What to do if you have a mother who often insults herself

It can be said that people are shaped by the environment, and at the same time, people are also transforming the environment itself.

If it was the wrong education of your parents that shaped your current personality when you were a child, then your current personality performance will determine the perception of you by the people around you, and their opinions in turn affect your personality. This is how the environment and people shape each other.

If you think that your mother still has a lot of influence on you, you can try to change her attitude towards you. Before you ask her, you should ask yourself to do something that will improve the relationship in order to facilitate the transformation. First, you can observe what your mother often criticizes about you.

At home, there are often small things, such as asking you to tidy up the room, asking you not to procrastinate, etc., as long as you can do these requirements, you should try to do it, and observe whether her attitude towards you has improved. Second, try to communicate with her, talk about your views on the change, ask for more affirmation, and promise yourself to change.

And, of course, she can't be expected to change all at once. A person's long-term behavior pattern is more difficult to change, for example, your mother may have a long-term habit of seeing your shortcomings and criticizing you first. For example, you may ignore your mother's praise for you and remember being hit with frequent criticism.

Be prepared for this long-term relationship change, which is relatively slow. But as long as it turns in a good direction, there's hope, right?

First of all, don't use insults like that, because there is no mother in the world who does not love her children. I can understand your situation, but you might as well think about it from your mother's point of view, maybe there are things that you can't accept or even tolerate in her words and methods of educating you, but they must be trying to make you better, because of the times they live in, they don't have a deep culture, their generation is actually very pitiful, and their relatives have nothing to tolerate. You can talk to them often, or you can tactfully bring up your ideas to them.

Don't be burdened with thoughts.

First of all, talk to your parents. Talk about this psychology of yours. If you find it impossible to change your parents. Then study hard. Concentrate on professional skills. You will be encouraged by others. Hehe. I wish you success.

Me too, they only see our shortcomings and never encourage us.

But people are encouraged.

Yes, what parents do is difficult for children to understand, distressed, and helpless.

Mom is a good mother, she is doing what she should do, she must be working hard, and she always endures some unhappy things by herself and puts her grievances in her stomach. You're older and you feel it, and that's good. You can help. One is to be kind to your mother, such as listening to your mother more.

Mom asks her to do everything she does hard and do it well, and try to do her own things (daily life, eating and drinking, studying and some housework, etc.), so as to worry less about her mother; the second is to pay attention to observe what it is about Mom that makes Dad dissatisfied; The third is to chat with my mother from time to time, and care about what my mother is thinking, what wishes, what difficulties there are, what unsatisfactory things are, and what opinions I have about my father. In this way, your mother will be proud of you and a source of happiness for her.

Dad has a lot of problems, but he still loves you, the question is what is wrong with him, making him so conflicted and so capricious? What you can do is: often tell him that you have made progress in your studies, talk to him often about your learning feelings, and show your learning momentum and results in a big show at home, so that he can feel that you are a person with ideals and willing to work hard and be motivated; Whenever you have the opportunity, praise your mother for what she has done, and forgive her for her negligence, so that she feels that you are her strong backing; You don't know much about Dad's work, if he does, you listen carefully, occasionally praise his success, and tell him that it doesn't matter, everything will be fine; Listen carefully to Dad's other ideas, and express your opinions from time to time, so that he can feel that your family is united with the outside world, and life will always be better if you work together; Pay special attention to his dissatisfaction with his mother, what is the reason, if the mother is right and he is vexatious, if the mother does a small thing wrong, no matter what, you have to be calm, ask the father to step aside, you can repeatedly tell him "don't be angry, don't be angry" or "a small thing, a small thing.""When he was angry, he calmly told him, "You don't care about it when you're angry, do you want to admit your mistakes?"

You're swearing, aren't you? “"Apologize to your mother, do you dare? "Wait.

In short, first calm down the atmosphere, then talk calmly, it's okay if you don't say something, and then apologize, "Smile and enmity."

Hm. As for you, first of all, take care of yourself, be a positive person, a happy person, if you can do this, you will become a blender of parental relationships, so that the family is more harmonious and warmer. It doesn't matter if you can't do it, treat everything with a normal heart, do what you have to do, don't hurt yourself, and don't hurt your parents.

Have fun! Wishing you a happy family!

How to avoid quarrels between couples.

1. When the other party says cruel things to anger you, don't take it seriously. Because experts say that what people say when they are angry is not credible, and that is the most ruthless side of people. You can calm down first and listen carefully to what the other person has to say.

Then, whether you complain or not, at this time, admit that what he said about you is not right.

2. No matter how fierce the quarrel is, you must always remember that the other party is the person you love the most, and you must not say the word "break up". If you say it, you are torturing the other party, and you are also getting along with yourself.

Because there are many couples who regret breaking up just because they are angry.

3. No matter how bad the mood is, you must smile when you see your lover. Otherwise, when he or she senses that you are in a bad mood, he or she will definitely wonder if he or she has done something wrong. Then their good mood will also deteriorate.

4. After quarreling with the other party, no matter how fierce you were just now, you must apologize to the other party. If the other person doesn't say yes, apologize until the other person forgives you. In fact, after a quarrel, many couples will anxiously wait for the other party to apologize to them.

5. When the two parties quarrel, it is common for one party to get angry and leave, and it is wrong for the party who stays to think that the party who has left ignores him. If the other side of the walk comes back and says good things to you, and you are still angry, then it is your fault. Because the other party will not walk away if he is not angry.

6. When the other party communicates with you, you must wait for the other party to explain his personal meaning clearly, before you can express your personal opinion.

7. The previous things are in the past, don't think that you have to hold on to some things about the other party, as long as the other party is a little disobedient to your own wishes, repeat it countless times in front of the other party, you have to understand that you are uncovering the other party's scars, which seriously affects the emotional development of both parties.

8. It is a good way to recall some beautiful and happy things in the love period, so that each other's feelings for each other can be revisited, so that the feelings will heat up more quickly, and there will naturally be a lot less quarrels, which is a good way.

9. When there is a disagreement between each other, one party can also say some humorous words to make the other party have to laugh, which can also ease the quarrel between each other, and let the space full of gunpowder suddenly relax a lot because of their jokes.

This can only be a persuasion, and you have to set an example yourself, have your own certain statement, after the status, you can say to your father, let him teach by example.