In ancient times, when etiquette was strict, what were the taboos for married women when they return

As one of the four ancient civilizations, China has a history of 5,000 years and is also a famous country of etiquette. In ancient times, women were disciplined very strictly, and we all know that women have to return to the door once after getting married, and in ancient times, they attached great importance to returning to the door for the first time after marrying. There are also many taboos for women to return to the door, such as the time to return to the door, women can not stay overnight after returning to the door, and they cannot touch pots and spoonsLet's take a closer look at these rules.

1.Women usually return to the door in the second year of junior high school, but not in the first year of junior high school

We all know that in ancient times in our country and even now the New Year has to be reunited, that is, the girl who marries out is the water that is spilled out is no longer her own family, so you have to stay in your husband's house for the New Year, the first day of the new year is just the day of reunion, and the woman has been married to her husband's family, so naturally she can't go back to her mother's house. If you go back to your parents' house, you can't reunite your husband's family. You can't go back to the door on the day of the festival.

In ancient times, there was such a custom as sacrificial stoves, which represented people's good wishes to ward off evil spirits and eliminate disasters and welcome new blessings. At that time, there was a saying that "men do not worship the moon, and women do not worship the stove". Therefore, a woman cannot sacrifice to the stove, so it will be a mistake to return to the door on the day of the sacrifice.

2.After the woman returned to the door, she could not touch the pot or spoon

In ancient times, there have been feudal superstitious sayings such as "touching the pot to kill the mother-in-law" and "burning the son-in-law to death", which is the same as what we now say "shaving the head and killing the uncle in the first month". Although there is no scientific basis, at that time of feudalism, I believed in this folk saying. So when I heard more, the woman would pay extra attention to these things when she returned to the door.

3.On the day the daughter returns to the door, the mother's family will invite the male of the family to the husband's house to greet her, and the homecoming banquet will be set at noon

In ancient times, when a woman returned to the door, it was to report safety to her mother's family, and it was also a time to show her status in her mother's and husband's family. On the day of returning home, the mother's family will send the brother of the mother's family to take the girl back to the door. In this way, it shows the importance that the mother's family attaches to her daughter, so that the husband's family can also see the status of the woman and treat him better.

Second, because the woman is a guest since she is married, she is greeted by her mother's family to indicate that the invitation is not to go back for no reason. The third is to let the in-laws not let the daughter-in-law return to the door on the grounds that the daughter-in-law needs to help at home. And women generally return to the door at noon, because they can't spend the night in their mother's house, there are many ancient feudal legends, and the folk say that if the daughter eats until dark, her mother's family will eat poor.

So they would end the party early so that their daughter could go back before the sun went down. If the two are far apart, it is possible to stay overnight.

In ancient times, before a woman returned to her parents' home, she had to show that her in-laws had permission to return, and she generally had to bring a maid or her husband to follow, and if she wanted to stay for a few days, she also needed to get permission in advance.

There are clear rules on the time to return to her parents' home, especially on the New Year, when a woman must return to the door after the second day of junior high school, otherwise she will take away her mother's fortune, and if she returns with her husband, she cannot sleep in the same bed and must be separated.

On the first day of the first lunar month, you can't go back to your parents' house, you can't end the pot and spoon after returning to your parents' house, and you can't sleep with your husband after returning to your parents' house, otherwise it will be unlucky.

1. You can sleep with your husband.

Now people don't pay so much attention to it, going back to their parents' house is going back to their own home, of course, sleeping with their husbands, do they have to sleep separately?

In fact, the family used to be poor, there were only a few rooms in total, and the family was not enough to sleep, and the son-in-law (the son-in-law was an outsider) came, and it was not good to collapse in the same house, and over time it was rumored that the son-in-law could not sleep with his daughter when he stayed overnight.

Now there are many rooms, and daughters and sons-in-law have separate rooms, so they can live together.

At home, my father cleaned up a house for us and waited for my husband and me to come home for a few days.

2. Don't sleep together.

For people who are deeply rooted in old concepts, we should also give them a certain amount of respect, and don't make everyone unhappy because of this little thing.

