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Before getting the certificate, he was asked to make three promises. First, can you last a lifetime and be good to you (he definitely said yes.) Second, ask him to tell him how to secure your life plan in the future (a man who has no plan, would you dare to marry him?).

The third question is to him, how much do you love me now, and what is the love between us? (The answer is: love = persistence) If he fulfills the three promises, you can fake it to her.

Remember: men's promises are fake. The important thing is that the third question cannot be answered by ordinary people.

In fact, two people can get married if they are suitable, don't think too much. It was very decidative to promise to live with a man for the rest of his life. This is the marriage syndrome of most women.

Originally, I didn't want to teach you to test him, but I saw that he was talking too extremely, so I broke up if I didn't agree. Can't he be tactful, so three promises to teach you.

If you have been dating for more than 3 months, it means that both parties have a certain understanding and understanding. At this time, it depends on whether you are sure that he is your final choice. But seeing that you are still very dependent on him, it is still okay to get engaged.

I guess that's what it means. If it's because of such a trivial matter, then divide it. A man is small-minded, low-minded, and very childish.

This guy is a bit naïve.

It doesn't seem like your family is satisfied

Are you ready to get married?

Generally, there will be this kind of two-choice man.。。 It's usually not very reliable.

The choice he gave was either to marry him or break up.

After that, suppose you and he have a conflict with the gift money? Either less cash or break up? Either what, or what?

Can such a precedent be set? Can you get used to this kind of thing?

He has a weak heart, and all the men who have been hurt are like that.

First, you have reached the point where you are talking about marriage. It is very important to prove that you have a certain emotional foundation, and that the emotional foundation is relatively stable. In addition, both families are optimistic about each other.

Relying on your emotional foundation and the support of both families, you can overcome many difficulties and solve many problems.

<> the second is what makes you hesitate, or what makes you hesitate to knot, whether you want to make it clear directly, but also communicate with your partner or your parents, if you have this problem, or have something on your mind to solve, then you can solve this problem, make your emotions more persistent and more mellow, which will be of great help to your marriage.

I believe that by communicating with your partner or your own parents, they will support you, and their support will be a great motivation for you to go beyond this hesitation and make a decisive decision.

When you make a decision that is supported by the people closest to you, you will not regret it, which will be of great help to your happy life in the future, so hesitation, not a good state, you will directly face the problem to solve the problem, or make your feelings more firm, or if it is an irreversible, or has broken through the bottom line of the problem, do not hesitate to break it.

It shows that love is only to the point of talking about marriage! It may also be that you are afraid that some things after marriage are not as good as before marriage, and after marriage, the relationship between husband and wife is not a lover, and there is also a relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

Wait, if you love each other, it's not a problem! Have a good chat with your boyfriend, talk about his career and future development direction, talk about what you are worried about and afraid of, and tell him whether you love him or like it, only you can understand! Let's talk about it and give both parties time to think about it!

To knot or not to knot? Hesitation will make you all miserable! Face it bravely!

At this time, it is recommended not to get engaged first, first to determine whether the two parties are in love, and if you are considering the matter of engagement, if you find that you don't love each other or the other party doesn't love you after the engagement, your future life will be unpleasant.

You should take the initiative to ask the other party, and you can also look at the other party's actions and small details in life, if the other party cares about themselves in life, it means that the other party likes themselves very much.

You can test each other in some ways, and if the other person can really give for you sincerely, then you can marry the other person, because the other person loves you very much.

You can communicate with your boyfriend and explain some things clearly, so that you can make his mind clearer and make the next judgment.

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I had talked about one before, also for four years, and I was going to get married, but I parted on the night of the engagement. At that time, I felt very sorry, very reluctant, very painful, very uncomfortable. But now I am glad that I am separated, because I know very well that even if I get married, I will get divorced.

Because of many, many factors, and at the same time he didn't love me very much.

I'm more used to being with him, he's used to my goodness, I'm used to his presence. The scariest thing in this world is habit, and the most vulnerable thing is also habit. There is no affection between us.

He still worked after the separation, I still worked and lived, and after a while, I got used to not having him. I started to find things to do on my own, and then slowly learned to travel on my own, go to the supermarket by myself, cook by myself, read books by myself, and play with myself.

I've been single for a year, and I've been through a lot and seen a lot through this year. I'm glad I got better and better because I got away from him, because after I left him, I met a lot of people, all kinds of people, and I slowly learned how to observe a person, how to understand a person. It's more about how to get along with these people and not let yourself be too sharp.

If you don't want to get married, then separate as soon as possible, if you continue to settle, maybe one day you will really separate, and eventually divorce, at that time no matter what you do, there will be limitations, and you are different now, you can do anything. Whether it's going out to play, or working, or reconnecting with someone who is more suitable, it's all good. So if you really want to separate, then separate!

Isn't there a saying that when you want to separate, the psychology has planted seeds that will slowly sprout and grow. So if separation is predestined, it's too early. If there is fate, they can still be together.

1. Give time to think about the issues between you.

If this relationship has exhausted each other and made trouble to the point where you have to break up, if he really wants to be free and want to be alone and quiet, then you can let him go. Don't let your reluctance become a shackle between the two people, and make the relationship between the two people more rigid. In fact, sometimes, what you need is a time to think about each other's problems, and sometimes, a breakup is not necessarily the end, but it can also be a new beginning.

