What is the psychology of the ex husband asking his ex wife to find someone to marry?

It's not that he has to care about you, it's because you have a fate, and there are children, you can't say that you have no feelings at all after divorce, although you won't be together in the future, but he and his mother will definitely pay attention to your future, so I hope you hurry up and start a family and live a good life, to put it bluntly, he still hopes that you can live happily, it can be said that he will do his best to help you if you have difficulties finding him. For you, don't think too much, if it's convenient, you can care about the child, seize the right fate, and then try to make your life better.

It shows that your ex-husband and mother have always had you in their hearts, although you have divorced because of some things, but your position in their hearts has not changed, after all, a husband and wife, I hope you can remarry after divorce, and I also hope that you will live a happier life, if you don't have you in your heart, how can he care if you are not good or bad.

The ex-husband asked his ex-wife to find someone to marry, firstly, out of concern for his ex-wife, hoping that she would find someone to rely on and not take everything on her own. The second is to hope that his ex-wife will not have any illusions about him getting back together, and it is impossible for the two to be together.

Foolish! He said this because he was heartbroken. That person will let his own woman marry.

To put it bluntly, he genuinely feels sorry for himself, and you can't help it. It was you who broke his heart to say that he let you go and let yourself go, don't you understand. You succeeded, you lost a man.

Maybe they feel sorry for you, you didn't find happiness on their side! I want you to be happy if you remarry someone else.

If the ex-husband asks his ex-wife to find someone to marry as soon as possible, then this situation may be because he feels that it is more difficult to live alone in the early stage, so he will let him find a man to marry as soon as possible, so that he can share the burden for him.

Maybe the two of them don't have this kind of relationship now, so the ex-husband will directly let his ex-wife find someone to marry, because he doesn't want to be with his ex-wife anymore, and he doesn't want to be responsible for his ex-wife.

Although you can't be a husband and wife, after all, you are the mother of your children, and he also wants you to live well and have someone to rely on. It's good for the kid and for both parties.

I thought it would be for you to live a good life, and you would raise the children together.

I want you to live a good life.

The psychology of orangutan sympathy! Don't you even understand this?

If you have difficulties in your life after the divorce, I think it's best not to contact your ex-husband, whether the man will mind or not.

A woman must be self-reliant and self-reliant, since she is divorced. No matter what difficulties you encounter, you should never have anything to do with your predecessor. Except, of course, on the issue of children.

This is the bottom line, and it is also the minimum self-esteem that a woman should have. We can imagine that before this man, we would not have lived well, and we could have survived difficulties in the same way.

If I encounter difficulties in my life after divorce, can I still seek help from my ex-husband?

As the saying goes, after a hundred years, you can repair the same boat, and you can sleep together for a thousand years. Coming together to become a husband and wife is also a fate. Therefore, since we have become husband and wife, we must tolerate each other, understand each other, respect each other, and work together to grow old.

But not all couples can stay together until they grow old, and there is no need to be nostalgic for a wrong marriage, and they should quickly cut through the mess and relieve each other.

I believe that unless they have to do so, the husband and wife will not get into the step of divorce. But now that you are divorced, you must be ready for a new life, instead of continuing to entangle with your ex-husband and seek help from your ex-husband at every turn. <>

Would a man mind contacting him upfront?

Such a situation depends on the person, depending on the personality of the man. If he thinks that after all, the two have lived together for a period of time, out of gratitude for this time, he may be morally helpful for his ex-wife's request for help.

But some men will think that since they are divorced, they are not obligated to help their ex-wives. But in either case, I feel that unless the man still wants to get back together, he doesn't want his ex-wife to contact him again. <>

Women must learn to be independent and never entangled.

After the divorce, it means that all the past is over, and everything has to start planning again. When you have difficulties, you can rely on friends and family to help you get through them. Now that you are divorced, let yourself live with more dignity and say goodbye to everything in the past, including your ex-husband. <>

Yes, after all, two people have had some feelings, and even if they are separated, they can be regarded as friends, and they can look for each other's help. They shouldn't mind, because they are broad-minded, and they are willing to help some people around them.

No, because you are divorced, there is no relationship between you anymore, and the other party has forgotten about you, and the man will also mind contacting him in the early stage, and this will also make you feel very depressed.

Of course not, I will definitely mind the early contact, since the two people are divorced, the two have become strangers, there is no need to find each other, even if it is to find their own friends.

I think I can still ask my ex-husband for help, and he won't mind contacting him. On the contrary, he will think that he is still useful.

There is a good saying: as long as all the predecessors do not get along with each other, the world will become a better place.

But there is a kind of ex that you can't "get along with each other when you die", that is, in your current situation, this man and his ex-wife have children, even if they can't be husband and wife, they will have a lifelong "parent" relationship.

With this relationship, there is always a chance of a resurgence.

As long as there is a problem in your relationship, and your ex-wife knows the art of tea.

Using the child card is a storm of wind and rain.

So what should you do? Let me teach you a few tricks.

The first trick, empathetic communication:

You can pretend to be generous and empathetic like this:

In fact, I can also understand, after all, you also have many years of relationship, and you still have the bonds of children, you are happy now;

But if the children and ex-wife are not doing well and there is no one to accompany them, you will also be unbearable, right?

If he says, "Yes, I'm happy now, but if my child isn't happy," I can't bear it.

Then the problem is easy to solve, because because his heart is with you, you can talk to him about the conditions.

You can negotiate with him a way to take care of both you and his children, but there is only one boundary that you can't go to the house with your ex-wife in the name of your children.

