell him stories like this and tell him what it will do.

It is said that children are always the treasure in the hearts of parents, I don't understand why you have such a mentality, have you encountered something annoying? Or maybe menopause? If you express your troubles again and again, then the child will see you in the eyes and will do the same to you in the future.

It is said that parents love their children the most and can give everything for them, what is the matter with you? How can your son be annoyed as soon as he gets close to you, in fact, the child is close to you and loves to be close to you, and I want you to love him more, are you encountering any difficulties, even if it is difficult, don't bring emotions to the child, because the child will also be hurt, please love the child more, the child is naughty and more patient to teach.

Probably more annoying lately.

1.First of all, you need to change yourself, communicate with your child on an equal footing, and speak in a calm tone.

2.Do your own things every day, just teach how to do it, don't blame the child for not doing well as you, praise and encourage both good and bad.

3.Recommend a book "A Little Improvement Every Day".

4.In short, you should calm your mood and don't be impatient.

The child is only 4 years old, what does he know. He just knows how to play, how to have fun.

Who is your son?