Give him a quiet space and give himself a little time to think about his problems. Want to understand, is this relationship worth saving, or can you just give up? If you don't want to redeem it, then start your life well and wait for another encounter with love.

2. Analyze the solution to the problem.

What caused your love to go in crisis? Internal or extrinsic causes? What caused the conflict between you to explode completely?

Also, now, you are tired of each other's attitudes, and you are still unilaterally resistant. Even if he says he broke up, does he still have feelings for you?

This is very important, if it gets to the point of breaking up, but you still don't understand the problem between you, just say, "I'm so good, why doesn't he want me?" "Then it can only mean that love can't help.

You must know that these problems will be the gap between your love, turning a blind eye is just covering your ears and stealing the bell, when one day the accumulated problems will explode, there may be no room for redemption between you.

3. You have to understand what he wants.

Love is not blindly self-righteous, as the ancients said: "Do not do to others what you do not want to be done to yourself." Now someone added:

Do what you want, be cautious to others" is the truth, don't impose on others what you don't like, even if it's something you like, be cautious when recommending it to others, don't impose it on others. No one likes what is imposed on them, even if it's just a "I'm for your good" excuse. Therefore, you have to be clear about what the other person wants and what they are pursuing, respect the other person's wishes, and do what you should do.

4. You have to make him understand what you want.

Love is never a one-person thing. So, on the basis of respecting his wishes, you might as well express your own thoughts, no one wants to guess what others think. So, you might as well express your wishes directly to him.

Tell him what you think, respect each other and grow together.

5. Communicate calmly.

Wait until your sanity is back to start talking, and don't smell gunpowder, that will only make the problem worse. Your attitude towards the relationship between you is very important, and the attitude will directly affect the outcome between you. So, correct your attitude, tell him what you think, listen to his attitude, put all the problems in front of the two of you.

Then, if possible, work together to solve your problems.

Personally, I firmly disagree, because it is disrespectful to you, if he insists on doing this, then you should consider whether to take the next step, so I advise you that if he still insists on going his own way, then it is better to cut the mess quickly and the long pain is better than the short pain.

Hello, after reading your description, I think girls should be clean and self-conscious, don't have sex in advance, otherwise they will lose the initiative in front of boys, if two people love deeply, it is understandable that it is difficult to control the occurrence of love in the depths, this kind of initiative request, but also in the case that the woman does not agree, it means that the relationship between the two people has not reached a certain point, so girls still have to protect themselves, don't let the scumbag take advantage of the void.

This kind of person is not worth entrusting for life, not to mention it, he is still relatively strong, this kind of person does not need to give him a chance, let him stay where he goes.

Such a man doesn't really love you, just to get your body, so it's better to give up.

It doesn't happen, especially when someone else insists and you don't want to. No one will give up their lover because of this opposition, unless the other person does not love or does not love enough. As for worries about health and health, going to the hospital for a check-up can also be solved. Girl, hold on to your insistence.

There's nothing wrong with this, what's wrong is that he repeatedly makes tasteless requests, and he makes so many requests, to put it bluntly, he is a mother's boy, and he reports everything to the family, which is not good, even if you are together, there will be divorce later, and his parents don't like you.

From your point of view, when you ask such a question, you already feel in your own heart that what he has done and proposed is not right. Follow your heart's thoughts. Feelings are good when they grow and develop together, and there is no compromise that must be obedient to the will of others.

Stop your losses in time, there's nothing wrong with what you're doing. When you reflect on whether things are right or wrong, the other person may only feel that you are at fault, and it is only right for such a person to leave as soon as possible.

You're right, girls should learn self-esteem and self-love, and if a man really loves you, then he should follow your wishes and should not force you.

Keep yourself clean and stay away from right and wrong.

It's better to think carefully, such a man may not necessarily marry you in the future.

Then it's not like he is engaged, this is absolutely not compromised, you are too scumbag, if you say that it is okay before marriage, before you get engaged, it only means that you are too scum.

There are conflicts between couples that can be resolved, but if they don't respect each other, it is difficult to have a harmonious life! My advice is: you are not suitable, long pain is better than short pain, and breaking up now is not necessarily a bad thing!!

Trying to marry before marriage is a very normal behavior, and you can't let a man do something that doesn't have a backbone.

But you also have to have your own limits, but as long as you love each other, you can tolerate each other and give up some of them.

Follow your heart, don't redeem it if you block it, otherwise he will have a shadow!

I think this boy is very bad, he has been calculating, it's really unnecessary, sisters break up soon!

It mainly depends on whether you like each other, and whether he wants to marry you for a clear purpose.

Since you took the initiative to chase him, after confirming the relationship, why are you reluctant to let him sleep with you?

Either refuse or agree! If you're afraid, say no.

I think you should take the initiative to ask your boyfriend why he did it, and if it's because he doesn't like it, ask him to apologize for you and leave in style.

Personally, I think it's actually a good thing to break up after getting engaged, at least if you don't break up after getting married, then it's a divorce, and it's even more difficult to end at that time.

If your boyfriend chooses to break up with you at this time, it means that he really doesn't love you, so you just agree.