If he is silent, it means that it is not because he misses his old feelings, but because he has "new feelings" for his ex-wife. At this point, you can't make terms with him, you have to fight for him and have the leverage to influence him.

How to fight for it?

The second move is to "kick the ball to the opponent":

Husband, I know that you are a kind person, and it is understandable that you have an old affection for your ex-wife, not to mention children, but you and your ex-wife are so close, no matter what you say, I feel very painful, and I have no sense of security.

If I just endure it like this, in the end I have too many emotions, I will easily get angry with you, and in the end our feelings will be hurt, what do you say?

On the other hand, if you think about it, if I had a close relationship with my ex, wouldn't you care?

What if you let me endure it, but I can't bear it?

Let him realize that this road is not working, and he can have the motivation to solve the problem.

The third trick is reflection:

Compared with before marriage, what have you changed from the past, once some women get married, they pay less attention to men, if the man's emotional intelligence is not high, it is easy to find someone to be a "substitute";

If that's the case, you need to resume what you did to him before marriage, whether it's shouting for warmth or flirting, you have to recover so that he feels your attention to him again, so that he won't go outside to find comfort.

But if none of these tricks work, you need to let him know

You are not a substitute, but his explosives, to make him understand that you are a living man, not a tool man.

If there are children between the husband and wife, the divorced man will definitely go to his ex-wife.

The child is the common "concern" of the husband and wife, if the child follows the mother, when the child wants to see his father, the divorced man will go to see his ex-wife for the child; If the child lives with the father and the child wants to see his mother, the divorced man will also take the child to his ex-wife. After all, the two of them have their own baby children, and it is also reasonable to go to their ex-wives for the sake of the children.

There are no children between the husband and wife, and a divorced man does not look for his ex-wife.

If the couple has no children when they divorce, the two of them have nothing to worry about, and if they really still have the slightest idea of wanting to be together, they will not go to the step of divorce. Well, a divorced man will not go to his ex-wife. Once separated, the relationship between the two people will end, and they can go to each other.

Men are more rational in handling things.

There is a kind of love called "letting go".

In our lives, there are very few couples who become friends after divorce. There was once a song "There is a kind of love called letting go", but as everyone knows, it has been sung in the hearts of many couples who have broken up. Since they choose to divorce, there is really no need for two people who have no children to go to each other and disturb each other's lives.

Even if you love each other very much, you can't make the other person feel uncomfortable because of some of your thoughts.

After the divorce, two people who love each other are more suitable to be familiar strangers

After the divorce, everyone has to move on with their lives and also find another partner. For the sake of their partner, the ex-wife and ex-husband are more suitable to be familiar strangers, and even if they live in the same building, the two can pretend not to know each other. After all, he or she belongs to the past tense, and it will not end well to continue to dwell on it.

In short, I personally think that after the divorce, whether there are children or not, a man should not go to his ex-wife if he has nothing to do. Give yourself and others some space to be better.

Maybe, if the divorce is caused by him, and he doesn't find a more suitable partner after the divorce, he will go to his ex-wife.

If two people have a very bad quarrel when they divorce, I think it is impossible to find their ex-wife again, and if they break up peacefully, they may still go to their sister.

I think a divorced man may go to his ex-wife because after the divorce he may find that the early stage is the best.

What is the psychology of a person who is divorced and thinks about his ex-husband in everything?

1. I hope that one day I can be reunited.

After some women divorce their husbands, they will die of old age and do not get along, thinking that they should draw a line with each other. But some women are still thinking about the future as before, including their ex-husband's work, life, and relatives, all of whom are taken care of, and those who don't know the truth think that they are not divorced. This situation is because women still have a place for their ex-husbands in their hearts, and because of the last resort, the two chose to break up, and after that, women have been reluctant to re-establish a family, hoping that when everything is over, the two can clear the clouds and choose to remarry.

2. Don't let your child be wronged with her ex-husband.

If two people have children in common, and the children live with their fathers, then in the hearts of women, there will be more concerns. Women will think that they owe their children too much and can't be with them all the time, and in order to make up for their apologies, they will take care of their ex-husband's family, but they are actually taking care of the children. Women also hope that they have a high status in the minds of their children, even if their parents are divorced, their love for their children will not decrease, so that when the children grow up, they will not forget themselves and will not be alienated from themselves, which is also the selfishness of women, which is understandable.

3. Treat each other as familiar and good friends, and take care of each other.

Many couples break up not because of a broken relationship, but because of personality or family reasons, and a breakup is a better ending. Therefore, many women will think that since they can't be husband and wife, they can become good friends and care about each other everywhere. However, sometimes, women should also change their concepts, after all, both people have their own lives, and if they interfere too much in each other's lives, it will affect each other, and it will also cause unhappiness among the ex-husband and his new family, so it is necessary to maintain a certain sense of boundary with the ex-husband.

This shows that I still think about my ex-husband, I still want to get back together with my ex-husband, and I still love my ex-husband, so I think about my ex-husband.

I think he probably loves his ex-husband very much, so he thinks about him everywhere, or maybe he is very kind, so he involuntarily thinks about the other party.

Such a person may still like the psychology of the other person. And they want to get back together with each other, but the relationship between the two has come to an end.

Such a person still likes the other party in his heart, is afraid that the other party will suffer, and is still looking forward to the other party being able to turn back.

I don't have any feelings in my heart, after all, the two of them have separated, and there is no need to care too much about my ex-wife's affairs, I don't feel that it has much to do with me.