They think that when their daughter is married, they are a foreign family, and the husband and wife will bring bad luck to their mother's family when they go home to rest in the same bed. The traditional concept is more conservative, and there is even more prejudice against women, so resting in the same bed in the mother's house is regarded as''Shame on you'', known by others, will suffer criticism and jokes.

In fact, these are all old feudal, not worth believing. But in order to avoid unnecessary conflicts, it is nothing to be separated from your husband for one night. You can't fight with your family just to get some sleep.

In short, now many people don't have these particularities, and if they don't pay attention to them, they are casual, and they are willing to talk to their mothers and sleep with their mothers. If you are willing to be with your husband, you will be together.

If the old man in the family insists on not letting you be together, you don't need to mind too much, because you can't change the concept of the old man, then go with his will. Anyway, you won't be able to stay for a few days, so don't hurt your family's harmony for this.

If the average married daughter goes back to live in her parents' house, it is the first 1 and 15th well, don't live in her parents' house, right? The rest of the time isn't a big taboo, right? There is also the Qingming Festival, for example, or the first day of October, this kind of day of burning paper for the deceased cannot go back to his parents' home.

Many married daughters are unable to celebrate the New Year at their parents' homes when they return to their parents' homes. You have to rent a house outside, and you can go back on the second day of the new year.

1. When you go back to your parents' house, avoid touching pots and spoons.

What are the taboos for marrying a daughter and returning to her parents' home.

2. It is not advisable to go back to your parents' house on the day of the stove.

In the Henan area, because women do not sacrifice to the stove, there is also a custom that it is not suitable to return to their parents' homes on the day of the sacrifice stove. Generally speaking, the bride should not go back to her parents' house for too long, and the time spent is too long, one is the wrong thing about her mother-in-law's house, and the other is the wrong thing about her mother's house. Many of the old customs are gradually forgotten today, so some of the ancient customs of returning to the mother's home can be understood.

3. Don't go back to your parents' house on the first day of the first month.

The first day of the first lunar month is the first day of the new year, which is the first day of the new year. The first day of the Lunar New Year is a festive day for family reunion, and according to traditional customs, many places prohibit married daughters from returning to their parents' homes on the first day of the Lunar New Year. Because in the concept of people in these areas, the married daughter is like water spilled out, and the husband's family needs to be reunited on the first day of the new year, and if she returns to her parents' house on the first day of the new year, it will cause the husband's family to not be reunited.

4. Miscellaneous. 1.The daughter who marries out can't sleep in the same bed with her husband when she goes back to her parents' house.

2.You can't sweep the floor at your parents' house during the Chinese New Year.

3.During the New Year or the fifteenth day at my mother's house, I have to go back to my mother-in-law's house before lighting the lamp at night, and I can't look at my mother's lamp.

4.The daughter who married out lived in her mother's house for a long time, which was not good for her brother's financial luck.

5.On the day I got married, I couldn't look back when I went out, and looking back meant that I would not have a good time in my in-law's house in the future, and I would eventually come back.

6.You can't confine yourself at your mother's house, or go back to your parents' house before confinement, which will attract bad luck.

Some places may not understand, some places may be different, if there are some places it may be okay to not let the couple sleep in the same bed together, but there are some places where you can also sleep in the same bed.

Customs. In ancient times, it was called "taboo", which means that women are not allowed to go out. Even in modern rural areas, it is not difficult for us to find that few married girls go back to their parents' homes to have a New Year's dinner.

Since ancient times, China has attached great importance to the Spring Festival, has a strong sense of ceremony, and the portion of the Chinese New Year's Eve dinner is very large, as the saying goes, "if you don't rush in a year, you will catch up with the Chinese New Year's Eve" is this reason. The ancients believed that if a woman passed through the door for the New Year in her mother's house, she would take away her mother's fortune, and if anything unfortunate happened, it would be considered that the woman would go home to cause trouble.

In addition, at the beginning of the first month of the first month of the ancient folk women.

If you want to be grounded on the first and second days of junior high school, you will think that "red face and trouble", and it is unlucky to see the female supporting person in the New Year, and even deprive women of the right to pay New Year's greetings.

In modern times, this custom has been basically broken, and the second day of the Lunar New Year is the "Huimen Day", commonly known as the "Son-in-law Day", on this day women can bring the whole family back to their parents' homes happily for the New Year.