What if there were mothers who would harm their children?

If a parent hurts his child, it means that the parent has no love for his child, no family affection, and in his eyes, he is already a ruthless person.

So if this is the case, in addition to the persuasion of the relevant personnel, the child can only be entrusted to other departments, other corresponding management of the child's relevant unit, because there are corresponding laws and regulations to stipulate that if the child is subjected to domestic violence, it can be reported accordingly, or complained, so there are really mothers who will hurt their children. That means that the mother no longer has the right to raise the child.

I met such a mother, my father married the wrong mother and ruined our three generations, as a result, my father and eldest brother died because of her illiteracy, selfishness, and inability to distinguish between right and wrong, the eldest son died at the age of 28, she didn't even go to see each other for the last time, and two pillars of the family died, but she didn't wake up at all, and the eldest daughter-in-law and grandson sued her for the house. In the past ten years, he has still had a dispute with me. No matter how good I am to her, I still scold me for being unfilial and dying early, I am really powerless and helpless in the face of her, the moral kidnapping of the world crushes me and I often commit suicide and want to see my father and brother.

Alas! If it weren't for the fact that my son was still young and suffering from severe depression, I really wanted to change people like her by dying. My son and her little grandson are disgusted with her, not to mention the two daughters-in-law.

Alas! I live so helplessly, helplessly, and lonely, and it is too difficult for me to improve this family and put the family members on the right track. Time and time again, I have lost sight of the hope of family harmony.

Some mothers will also kill their children, and in this case, the sentence is usually lenient.

Then which mother's child has driven herself to the ...... of nowhere

There must be a reason for that

1.Ignore the child.

It is terrible for a mother who ignores her children, this kind of mother is obsessed with the things she likes, and does not care about her children, and even more so does not care about the life or death of her children. This is not alarmist, such mothers are not in the minority.

2.Complaining all day long.

This kind of mother spreads negative energy all day long, sighs and complains all day long, and not only does not restrain her children, but instead intensifies, and likes to complain to her children. The child will be full of fear of the outside world and become negative and negative. and a sense of avoidance, rejection of contact with the outside world.

In particular, the mother's remarks about the child who is inferior to anyone will sting the child's self-esteem, make them lose confidence, and have low self-esteem and sensitivity.

3.Grumpy.

This type of mother is anxious and loses her temper from time to time. He often has violent arguments with the child's father, and sometimes takes his temper out on the child, yelling at the child, and even physically punishing the child.

4.Bind children with filial piety.

The traditional fixed concept makes us accustomed to everything related to filial piety, don't always kidnap children in the name of filial piety, and talk about filial piety every day, which will cause pressure and burden to children.

5.Always tell about your hard work.

Children need living expenses, but if the mother gives money, add a sentence "This is all my hard-earned money, you can't spend it indiscriminately." "After a long time, children will have low self-esteem, and some time ago, two college students committed suicide because they owed 10,000 yuan to others, and it was because of this kind of words from their parents that they were too stressed.

6.A mom who loves to swear.

If you listen to someone swearing, the child may not feel anything, but if his mother swears, it will really make the child uncomfortable.

7.Mom smoking in front of her child.

Many women also smoke and smoke regularly, and children are prone to bronchitis and pneumonia, and the incidence is directly proportional to the mother's degree of smoking. If the mother smokes during the child's meal, it is easy to affect the child's appetite and induce the child's anorexia.

8.Too much control.

Some mothers are too controlling. No matter what, you have the final say on your own, and you don't respect your child's ideas. A mother who is too controlling will be too majestic, which will invisibly put pressure on the child and have a bad impact on the intimate relationship between the mother and the child.

9.Mom who always looks at her phone.

The mother ignores the child because of the mobile phone, which is undoubtedly a kind of cold violence, and the child will feel that the mother is perfunctory and naturally does not want to communicate with her. Parent-child communication is hindered, and the child's personality will become withdrawn and autistic. Many of the children's behaviors are imitated by their parents.

10.A mother who abandons her child after giving birth.

This kind of mom is the most terrifying. When the child is young, without the company of the mother, the child is likely to have low self-esteem, immerse himself in his own world, and without the protection of the mother, the child will be bullied.

Strong narcissism leads to a strong desire for control, leading us to live in the illusion that "I can control everything". If a man really has the power to be able to control everything within his own sphere of power, then he loses respect for the will of others and strikes with impunity against all who do not submit to his illusions.

That's why it's easy for parents to hurt their children. At home, parents who have various resources such as financial power, voice and power can easily indulge in the illusion that "I can control everything", and the desire to control their children will reach its peak. Consciously, they will love their children very much and want to dedicate themselves to them, but in fact, it is difficult for them to see the real existence of their children, and as a result, the more they want to love their children, the easier it is to deny their children's independent will.

Many parents are accustomed to critical moments such as going to school, work, and marriage.

Interfere in your child's affairs and don't let your child make choices according to his own volition. They will consciously say that this is a critical moment, that the child's life experience is insufficient, and that their experience is important; But subconsciously.

It's not like that at all. Subconsciously, what they are really worried about is the feeling of losing control: the fear that the child will become a real, independent person with independent will and independent judgment, and the fear that the child's development trajectory is no longer under their control.

Excerpt from "Why the More You Love, the Lonelier".